What makes some MEN think if they put the effort in they should be able to get anything they want, even women?

Question

Is this immaturity in thought? Watching too much p**n? Poor environment?

I know I know, some women think this way too...but I am specifically asking about some men.

Answer 1

It is called narcissism.  There are some WOMEN like this as well.  It knows no s*x boundaries.

Answer 2

It's called positive thinking.

You can't win if you expect to lose.

Answer 3

WTF!!! if you want a woman you have to put the effort in, what the h**l is wrong with that? if you don't do sh*t you don't get sh*t!

Answer 4

Your question doesn't make any sense.

What are you asking about men being able to get?

What does p**n have to do with achieving something?

Answer 5

I think what you are saying is Why do some men (people) expect things just because they have shown effort. and I am sorry to those guys, but that is not the way the world works.  You can do a nice deed, and not expect gratification; I think that people have become to used to the expectation that it is an honor to have someone be nice to you, or that they should be rewarded for good behavior, when in all honesty, good behavior, should be the expectation.  There are a few exceptions to this rule; as in you shouldn't lead anyone on and such, but if you help someone pick up their books they dropped, you are not owed a phone number, or if you take someone out to dinner, you are not owed any sexual favors, etc. i think it is just the way society is becoming.

Answer 6

When men equate effort with success, that is called "optimism"--in contrast to the gloom and pessimism that characterize Most Feministas.

Answer 7

Because "nothing comes from nothing". No effort gets you nothing. So, when we put forth much effort, typically we are rewarded. Some women appreciate a man who puts forth effort.

This is also sometimes called determination.

Answer 8

Well sorry if not everyone is as under confident as you are.

What would you be more curious about men if both men and women do it?

Answer 9

their hormones. plus they talk to their guy friends for advice all the time too.  

Answer 10

Men are basically hunters. Horney hunters but hunters none the less.

They see a woman that appears unattainable and they will do whatever it takes to capture her.  

Answer 11

Ha you liked my answer cool! It depends on the man. Some men are successful and think they can buy anything. While other men think women were put on earth for their sexual gratification.

Answer 12

Sorry, your question is silly.  

I put in effort, and I get results, as, I hope do you.  

Effort does not nesessarily mean acheiving the goal aimed for, but it does make it more likely.  If I am making an effort to geet to know a girl, it is still her decision to accept or reject my advances.  I do not feel entitled to win her affection, that is very immature, and certainly not restricted to the male gender either.

Answer 13

Because effort usually gets results.

If you're allowing a man to put effort into vying for your attention, you're giving him a green light.

Don't then act surprised when he's upset that you shut him out for no reason

Male or female, one must learn to be responsible for how we treat each other.

It's called growing up, you should try it some time.

Answer 14

You can get anything if you put effort into it. not putting effort into it will get you nothing.

Answer 15

Dang women complain when a man puts in no effort and complain when they put in effort.

Why do most women think that a woman always deserve custody of children? or why do most women think that merely by possesing a v****a they deserve whatever they want from a man?

But what I am most curious about is do these men actually think they can get what they want or more likely do you perceive that's what they want?

So I guess men should put in no effort and just expect to be given what they want. The best way for any person to get what they want is to put in effort to get it. And that includes getting women.

Answer 16

I wouldnt say anything but if I worked my @ss off for something I hope it would pay off as I think most people would think this way also. Im not talking about s*x either.

Answer 17

men lack self control.

i mean what do you expect? not long ago did they run everything about this country, when men told women to jump, women would ask how high.

its still a knee jerk reaction decades later...and men do resent that women are trampling in on their "territory" so they try and find some excuse to seize power.

wow i sound like a femmie and im a traditional girl.

Answer 18

I don't think some of the guys here get what you're trying to say. Putting in an effort is perfectly acceptable; putting in an effort with someone who has repeatedly told you to give up is just futile.

Answer 19

It's a combination of egocentric personality and a sense of entitlement.

I find many of my rugby teammates reflect this.. they feel their physical superiority gives them the right to have any woman they want and that god forbid any woman dare reject them.

Example, we were at a bar and one of them was pretty drunk and started hitting on a chick with her bf! She told him to bugger off but he persisted until the bf got mad and told him to leave. He swore at her bf and we had to restrain him, then he started shouting about how she was sIut.. WTF eh... some ppl.. to be honest I wish that her bf had been capable of giving him the bash. He deserved it

Its all well and good to put in an effort but when you end up getting in another person's comfort zone that's not on

Answer 20

Depends on what you mean by effort.

But if you let me buy you drinks all night and waste my money when you know full well you aren't going to even give me a phone number; then that is a huge problem.

Now if you mean you're not going to give it up physically on the first night (or possibly until marriage), then I fully understand why you would have a problem with men thinking that.

And I personally am fine if the girl wants to avoid physical intimacy until later or until marriage.  Messing with someone's relationship with God and her family is not exactly the best way to stay on God's good side, know what I mean.

But as I said, if its the first situation, you know you aren't even going to give me a phone number--then let me keep my money so I can either use it for the next girl or at least just keep it.  I work hard for my money, and I don't like a girl taking advantage of my finding her attractive to get all of it and give nothing whatsoever.

Answer 21

Why would any woman want to be with the type of guy that would just give up?

Obviously there is a line between hard work and stupidity and some girls and guys don't know it.

Answer 22

How else do people achieve their goals? Don't normal people think if they put in the effort then they'll be able to acquire the things they want or need. Or is this just some dykish "I'm-woman-hear-me-roar" rant?  

Answer 23

What makes some MEN think if they put the effort in they should be able to get anything they want, even women?

1. SOME, not all...

Answer 24

Some guys here make it hard to put a word up for our gender. But anyhow.

Flirting, making a pass, hitting on someone, whatever the variations on this could be, is making an effort to catch a woman's attention, be that for a night or until death us do part. I think men are entitled to that effort unless you suppose a dating company should do it for us.

But if Rio is correct the problem is determining when the effort becomes harassment.

I strongly disagree that you can´t accept a drink if you won´t give at least your phone number. That's what the drink is for, to see if you get the number! A man that gets upset because "you shut him out" (reason or not) is not getting acquainted, he's investing in s*x.

So a man should make an effort to get a woman, but he must also grant that one simple NO must be admissible at ANY moment.