What questions in the Home Study cause military couples to do so poorly?

Question

My sister is trying to adopt and as soon as she tells the agency her Hus is in the Army, they practically hang up on her.

Answer 1

I've been 23 years active duty military and it was NOT a factor in either of my two adoption processes.  In fact, the last one started in Aug 07, we were approved in Jan 08 and had a 4 day old baby placed with us in mid Feb 08.  

I was told that my career was a plus because it was stable, provided a good income and access to good family services.

Good luck if you choose to take the plunge.

Answer 2

It's the moving thing, no stability for the child.  Also, when in the military, many people are away from their home life, and don't have the support to help them through the adoption process.  This includes possible future child care (Grandma babysitting), and there is the possibility that a child who has already lost out on parents could, even temporarily, lose out again with a deployment.

Answer 3

It's doubly hard to adopt when one or both potential parents are in the service.  It's due to the fact that the couple isn't secure or stable, If orders come to move...you move.....not the best situation to try and adopt.  Since he is in the service have her talk to the chaplain's on post and to jag.  I have several friends who's only chance to adopt was through these two sources.  No one else would even give them a second look.  I do wish them the best of luck...we've been trying to adopt for years and know what it's like.

Answer 4

I'm not aware of any, but it could be long deployments (I'd be concerned about bonding) and moving around a lot.

I do special needs adoptions through foster care, I would be VERY concerned about placing a child into a home where they could be moved around a lot and the parent would have no say about it.

For example...if you're in the Army you really can't say..."Sorry, my kid just got settled in school and is doing really well...I'm not moving."

Special needs kids already have lots of grief and loss issues...they need consistency.....I'd be concerned if a military family could offer that.

Not saying I wouldn't do it, but I'd have concerns.

Answer 5

I am unsure.....could it be concerns of long deploments?

Answer 6

I am not sure it's true that military couples do so poorly..... I would imagine it has to do with the type of adoption the family is attempting.

I know that with Foster Child Adoptions  it can be difficult for military families who may have to up and leave the state because the foster children need to be supervised by the state until the adoption is final....

I know of several military families in overseas stations that have had very few problems with international adoptions.

Answer 7

Maybe stability issues...  like will the parents be called off at any time?  I'm just guessing- I am unaware of that particular issue.