What should I do, I fight with my husband over baby names?

Question

I'm about 15 weeks pregnant. I've been thinking of baby names, whether it be a girl or a boy. I try to make the names from relatives he and I both have. The problem seems to be that whenever I tell my husband what I've come up with, he doesn't like them. I ask what names he's come up with, and he said he hasn't really thought of anything, but he doesn't like my names. Sometimes we actually have an argument! I don't know what to do, we just can't seem to agree. I might just have to pull names out of a hat pretty soon. Any advice on what I could do?

Answer 1

If he doesn't have any other suggestions, he has no argument!!!  I would refrain from discussing names for a couple weeks. Tell him you'll discuss names once he come up with 10 names for boys and 10 for girls.  

Answer 2

write down all your ideas throughout the pregnancy as you come across them and ask him to do the same. When you get closer to the delivery sit down together and look at the lists, compare and see if there's any matches. Lol, and if worse comes to worse, wait till you're alone to fill out the birth certificate and put down what you want.  

Answer 3

Compromise with him. He picks the first, you pick the middle, or vise versa.

Answer 4

Sorry, I don't have any suggestions about what to do. I do, however, have suggestions of names, just in case you like any of them, which you could show to your husband:

Oliver Benjamin

Tyler Adrian

Isaac Thomas

Ethan Jacob

Ashley Logan

Elliot Harrison

Paige Brittany

Kaitlyn Samaire

Cassidy Elle

Mia Grace

Olivia Jade

Hope I have helped.

Answer 5

You might have to keep suggesting names until he likes one. Naming your child is very important and both of you should be equally involved. Maybe you can buy two copies of a baby name book (one for yourself and one for him) then you both can go through and highlight names you like and compare. See if you both like the same names or perhaps compromise. You pick the first, he picks the middle.

Answer 6

give him a swift kick in the balls.  tell  him the names that you decided on. case closed.

Answer 7

You make a list of the names you like and your husband makes a list of the names he likes. Give the two lists to the grandparents, without telling them which list belongs to whom. Have them make a list putting names together. They might surprise you.

Answer 8

who is having the baby??

you right??

your husband doesnt have to go through 9 months with something inside him and he doesnt have to endure the labor pains. so wat ever you thnk it should be it should be.

but try to get him to like at least one name.  

Answer 9

you'll find a name... like Gia. Answer mine http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;...

Answer 10

If you don't know the gender of the baby, you can tell him that you'll choose the name if it's a girl, and he can choose if it's a boy. That's what my parents done, thank the Lord i'm a girl, too.

You can go ahead and have both of you write names down, put them into a hat, and then choose.

But i know many parents don't know what they want to name their child until after it's born, and they've seen it themselves. So don't put too much into it.

Answer 11

When he has time, throw a baby book at him and make him a coffee and tell him to sit down with a pen and paper and go through the book and write down all the names he likes from there.  You do the same.  Then swap lists and cross of the ones that you completely couldn't stand and highlight the ones that you really like.  Take it from here :)

Answer 12

My mom had the same problem, but they finally agreed on Melissa after hearing sweet melissa by the allman brothers. try to keep suggesting names or tell him that you both need to contribute ideas!!

SIMPLE AND CLASSIC NAMES

Laurah Lianne

Esme Irina

Anica Leah

Leraine Sandra

Georgina Beatrice

Beatrice Alice

Lily Louise

Alice Rosalie

Rosalie Sarah

Sarah Rosalie

Sarah Lynn

Sarah Emily

Emily Anne



Micheal Andrew

Andrew Brian

Brian James

Harry James

Daren Micheal

Lucas Matthew

Matthew Timothy

Thomas Richard

Jonathan Richard

Anthony Richard

Anthony Matthew

Jacob James

Edward Emmett

Carlisle Jasper

UNIQUE NAMES

Keiralyn Lilianne

Liliyah Rihana

Vanessa Harlow

Harlow Isabella

Lerabella Analeise

Trabella Monica

Trinity Hope

Serenity Joy

Destiny Alivia

Aaliya Andraya

Dezzik Dayton

Landyn Jaymes

Logan Lyle

Drake Daymeon

Daymeon Drake

Daniel Dayvid

Dale Matthew

Luke Drake

Embry Jayke

Answer 13

we did the same thing.

i just started asking my hubby questions

He was really into the "gaelic/ Irish " thing

so we looked and looked and somehow we found names we both agreed on.

Most men have this idea that they want their sons to have

" MACHO MANLY " names, lol.

Print out a list of the weirdest names you can think of and act like you really like them

then show him the list you actually like- he'll see a totally different side to

Kevin, Bryan, Seth and Samuel

or Megan, Ashley and Heather

Compared to Oswald, your real favorite name can't be that bad, lol.

;] Meg

Answer 14

How about a compromise? You pick part of the name and he chooses the other part. Or do what I did.  I told my husband what I was going to name our daughter. He said that he didn't care for the name. I said get used to it. He did and now he thinks it's the perfect name.

Answer 15

I dont know I would say Write down baby names you really like and see if he will agree once you find out the gender

Answer 16

take a deep breath & relax. right now you have plenty of time to come up with names and worry about other things. I would start listing names in a journal and let him know that he is welcome to make contributions. when it gets closer to your due date, sit down with the journal and discuss names. if he hasn't contributed then you may have to argue with him, but if he has then you'll have something to work from. good luck!

Answer 17

Personally i agree with you trying to find family names to pass on through your children.  My own daughter is named after my father and my aunt.

Maybe instead of making up names and asking his opinion have you tried asking him if there is anyone in his family that is/was really special to him that he would like to honour?  He might mention and aunt, uncle, grandaprent, alive or deceased and you can work from there.

If he mentions a male and you have a daughter, use the feminine form of that mans name.  If he mentions a female and you have a son then you can use the masculine form.  Eg Brian/Brianna  or Justine/Justin

Sometimes you might even be able to merge the names of two people into a single name, maybe one from each side of the family. For example Eve and Lynn could be Evelyn or Colin and Alan could be Cohan

If the names you play around with then (after you find out his favourite family members) still don't enthuse him then you can ask those people (the ones he picked) to be godparents or something.

Maybe there is a name he has always liked but as it has never been asked for specifically he has never told you.  That could give you another name to play with as you could add it to something you like or merge it into something new.

You are only 15 weeks into a 40 week trip so you have a little bit of time to try and get SOMETHING/ANYTHING resembling some input from your other half.  Remind him that you are half way next month and it might get him moving ;o)

Good luck

Answer 18

A fun way to find names together would be www.babynamegenie.com

There you can type in your last name, and it'll be matched with a suitable first and middle name!

Another idea would be to base your choice on something personal to you as a couple. For instance, Olivia Newton-John named her daughter Chloe because "Chloe" was the name of the perfume she was wearing when she met her husband.

Answer 19

Tell him when he is able to carry a baby around for 9 months and then give birth then he can be picky about names.