What made you want to adopt?

Question

i am just woundering what made you want to adopt a baby..or child? this is just a random question. i would love to adopt a child because i hate seeing young children with out loving homes. i also wanna become a foster mom . but i wouldnt wanna let the children go. i belive all child deserve a loving famil...and home...how about you?

Answer 1

I adopted because I wanted to be a mom.

Answer 2

OMG. I agree with you but if you can, quickly move your question into another forum. This forum is infected with anti-adoption trolls. Be afraid, be VERY afraid.

PS. The "rest of us" would love to answer your question but we'll be tarred and feathered if we dare. At the risk of another false violation report, I wish you success.

I adopted because I love children, was ready to be a mom, volunteered in a Russian orphanage, and I couldn't conscientiously bring another human being into this already overpopulated planet.

Answer 3

I kindof have adopted I did because my mom died and had 5 kids left to take care of their max age is 10.I'm 24.Now i have 7 kids and 1 on the way!

Answer 4

I've always wanted to adopt, but never tried, after having difficult pregnancies and 1 terrible delivery we knew that more bio babes were out of the question. one day someone who knew that I was open to adopt connected me with someone who was wanting to abort (do to likely birth defects) and who wanted to give her baby a life, but didn't felt she couldnt't care for him. How could I refuse? He's perfect.

Answer 5

My son was adopted through foster care, his parents have also adopted two other children who were initially their foster kids. Foster care adoptions are awesome, ok mine wasn't, mine was a very screwy situation. His brother's adoption was a classic example though; Mom was an addict and a prostitute, he was born addicted to crack cocaine and has FAS, she tried to clean up her life for her child and wasn't able to. Social Services was called in after the baby was left alone for two days, he was 7 months old, while mom was out on a crack bender. He was in their home for 4 years before they adopted him. He is an amazing little guy (not so little now at almost 14 lol) and flourished in their care. I don't know much about their adopted daughter except she was brought into their home at 5 days of age with a broken hip and wrist, she was with them for almost 3 years before they adopted her. They are an emergency foster home and usually have up to 6 foster children at any given time, some for a few days or weeks and others for years. Fostering is an amazing thing when it is done for the right reasons. If it is handled ethically by the social workers and the foster parents it can mean all the difference in how a child grows up. Some of the kids leave, yes, but many are around for the long haul and you are usually given first "dibs" if the parent's rights are terminated.

Usually the only kids in North America who are truly without a loving home are those in care. Most newborn adoptions are very much wanted by their natural parents. Fostering can be hard and emotional but if you really want to help a child does it matter if the child is eventually reunited with his or her family? Many of the foster parents I know, including my Grandmother, have awesome relationships with the kids even after they are sent back home. Gran has a daughter who was never formally adopted but who she raised from 19 months on. This child went through two failed adoptions and Gran is the only mother she has ever really known. Thanks to my Gran this girl is a beautiful 20 year old mother herself. Thanks to my  Gran she was able to have a loving home to return to after these adoptions fell through and after her natural mom botched up a parenting plan for the second and then third time... Foster care can be amazing.

Answer 6

PLAIN AND SIMPLE..........I wanted to Parent

Answer 7

We adopted because we could not carry a baby to term. We lost 2.

  We had friends who adopted from China and told us about the process and after much thought and prayer, we just felt that is where our daughter was.

We now have 2 daughter, both from China. We love them with all our hearts.

we tried 2 domestic adoptions, both time the birthmoms backed out on us. International provided the security that no birthmom would be at our door asking for their child back.

Answer 8

We adopted for the same reasons you mention, besides the fact that we couldn't conceive.  We were preparing to go through all the fertility clinic stuff, with fairly good odds given us.  But at some point I stopped and said, "Hey, our kids are already out there somewhere!  We just need to find them!"  God led us to search in Russia (via the internet), where we found a pair of older siblings just recently placed in the orphanage, removed from their mother's home because of neglect, abuse and alcoholism.  They were 7 and 5 at the time.  We broke down and cried when we received and viewed the video, hurried through the paperwork as quickly as is possible (tons of forms and red tape), and finally met them face-to-face NINE MONTHS LATER (to the day!!!) in Russia, now at ages 8 and 6.  That was in '99, when adoption could be done in one trip with a good agency, and we returned home with our kids in tow -- the most awesome blessings we could have ever hoped for!!!  God's timing is perfect, of course!

My daughter has since asked me (upon learning of the years of heartache we went through trying to conceive), "Are you ever sad that you didn't have a little baby?"  I thought about it and answered very honestly, "I used to think I wanted to have a baby more than anything in the world.  But now I realize that what I wanted most was to be a mother -- And I am!"  She smiled, satisfied, and has never since doubted our love for her and her brother.

Answer 9

Since I was young I always thought that since there are so many children already born needing loving care and a good home, I would be interested in adopting over having a biological child.  Especially when I was young I was sort of horrified by the idea of being pregnant and giving birth!  While that changed as I got older, still I didn't feel for myself that reproducing my own genetic material was the most important thing, or even having a child that would look like me or my husband.  As it turned out my husband and I were unable to have a biological child, so at that time the decision to adopt came easily.