What makes a person stay with another person when.....?

Question

I know of several couples that are together or were together (until they died) for years when they know the other one goes out on them continuously or else has been in trouble with the law because of molesting? What am I missing? I wouldn't stay. Would you?

Answer 1

Some people are just addicted to a certain lifestyle and drama in their lives. They usually do not have much self esteem to believe that their lives could be better. They are stuck emotionally and afraid of the unknown and remain with what is familar to them because they know what to expect and count on even if it's all bad.  

Answer 2

No chance, the people that stay I think dont have a very high opinion of themselves! We only get one chance at this life and I deserve to be happy as much as my husband does!

Answer 3

I would not stay.

I know someone who my fiancee did a job for and went to school with, and he helped him with his new house he is building. He is building next to a school, church, and across the street from a big soccer field. And I saw him on the molester list. He is married to a woman who looks like she is 12. He does not look like a molester, but he is on the list. I think about telling the church, but then I realise they should be looking into that kind of stuff. It is not my job.

Answer 4

A lot of people stay in a marriage because they feel it's the only option they have. If they leave or divorce, they may lose financial support or have to move states away and change jobs and, even if it seems greedy because really it's all about the lifestyle at that point, divorce is still not an option for them. They may also be one of very few that believe marriage should be forever even under circumstances like you mentioned and stay in it because they feel they have to. Older couples or couples where both parties experienced divorces within their own families are like that. There could also be abuse in the marriage, threats to a person's life or children's lives if someone left the marriage.

I think it's sad that the divorce rate is so high but it's even sadder when couples stay together when they shouldn't out of greed, comfort, or fear.

Personally, for me, an affair or anything like a molestation (abuse, pornography, rape, etc) would be a reason for me to leave and I hope when I find my mate, I will never have to worry about things like that.

Answer 5

children make people stay together and fear also

Answer 6

fear, denial, hope that things will change

Answer 7

i think its more of a security issue and scared of being alone.