What made having kids worth it to you? Or was it worth it?

Question

I'm 18 and my mother recently told me that having kids isn't worth it. She didn't mean it in a bad way, trust me. Obviously I have a lot of growing up to do and a lot of time to figure out whether I believe that or not. I'd just like to hear about you're experiences or opinions even if you don't have kids. Thanks to everyone who responds.

Answer 1

It depends on who you are and what you want out of life.  If you meet the right person and have a great relationship, children are a blessing.  Children can be a blessing to single parents and split up parents too.  I wouldn't have children until I felt mature enough as a person and had a good job with security and a home for my baby.  I am 26 and I've been with my husband for the last 9 years (married 5) and we have a 21 month old daughter and a baby due in 6 weeks.  My life is at it's happiest and I seriously couldn't imagine it getting any better, unless I won the lottery LOL.  Life is what you make it and what you put into it!

Answer 2

It makes everything harder, your life is no longer your own. It is also the most rewarding and amazing thing you can experience. I think it makes life worthwhile having kids. It gives you something to really live for. I mean I guess for some people having peace and quiet, being able to go out whenever they want, and having a career is ideal. For me, it is my kids, they are my life. My world may be chaotic but it is also fulfilling. I wouldn't trade it for ANYTHING.

Answer 3

Well I went through h**l from the day I found out I was pregnant, and well things haven't gotten that much better (I am speaking about her father, what he has done) but, even through all the drama and tears and painful things that have happened I feel it was ALL worth it.  Just seeing my daughter smile at me or hug me makes me feel like no matter what I went through it was worth all the pain and struggling.  I see how much my daughter loves me and it feels good to know that someone loves you so unconditionally.  Now, when shes a teenager, ask me this question again and I may give you a different answer lol

Answer 4

I think it is worth it. It is the greatest GIFT in the world. I don't think of it as a responsibility and I think that was a terrible thing for your mother to say. It is worth it and it is a beautiful thing. I can't wait to see my kids when they are way older and have their own kids it will be amazing! and then having grandkids!!!! I love being a mother.

Answer 5

Once my baby smiled at me. That's when it became rewarding. But, it's always been worth it!

Answer 6

It is, but at the same time isn't.

I'm fifteen, so basically I had to throw my entire life out the window to care for my daughter when I found out my girlfriend was pregnant. (She left my daughter and I after two months.) But then again, looking at my daughter and remember that she's the person that I live for and that I'd die for. Sure, it's hard and it sucks like b*tch having to say no to everyone when they're going out to the movies or bowling or just plain stupid stuff because I have to work or watch Rachel (my daughter.) But with a baby comes all of those responsibilites.

So for me, it's a yes and a no.

Answer 7

I am about to be 18 this december i am 17 right now and i already have a 5 month old and let me tell you it is not easy! Im sure you're mom did not mean what she said in a bad way because i have also heard my mom say that before. I don't think it's hatred against us it's just that before you ever have kids you view things so differently. You don't have the knowledge what it is to be a parent, or the responsibities that come with it i hear this 12 year olds or 13 etc here on yahoo talking about how they wish they were pregnant. I just wish they could see that it really is not easy. I am also young and as i dont regret my son I WISH i wouldve' waited. It is so hard to take care of a kid i cannot stress so much about the responsibiliites that come with it. Us teenagers now adays think everything is easy and that eveything in life comes easy, its only until you take the role of an adult that you really understand why they tell you the things they tell you. If they tell us not to have unprotected s*x is because they know exactly what their talking about if they tell us not to do something it is to their best knowledge that they have been though it and they experienced it. Now that  i know that i wish i wouldve waited until i was an adult to have kids. I think like a teenager yet still am obliged to think like an adult because i have a baby now and its not about me anymore. This sets you mind in a confusion state where you ask yourself what role you want to take. I love my son with all my heart yet sometimes i so wish i woudl've listened to m mother. A baby changes your life and the things that come with it too. I see where your mother was talking about. While i feel that her comment "having kids isn't worth it" i dont really agree with it but i understand why she would say it. Life is hard having a baby makes it harder.

Answer 8

She probably meant it like this: At your age, it's best not to have kids until you get more established in life. Have fun while you're young, get a good education and a good job. You'll gain great advantages from all the life experience that you gain and will be able to better support a family when you are older. I got pregnant when I was 18. My daughter is my world and I wouldn't trade her for anything. She's worth every second of my time and effort. But I have to admit it would have been better if I had waited because then I would be able to provide more for her from birth. It's hard to juggle work and a kid, even harder when you add college into the mix. So wait a while. You won't regret it.  

Answer 9

It is worth it. Having kids just brings out the best of you. You start loving yourself for that. Example: I would eat anything, even junk food. But now since I am breastfeeding her and she eats all that I eat and I know the bad effects of eating junk, I have started eating healthy. I will continue to do it because I want to set a good example. I am doing this for her benefit and in return I get good health. So even if you are a practical person and not at all emotional, it turns out to be a good deal. One more thing after having my daughter I have started praying more because i want her to believe in God. I want her to believe when she grows up that there is someone above all of us who takes care of the world. If you keep doing your work he will bless. So in all having my daughter has been worth it for me.

Hope the answer gave you something to think upon.

Answer 10

I know what you mean. My mother always said & continues to say she never wanted kids. I brush it off, I am 28 and have been hearing it for years. My child is everything to me. That is the reason for living. To have some little person rely on you and give you all those little kisses and hugs is worth it in my book. Oh and those smiles..esp the toothless ones! I live for that.