What order do we stand in? Jr. Bridesmaid?

Question

Brides side, left to right......furthest on the right meaning the bride....

1 maid of honor, who is about 8 inches taller than me

1 bridesmaid, who is identical height to me...we haven't picked out our shoes, so whos taller, we don't know

1 junior bridesmaid, maybe about 6 inches shorter than me and my bridesmaid

1 flower girl who is maybe 2 ft shorter than me

does my jr bridesmaid stand all the way on the outside, but in front of the flower girl? okay i think i figured out the order....

what exact tasks can i give my jr. bridesmaid? she will be 10.

Answer 1

From right to left:

Bride, Maid of Honor, Bridesmaid, Junior Bridesmaid, & the flowergirl, or the flowergirl sits in the front seat with a game or something to keep her occupied.

The job of the junior bridesmaid is to just help wen needed like the others. Like when you are working on a list or maybe putting together favors she can help.

Answer 2

What ever you do, try to make her feel important and just as crucial to the wedding as the MOH and bridesmaid. Ask her before hand to "babysit" the flower girl and help to keep her entertained. Ask her to help pass out and hold the bouquets. At the reception, have her check the time and make sure she comes up to you and the groom every 30-45 mins to make sure you are eating and drinking plenty of water. EVERY wedding I have been to, the Bride and Groom are so busy entertaining their guests, that they forget to eat or drink water (end up only with champagne in their systems).

Answer 3

from the outside to the inside (bride being the furthest "inside" person), they should stand as follows:

junior bridesmaid

bridesmaid

maid of honor

bride

Don't base it on height, base it on "bridesmaid seniority" - the most honored person should be the closest to you.

The flower girl should stand between or slightly in front of someone who can kind of watch over her, or she should sit down with her family after walking up the aisle. Since she's small, it won't really matter either way. If the junior bridesmaid and the flower girl are buddies or related, they can stand together. If the flower girl is closer to the bridesmaid, they can stand together. The maid of honor shouldn't be tasked with the flower girl, since she'll be dealing with your bouquet, your train, the groom's ring, etc.

Your junior bridesmaid doesn't really need "tasks" - she should be hanging out with you and the bridesmaids on the wedding day, and then she should be free to have fun at the reception like everyone else!

Answer 4

Height doesn't matter.

You, MOH, bridesmaid, Jr. bridesmaid, flower girl.

Don't give your jr. bridesmaid a job. Her job is to look pretty.

Answer 5

height really does not matter. Usually you have the MOH, bridesmaids, jr bridesmaids, flower girl  

Answer 6

A junior BM is somewhere between a flower girl and a full BM- in terms of age-too old to be a flower girl and too young to be a BM.

Junior BMs should attend showers and help with making favours, cleaning up etc.

You can also take her wedding gown shopping- although you've probably already got your dress by the sounds of it? She should attend the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, she can help ushers take guests to their seats, hand out bubbles or confetti or programs at the reception. If the junior BM is your child, they can especially do things like read a poem or perform a song or participate in family vows.

As to the order, experts like theknot.com say the height thing is a matter of opinion, not rule of thumb or etiquette. So if you care about the appearance then line up people by height. Lining up according to how important they are to you also makes sense. MOH first, then best friend, cousin, etc. So that of course might create issues since they're all important to you and you don't want some to feel less important than others.

If you line up according to height then the shorter ones are furthest away and may feel bad. So now what?

I've seen in the weddings I've been to, brides who are shorter than their MOH, but it's OK because the focus is naturally on the couple and the MOH and other attendants are set apart by their different (coloured) dresses)

If you're doing a religious processional then you could use that to your advantage. in Christian ceremonies, generally the best man and MOH are at the altar waiting for the couple to arrive. Then the attendants arrive, beginning with the one who will stand furthest from the bride.

In Jewish ceremonies, however, the groomsmen walk in pairs and then the best man , and the groom and his parents, and then the bridesmaids.

Good luck and congrats!

Answer 7

Well, regardless of height, the maid of honor stands next to you, on your left.  Then if you want you can arrange the other bridesmaids according to descending height from the maid of honor.

Tasks for the flower girl:

1. You can have her help with stuffing the guest favor bags

2. You could have her set up the bags rice/bubbles at the church.

3. You could have her hold the rings if you don't have a ring bearer.