What method of discipline do you feel comfortable with and what method make you feel uncomfortable?

Question

What method of discipline do you feel comfortable with and what method make you feel uncomfortable?

Answer 1

I feel comfortable with time outs and what I call the look. It's just a strong look I give my kids and it almost instantly corrections bad behavior. I don't like it when a parent yell or cusses at their child. Grounding is great for older kids. Spanking depends on the situation.

Answer 2

time out seems to work for my friend i use it for my son. if my son gets in to something and won't stop i smack his hand and then he stops.i all so spank my son on the but if he needs it not that ofter.

Answer 3

I revoke priveleges, that pretty much does the trick (loss of phone, internet, music, toys).  The only activity allowed is reading.  I do not believe in hitting, or excessive yelling, as these only allow for the child to tune you out, and resentment to build.    

Answer 4

It depends on what the child did. If I tell a child to stop doing something and they keep doing it, than I hit them, not hard enough to hurt them but hard enough to let them know stop means stop.

Answer 5

I feel comfortable with any method of discipline that is used consistently and enforced.  I feel uncomfortable with any method that is inconsistent and not enforced.  

Answer 6

wen i was little i got spanked and i hated it... but now i realize that when that was done i didn't do what i had been doing wrong again.  

Answer 7

Around our house it depends on the child.

My oldest is the type of kid that if you take away something you have her attention and usually the problem is over.

The middle one is the one that we use time out for and extra chores as she has her own agenda for her time and hates having us interrupt it.

My son is one that we are still trying to figure out.  It does not phase him in the least to take toys away, ground him, extra chores etc.  I have found so far the best punishment for him is making him do extra reading or math which he hates.

Spanking works for some and if that is what the parent chooses then it is their right however before you can punish a child I feel you need to consider what will get that child's attention fastest.  I know with my kids spanking wouldn't work.

Answer 8

I feel uncomfortable with people who don't discipline their little A-dd (attention def.) brats.  I feel comfortable with belt swats, time-outs, grounding, and spankings.  I feel comfortable with rewards systems.  The important thing for a parent is to discipline out of Love, rather than heated anger or something like that, thats the key.

Answer 9

consistency is key...

i once saw a mother scream in a kid's face... i hate you so much

within a minute he was on her knee and she was cooing, i love you

that just messes up a kid, they don't get a grasp of discipline at all

i hate seeing kids flinch when a parents hand moves... they're clearly frightened of being hurt

Answer 10

i am all for the educational method of explanation

this stimulates the kid to think things through, and as such you raise a kid who know how to use their mind, kids raised like this have a whole other range of contemplation and reasoning ability

i outwitted my teen babysitters when i was hardly out of my todler stage, all kids in my fam been raised on educational toys and generaly do quite well in school

I think by challenging the kid to use their mind they learn to do so, and gain a wider perspective and understanding of the world and how their actions affect others. It renders them more capable humans to manage through their life solving problems and excelling, not just at young age but also after growing up. In YA i see responses to things that i could have answered better at 10 year old then the adult who posted the answer can well at adult age.

Society changed, society's function and expectation to how to handle yourself have changed, and well if the parents and grandparents methods was so great, then why is it that in average we have a Lot more problems these days then before. Crime and violence is shooting in the air, and thats not a proof of success, its a symptome on something failing. The lesser a persons communication skills are the more likely are they to use violence to solve problems, and the less likely to achive and excell in school, in work, in life.

The parent is a rolle model, you lead by example, one of the things you see most is in homes where the nanny shows go and the kids hit the parents, the parents hit them, the kids mimic their rolle model. We know kids who are abused are more likely to become abusers themself, a kid who is hit, is more likely to hit themself...basicaly what goes around goes around...and its against the law to do it today for a reason...teaching your kid to solve their problems not through comunication but through physical means is the best way to inrease the risk of them ending up with a police record...simply because that is how they learned to express themself instead of learning to use their mind to express themself vocaly.

Example -> someone offend your boy, he punch them, someone offend your girl she slap them... but these days we also teach kids they dont have to stand for that, so what happens...oh rigth the kid get expelled from school...come home and you what? spank them for not behaving and hiting another kid?

yeah tops ...way to go

Answer 11

Spanking is what I'm comfortable with. It works.

Answer 12

If you are constant in your discipline, you should not have to resort to hitting. So all other forms should be acceptable... depends on the age.

If you have more than one child, treat them the same with discipline. Meaning that if both kids are "guilty" of doing something, do not punish just one, or give one a lighter punishment.

That being said, I am very uncomfortable with hitting (obviously) and bribing.

Answer 13

I prefer using positive discipline methods with my son, and I find that he responds much better to these methods.  I am uncomfortable with the idea of using corporal punishment in any way.

Parents love to insist that "spanking works," but if that were really the case, no child should ever have to be spanked more than once.  You can effectively discipline a child without resorting to hitting them.  It just takes more patience and effort, but it is worth it in the long run.