What punishment would you give to your son?

Question

what type of punishment do you give your 11/12 years old who is becomes violent in class?

Answer 1

I would attend some counselling with him and get him into an anger management program.   I would also assess his school environment to determine what is triggering his violent outbursts.   Is he being hazed?    Is he struggling in school?   If so, I would work with the school to address those issues, or move him to a different school.      I would also get him into some highly physical structured activities so that he could get plenty of exercise to help regulate his moods, make sure he is eating healthy, because blood sugar swings can affect mood, and make sure he is getting enough sleep, because not enough sleep can make a fellow irritable, and, of course, he should take his vitamins, and should include some omegas which help to regulate mood.

Your son is under the influence of surging  testosterone.   He also has a developing brain, not fully developed, so he is acting under the influence of  aggressive urges and limited self control.   Everyone is different, and your son may have stronger urges or less self control than the other kids at this stage in his development.    In other words, if you had his physiology, you might have done the same thing.

For punishment, he can write an apology to the people who were affected by his violence in school, and he could be kept out of any activities away from home for a while, on the grounds that you have to keep him where you can watch him, since you don't know if he will become violent again.  He could also write an essay on violence.

Answer 2

Find out the reason he has become violent and everything seems to be normal, then everytime I heard about something he would be grounded for a week.

Answer 3

a semester in a military school.

Answer 4

None, I would take him to a therapist.

Answer 5

ground him from tv games, television and treats and going out for say a fortnight

Answer 6

is there a cause - watching violence on TV / Movies

Violent Video games?

Is there something else in his life - death of relative/ grandparents divorcing?

if all is normal - grounding & removal of TV etc

Answer 7

My 12 year old got in a fight in school that he started. Had it been self defense I wouldnt have given much of a punishment, but he was bullying a child, so I took all his video games and music, left his books though, and made him work in the garden an hour a day until my tomatos came in. By the end of it, he actually learned to like gardening and got good at it and he talked out alot of problems he was having at school with me while we were gardening together.

Answer 8

i would try to understand why they are becoming violent in class. if you just punish them because you think their being bad for no reason they are just going to continue their downward spin out of control and lose connection with you.

the best thing you can do is get connected with your kids find out WHY they are doing what they are doing before you think about punishing them. punishing a child without understanding why they are doing what they are doing will only led them to feeling like its unfair and lashing out more.

Answer 9

I would be more worried about the cause of this random anger than punishing him. Is there a father in his life? If not, he is probably angry about that. Have you gone through a divorce, a move to a new city? Did someone hurt him, is he being bullied or abused? He is awfully old to just act like this, he isn't 4, he knows better but he is clearly trying to tell you something. Do you make enough time for him? Maybe he feels ignored until he does something wrong.

Answer 10

I would make him do a book report on violence and the causes of it

Answer 11

you can let your son write 50 or 100 times.  I shouldn't be violent in class ever again. (i know its harsh, but don't blame me most parents do this)