What made you decide to take your life back from abusive, incompetent parents?

Question

I know quite a few adults in their late 20's or early 30's who start to see their parents as humans rather than a role model/authority figure. Many realize that their parents psychologically and emotionally abused them and are still doing it.

Maybe your parents discouraged your aspirations and now you live with low self-esteem, an unsatisfying career; your actions based on fear and self-doubt. If this has happened to you, please describe what made you decide "enough!' and what gave you the strength to take your power back?

Answer 1

I Started "getting the power back" when I was 15 I am 23 now and we get along great. My strength came from a desire to get  out of my parents house. My mom was kind of a control freak and it drove me crazy. I had all the time in the world ( because she grounded me all the time) to think about stuff. I finally started using logical psychological games against my parents to get what I wanted out of them. It worked.  

Answer 2

I think you hit the nail on the head yourself.

One day you realize they are a person,, another human being. Not just a role model/ authority figure.

I eventually "grew" up,, for some that takes longer then others with thoes parents lording over you. But they are just people not Gods & they dont "own" me. I begin to learn alot about my parents own childhood & abuses & after being so mad at them for so long I pitied them "both". One for the abuse the other for allowing it. And that was enough for me,, that was the end of the abuse loop snipped clean & dead.

My son knows his grandparents & I am civil to them. He will never be allowed to be unsupervised with them & any advise they give me on raising kids is kicked out with the trash. I have no self-doubt when I look at my son's eyes & smile, when I hear him laugh & giggle. I have all the strength in the world & I will give it to him to be a strong young healthy boy to live his life the way he would choose. I used to dream of having a Mommy that would. Now I am his. That is my strength.