What should I compromise on and not compromise on with a babysitter?

Question

For the first time I need to find a "real" baby sitter for my 15 month old. I am a firm believer in parenting with love and logic rather than punishments and rewards, so sitters and I typically don't agree on discipline. What things should I be willing to compromise on and what things should I stick to my guns about?

Answer 1

if you place your child  in day care centers,they comply with your discipline measures.try a home day care setting too.when your finding babysitter's....well i don't know about that one cause these babysitter's,individual's they do what they usually feel is right on how they want this child to be cared for when they are in their hands...the only thing you can do is express your beliefs in your discipline and what the person believes on their discipline measures..and if you like them,have them be around your child for a week and see if your child acts different when the person is around...if you see it's different,fire her or give her a warning....

Answer 2

This doesn't really answer your Q but here are some tips: First of all, get a babysitter that your family knows well or that a good friend recommends. You should meet with her one day just to get to know her and stuff and tell her or him your rules. Dont try to sound strict or mad, just try to sound nice and happy(not too happy). Make sure to think over something you could say to them to try to make them want to do a good job(but not too scary or anything) An example would be, offer a bonus amount of $ if everything goes well. You might also want to make sure that she knows everything she needs to know about babys.

Hope this will help you a little!

Answer 3

You'll have to find a babysitter who believes what you believe.

Answer 4

I'm a sitter and have a fairly reasonable way of going through steps inorder to get my children to behave when I'm there. My ideas have proven effective for the last 3 years and I'm pretty set in my ways, that love and discipline MUST go together, and I don't understand how you can use logic to out smart your one year old rather than make it clear as to what you want the child to do and not to do. Now when sitting a five your old the child was climbing on the furiture and I informed her that if she didn't get down she would go into time out. Slightly shocked this being the first time I had to give her a warning she sat downon the couch properly, then told me my mommy lets me sit on the furniture. I said well that is okay but while I'm here you can not she excepted that and after a time got back up and I sent her to time out. She was very good and stayed there and I have had no problems since. I have a 9 month old who started to climb the stairs I said NO in a firm but loving voice he bursted in to tears and all I did was pck him up and move him from the steps the livingroom floor and let him calm himself down. So I do not think that your anti-discipline will go over that well with sitters, but I'm sure if you explain yourself they will attempt it your way, but if they see something easier than let them just do it that way unless it is causing pain to your child. And I pray that you survive the teenage years because eventually the whole logic thing will come to bite you in the butt.

Answer 5

nothing. if you are hiring and paying a babysitter to come into your home to watch your children then the babysitter NEEDS to follow your rules. That is what you are paying her for. You are the mother and you set the rules and thats all there is to it. Not to mention I firmly believe that changing the rules when it's convenient sets a bad example and makes it confusing for the child.

Answer 6

Well firstly no sitter should disagree with you.  You hire them, they follow your rules, end of story.  Stick to your guns on all of your expectations.  The only thing I think I would comprimise on with a sitter are general things like television, computer, and phone use.  Compromising on discipline is out of the question.