What makes men think that a large p***s is so important?

Question

Is it something hardwired into them genetically?

Is it because most of them have been exposed to p**n at some point in the adolescence?

Is it because they have run into a guy who says he has one and the women are always satisfied?

Or is it because they have run into women that giggled and snicker when talking about how big their boyfriend's or husband's p***s is?

Answer 1

Well for number one we have a tendency to associate our size and effectiveness in bed with power and manhood.  The number two reason is that some of us  feel that being potent and a good lover may make up for some deficiencies that we are self-conscious of.  For some guys it's their looks, for others their finances, some others worry about a lack of wit or social graces.  My personal issue comes from a lack of height (between 5"6 and 5'7).  Knowing that you have suffcient size can give you added confidence and without confidence you cannot be relaxed and be a good lover.  Yes, some of us place too much importance in it but that's largely (pardon the pun) because it remains a mystery as to whether size really matters to women or not.

Some say it does and some say it doesn't. So it's quite naturally a worry to men who can't be quite sure where they stand.

For more on this pick up a copy of, " Fire in the Belly, On being a man"

by Sam Keen.  He articulates why this stuff is so important to us much more than I can. You don't have to read the whole thing he has a sub-section that deals with men and potency.

Answer 2

I think men are preoccupied with size in general. They like to have bigger houses, bigger cars, bigger TVs...they're taught when growing up that the best man has the biggest of everything. Of course this spills over into body parts, and what body part are they obsessing over anyway?  

Answer 3

Same thing that makes many women think that large b*****s (or at least the appearance of them) are important: in that case, because many men actually are attracted by large b*****s.  Some aren't (I'm one of the 'more-than-a-mouthful' types), but many are.  Same thing goes for penises and women, which is why many men worry about their size.

Answer 4

I don't know, but have you ever been to the Men's Health section on Y!A? That's all they talk about! LOL Measuring it, should it be this length at age 13, their length, girth... Just check it out. They are obsessed with it!

I think it's because it's there, it is out. It's hangin'. It's something to play with that feels apparently mighty fine, and there's no stopping it. I think it's the same way too though with women and their b***s. They always want bigger and bigger, and the bigger girls wonder if the smaller ones need their head examined.

Answer 5

Answer is, "all of the above." Size is relative and it's relative to many different factors. Something on the same  order as one shoe size doesn't fit all feet. But the many factors are too numerous to list here and explain why. However just one for example; size can depend on what a woman has previously experienced. If a woman has never experienced anything but six inches in length and 5 " for girth she will never know what 7" in length and 6 " in girth feels like, needless to say 8" by 6 1/2", etc. etc.

Pardon the pun but it's "fulfillment" that really counts, emotionally and physically. And its not all just length and/or circumference, it's the total volume, i.e. the volume of both the p***s and the v****a. Okay, thats two factors so I'll stop here.  

Answer 6

Oh knock it off. It's important to us because it's important to women.

Think of it this way: why are women so concerned about their weight?

Answer 7

They see it as a mark of a true man, a man with a big p***s is looked at as a better man and more of a man. The funny thing is if it's to big it almost always hurts the woman when having s*x. Bigger is OK but to big and it's a big problem. The fact is if a guy knows how to use it and has something to work with it will always be enough to make a woman happy in that area. Most of the men see a normal size or around normal (5-7 inches) as not good enough so they brag and so on and say it's 8 or 12. They really do need to grow up some, but I doubt that will ever happen.  

Answer 8

My FB just blew off a guy because of his size, she said she had to try really hard not to laugh in his face.

Believe it or not it also goes the other way, my younger brother came to me for advise years ago, apparently the lads in the locker were teasing him because he was big!

Answer 9

Its the media who have blown it out of proportion. Yea its genetic but tv has played upon it. When you see people cracking jokes and talking about it on the media you dont see. I needs a average sized dude. You hear people saying there 10 inches and women saying they need a well endowed man. Women who have never even seen a p***s past 6 inches say they "need" a 9 incher a lot of people think they need it so they can have full pleasure or give full pleasure.

Just like breast size, weight, shape, hair color ect. You "need" this to do this or be that

Answer 10

They watch too much porno and live in a weird little world.

Answer 11

Competion and Ego..two words, two reasons.  

Answer 12

think of it as the male version of women thinking large b*****s makes a women more womenly...get what i mean?

Answer 13

It's just the bigger is better mentality.

A guy who is really bothered by it probably is using it as an excuse for other things that are actually bothering him about himself.

Answer 14

The vast bulk of the p**n out there stars well-endowed guys; usually around 8 inches, but they advertise them as being 12 or 13 inches (VERY few men out there actually are that size and most of them are very, very tall as well).  Most guys' exposure to what s*x "looks like" or "should" be comes from watching p**n, and usually when they're teenagers and still developing, so it creates feelings of inadequacy.

And then, of course, there's the natural drive for one-upmanship: if one guy claims he's big, then most of the guys around him will follow suit.  It's like if a guy says he can bench two hundred pounds: the next guy will probably say he can do 215, even if he can't do 100.

I'm reasonably well-endowed - not legendary monster status but big enough - and can tell you that it really isn't all it's cracked up to be.  I've dated two girls who s*x didn't happen with because it just wasn't going in - yes, a v****a can dialate enough to give birth to a child but that doesn't mean it feels good to be stretched out 50% more than normal.  You can't always pop down to the 7-11 and get yourself a pack of rubbers and some lube at the last minute; if I wear a normal condom, the ring strangles me so it doesn't feel good, and it can leave blisters or welts from the friction (first time this happened I freaked out and though I had an STD).  Having a girl say your member is "scary" and not want it in her runs completely counter to what p**n teaches you...

Most guys out there are around five inches and so it follows suit that most women are built to accomodate that size.  Start getting much bigger and girthier and you can run into problems.

To address Munchkin below:  I drive a small car and live in a small place that I'm content with :)  I know as many women who want to drive a big SUV as guys who do.

Answer 15

Well lets see ever heard of women laughing at men for their size?

ever heard of women attempting to humiliate men for it?

And then ofc there's adolescents and younger that are known to make use of anything to gain social status over others.

I suspect it's more in the implication that too small and no satisfaction.

On the other hand such a tactic doesn't work to well on guy that's had complaints for the opposite.

Answer 16

Tristan: yes, while a woman's v****a can dialate to accomodate a child, doesn't mean it would feel good. But the fact of the matter is this. I think the length would be more of the issue as the depth is about 5- 6 inches for women on average kind of like men's p***s. The fact of the matter is that this would be an issue if while the p***s is smaller, somewhat even remotely close to the size of a baby. As big as your p***s may be, I doubt it's even close to the size of a baby.

Even a huge p***s girth would still be much smaller than a baby unless the your d**k is 5-7lbs and iis close or around the width of an NCAA football.  Not to say that a woman doesn't have to be eased and worked up to a big size, girth wize, but that would still be more like 25% of the dialating capacity and not 50%. If there's an issue, it's because she is not aroused enough and is not completly at ease to loosen up to dialate to the girth, the dialation regardless would still seem like it would be nothing compared to a baby and not even close, even if guiness world record. p***s length would seem to be more of the issue, because of vaginal depth and a man could possibly hit the cervix and would have to do more shallow thrusts.