What rules would you make for an 18 year old boy living under your roof?

Question

he is my son

Answer 1

it all depends if your son or not, but rules would be, no s*x , no drugs,dont get drunk,and dont wake us up in the night,

Answer 2

i would think that he has to do the right things by you as he is supposed to do anyway and he knows what the rules are if he can not do it then he needs to move but if he is being good then no need for anything new to come in really  

Answer 3

same rules ive always had for him....until he moves out on his own and paying all of his own bills he doesnt need to be coming home at 2 and 3 in the morning and bringing females home....

Answer 4

Respect! No puking on the carpets, no overnight guests without prior notice, but mostly: RESPECT!! Violations result in washing up duties...:-)

Answer 5

He must respect your feelings, so no coming home drunk as a skunk, getting home at an agreed time, no overnight guests without agreement, remember, it's YOUR roof, he has to respect it!

Answer 6

Difficult to say.  If a child grows up with you until they are 18, they are already likely to know the ground rules.  To just pluck an 18 year old into someone's house and give them rules would not be acceptable to the boy.  Generally rules are given for a reason and most families try to compromise

Answer 7

Get a job, save some money and move out!

Answer 8

Im 22 and my b/f's 23yr old son lives with us...he has to pay a 3rd of the bills [shoppin, gas, leccy, council tax ect]

The only rule we have really is that he isn't allowed to have any women sleeping over...and we spilt the housework 3ways.

Just remember its ure house and ure rules...if he doesn't like it then he can move out. just be prepared to make him follow any rules u set.

Answer 9

The exact same rules as they were when he was 17.

Answer 10

No girls can stay over, No drinking and driving, Respect others and other peoples things. Earn your keep, put the toilet seat down, No friends over after 12:00pm.

I don't know every boy is different.  What rules do you feel he needs?  I think you should make them up as you need to.  

As a side note. The person u_avnt_g... Said she was 22 and her BF 23yr son lives with them????  WHAT!!!  You are dateing someone old enough to be your father and you live with is son who is old enough to be your BF.  Sorry what?

Answer 11

Get a job, do what you're told when you're told, speak when you're spoken to.

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Answer 12

He is not an 18yr old BOY he is an 18yr old ADULT MAN! You need to talk with him, he is free as an adult to do as he chooses.

Answer 13

He has to work full-time and contribute $$ to the household (which would be determined depending on the rent/mortgage, bills, food and such).

No overnight visitors without prior notice and approval.

& DEFINITELY no parties.

That's a good start.

He would most certainly have to work (if he wasn't attending college).  And if he was in college, all the above rules would apply except a part-time job would be acceptable.

And respect would run in conjunction with all of the above.

Answer 14

Personally I wouldn't make him pay board (unless you really need the money, then it is fine to ask him for help).

I would expect him help out with the housework, maybe cook one night a week, plus clean up after himself. I would encourage him to act like an adult but remember he's still a boy in many ways and still learning.

Respect his elders, but respect is a 2 way street. If there's any particular issues (eg. his friends, loud music etc) just talk and sort out issues as they arise.

Answer 15

Bluntly, the rules that you want him to have.

If you want him home by a certain time, him to help out, and for him to have respect for you, set those rules!  If he can't abide by them he can get his own place.  If you decide to do rent, make it reasonable so that it's a step in the learning process.  My parents had some strict rules when I was 18, but it was still their house and I still had to abide by them.  I am grateful now, looking back.. not then of course, that they were so strict because I was not out partying and doing stupid stuff, I was working and earning money getting ready for college, etc.  They lightened up a little and extended my time to come home, but there was still a set time.  I hated it then, but almost 3 years later I am really glad that they did what they did!  It helped shaped me.

So really it's based on what YOU want and how you expect things to go in YOUR house!=)

best of luck hope this helps!

Answer 16

well he's 18...he pretty much can rule himself you know, if you pressure a kid, there more intended to rebel and not give 2 s**+ts you know?