What my EX gonna try? DO I trust her? Give her a shot?

Question

Hey all,

Well my EX broke my heart. I was in love with this chick. She cheated on me. I moved away that morning I found out about it, that was the morning after she cheated. Well she came clean after I moved 2 days later, which was 1000 miles away. She blamed me for it called me names then tried to come back I said no. She said we both know we had something no denieing all that, and she loves me and whatnot, but I said we can't try. I treated her with the utmost respect, was always there for her, gave her a shoulder to cry on, tried to help her any way possible, spoiled her. She never had a guy like that before. She cheated on me with an EX BF that cheated on her twice. We broke about about 2 months ago and we havent spoken in about 2 weeks now. She tried to date about 3 other guys really fast after me, but nothing happened. She now she has a bf that is two years older then her 21-19. She met him once at new years. He was the first guy that took her as a GF. She seen him once sense they been dating and he lives 400 miles away, they started dating about a month ago. She acts like he is so perfect, says she loves him and whatnot. Do you think this is true? Or is she just looking to find anything to confort herself. I was the first nice guy to her, all her EX's used, her cheated , abuse. She has problems to in past with guys worse than cheatin or abuse. I'm movng back to where she lives now. HELP ME!

Answer 1

If she's in love with another guy, what makes you think you should "give her a shot"?  What makes you think she WANTS a shot?  If she's talking about this other guy and telling you she loves him, I'd believe her and leave her alone.  Decide whether or not to be with her when she comes to you and you know she's not involved with someone else.  If she has to choose between you and someone else, that's just pathetic.  There should be no choice if she's actually in love.

Answer 2

She doesn't know what a great guy she had, or maybe she does and that is why she wanted to get back together. You were right to not take her back. She sounds like she doesn't know how to be faithful. Move back and let her rave about her new boyfriend and just sit back and watch. She will get lonely and you will see the true person. Of course if she wants to cheat on him with you, don't play that game. Move on and find a nice girl.