What level of trust do you have married folk?

Question

Trust is obviously a big issue among many marriages with all the divorce and what not around, so i'm curious about what level of trust all of you have?

Can your significant other have friends that are of the opposite s*x?

Do you trust them to have ANY kind of friend male or female and go out every now and then?

Is subtle flirting allowed (nothing to the point they're having verbal s*x, but playing around with people they're not interested in at all just for the fun of it.)?

If anything just how much do you trust your significant other PERIOD......just your thoughts on the subject.

Answer 1

Respect, Trust, and Trustworthiness are things that are earned in a relationship. It is one of the pillars of a marriage that must be in place. It can also be the most fragile. If someone  flirts, even innocently, they are abusing their respect and trust, not earning it. A person earns the right of having a friend of the opposite s*x by earning the respect and trust of their partner to be comfortable with that friendship.

How much do I trust and respect my wife? Totally.

Yea this is hard line. Yea this is harsh. But I've been married 31 years, and this is how we work things. and we only look forward to 31 more, and then some.

Answer 2

I trust my husband completely.  I have no doubt that he always has been, and will continue to be faithful to me.  We've been together 13 years, married 9, and I've never had reason to doubt him.  He hasn't had a steady female friend through the entire course of our relationship, but has had a couple female friends in the past several years.

Most of his female friendships developed from his return to college as he attempted a career change.  His schooling for vascular ultrasound meant that he spent a couple hours, several nights a week, scanning (in some pretty personal areas) younger, thinner and admittedly more attractive women.  I never doubted him.

I think that in a mutually respectful relationship that both parties understand the limits that their partner can handle.  I can't handle much, and he knows that, respects that, and doesn't flirt with other women.  He's much more reserved that me, so any flirting that he may do would not be "natural" for him.  I, on the other hand, walk around calling people hot lips & honey buns.  It's my personality.  He knows that & is comfortable with it.

Answer 3

I trust my husband completely. I'm sure I would know if I couldn't and he has never given me reason to not trust him. He knows he can trust me too.

Answer 4

i trust him 100%. he could be in the Playboy mansion and i know he wouldnt cheat.

Answer 5

Ok. My husband and I are not of the norm. I really don't care if he has friends of the opposite s*x, checks out other women or even flirts (as long as its harmless, of course!). He has gone out many times with just the guys (both do the bar and BBQ's). We just trust each other very much. We both know we are married and not dead. Human nature is human nature and I don't think that keeping someone caged and censored is going to help your relationship. Let each other be the person that you married and not change them.