What kind of things can you say/do that will actually be of comfort to a guy who is upset?

Question

I hear guys don't like the same things we girls do.

So if you know one who's dealing with something pretty tough, how can you help him out?

Answer 1

just be supportive and listen to him with whatever tough time hes going through. offer some kind words. and say its all right to call you if he needs anything.

Answer 2

Don't say anything, listen instead.

Answer 3

Guys don't usually like to cry. They think that they aren't as "manly" when they cry. Try to say something like, "It's ok. Everyone cries sometimes" Sometimes they don't want to talk about it, so maybe say, "It's ok. I love you." So they know that someone cares. Other times, they just need somebody to give them a hug, so they know that they are still loved. So don't say anything, just listen, or just hug, kiss, or any sign of care. Hope this helps, and I hope that that certain guy feels better. :)

Answer 4

Be with him and talk to him, this isa good time to express your feelings and be affectionate.

When i was in a car crash i was in shock and my girl spent the night with me until i slept, made me feel a lot better.

Answer 5

Buy him a beer or two and give him the remote and let him scratch his nuts.

He'll be fine.

Answer 6

Well when I'm going through a rough time. I really think the best thing to do, Is give him space but let him know that you are there and if he needs comfort your only a step away. :D

Answer 7

they are humans and they can talk and talk to him and be there for him. its sad sometimes and they do cry and maybe he does need to cry and let his hair down just sit there and help him out or sort through it.

Answer 8

well i have found that a lot of guys kinda just need someone to hug when why are upset theyre not like girls and don't want to talk about why they are upset so just knowing that someone cares helps them

Answer 9

it just depend on the guys' personality and what is it that cause he upset

but generally if you want to share your care you can just tell him straight that no matter what the problem is i am here to support you .

Answer 10

you like this guy sexually  that's why you want to be with him trying to help him hahahahahahaha

Answer 11

Sometimes you don't have to say anything - just listen.

Answer 12

When my boyfriend is feeling low, I just make sure that I'm around if he does need to talk.  Also, while guys don't always want the hugs of comfort like many girls do, my guy likes to be shown that I care about his problems through other means, such as making him supper when he's stressed or just giving him space to figure stuff out.

Answer 13

You're right. Guys don't process the same that girls so. While girls take comfort in talking it out, guys tend to retreat into their safe place or cave. and usually want to be alone, doing something totally unrelated to the problem.

So there's number of options. You can let him be alone and not bug him about it.  You can just be with him without demanding that he talk it out.  Just be present with him so he knows you're for him.  You can offer to go to a ball game and get him away from whatever the problem is.  Either way, let him know that you know he's facing some tough times and you're not going to walk out on him, no matter what.

Answer 14

Try "Wanna have s*x?"

Answer 15

when my husband is upset...mad/sad i just tell him to tell me what happend..what can we/he do. I dunno that works for me try to get what he feels out h**l feel better and h**l want to come to you next time because he knows you will listen and understand him.

Answer 16

Take him out and buy him several.... drinks, actually the most you will be able to do is just listen he may spill his gut or not!

Answer 17

i heard that we shouldnt ask them whats wrong cuz thats usally whats bothering them or sumthing

i think if they want to talk to us they should just ask us to listen and not tell anyone...its that simple

i trust all of my friends and i let them know that they can come to me too...maybe you should just let them know that they can come to you about anything that they need help with

good luck

Answer 18

Take him down the pub and let him spill his guts with a beer?

Answer 19

My son told me he once knew this girl who was in a car accident & glass went all over her. This for some reason made him realize that even though we were going through something this poor girl was really in trouble so maybe telling him something that can show in contrast what ever he is going through can be worst. Not in a way that puts down what he is experiencing but just a look to something else helps sometimes.

Answer 20

The best thing you can say is "I'm here for you" and leave it at that. Actions speak louder than words, so if you can manage, run out and grab him his favorite food or dessert. Maybe bring two spoons and share it together. If there's anything I've learned about guys, it's that when they're upset they don't want to chit chat. They just want a shoulder to lean on until they can get back on their feet.  

Answer 21

the best thing to do usually is to leave him alone and after a while keep him company, do not mention his troubles unless he comes to you for advice.  ask him if he wants anything, but not right away do that after a while as well

Answer 22

just say that im here for you

call me anytime you want

just talk to me

and give him hugs

Answer 23

Guys are usually harder to talk about their problems. So, think of something they enjoy, for example my hubby loves cars!! So, when I see that he's down I start asking him questions about cars like which ones are cool, I might even go on youtube.com to check out cars. Just think of something they love, that they won't mind talking about or seeing and that will get them going. Good luck :)