What options are there when we can't have kids?

Question

My boyfriend and I plan to get married in the near future and eventually have kids. One problem is that he is sterile. We would love to adopt, but is there any ways that we can somehow have kids and not use another guy's sperm?

Please give me your advice and opinions on the whole situation.

Answer 1

is he 100% sterile?  becuase if he produces at least some live sperm...even if only a few...they can seperate them and do ivf.  this however will cost alot of money.  if he produces no live sperm and there is nothing they can do to change that then likely adoption or art. insem. are your only options.

Answer 2

Well, if you want to actually carry the pregnancy, it really depends on if he is 100% sterile.  If he is, your only avenue would be the donor sperm...

However if he has ANY viable sperm at all it is somewhat possible that you may be able to conceive through IVF.

There is one type of IVF where they inject the sperm directly into the egg... so if they were to harvest whatever viable sperm there was and directly inject it those few viable sperm would be given the optimal chance...  You know, so even if there were 4 viable ones in a million... that might still be four chances if you were willing to go through the treatments and expense...

I don't know if that applies to your situation... but it's probably worth looking into...

Best of luck no matter what you decide...

Answer 3

It depends on why he is sterile. I had a friend whose husband and an extremely low sperm count. He went to a urologist and had an operation to open up his passageways. Within three months of the operation, she was pregnant. Now they have two kids.

If you are really concerned, check with a fertility doctor or a urologist to see what your options are. But if you want to adopt, that may be the way to go.

Answer 4

No matter what, you are talking at least $20,000.

You did realize there is another option?  You don't have to have children.  It is not compulsory.  You will have a much better life if you do not.