What should I do, please help???

Question

I’m 14 years old and I just started high school (I’m a Freshman, I started 3 weeks ago) and I’m not very confident in myself; at least not in my outer beauty. I’m sort of big boned and I have a little tummy (unfortunately) and I just feel so awkward and fat around everyone because of it. In fact, I feel fat and unattractive all the time.

I also feel extremely ugly all the time. When I look at myself in the mirror I don’t see anything good about me. I hate my facial features the most, but I definitely don’t like my body either. I have never had one day or even one minute I can remember where I felt pretty. I try to look into the mirror and think of at least 5 good things about myself but I can’t think of any, and that makes me feel worse about myself.

I do exercise and I do it almost every day, but it doesn’t help. Also, I know people say it’s what’s on the inside that counts, but the truth is, most people won’t even look at you if you aren’t pretty or hot or attractive. I try to wear nice-looking clothes or just clothes that seem to compliment my body but they only make me look fatter and uglier.

Should I just give up? I’m tired of feeling this way, I’m thinking about running away or committing suicide so I don’t have to live with the pain anymore…what should I do?

Answer 1

Ok. I know it's very annoying how many people count you depending on look wise. But not everybody does. Atleast you know you're fit by doing excersise. And it's true that whats on the inside it counts. Dude if people's first opinion is on how beautiful they are, I feel it really isn't worth it in the first place. Go towards people who are well worth your time. And please, don't change yourself for others. If people have a problem with your looks it's definatelly their problem. You shouldn't be ashamed of who you are. Because just from this post I know that your heart is in the right place. ;) trust me I can tell. And you deserve to be with people who are well worth it. Don't try to change yourself for others, though it may give you more friends -- they won't care about you for who you are.

Sure, maybe there are many people like that. What I do know, though, is that not everybody is not like that. There will be a small amount of people there, waiting for you. Hang out with those people -- no matter how small they are. Because trust me, being popular in looks doesn't really show you how trustworthy and close people can be.

Trust me, it may sound like being used so many times, but I have learned from a little bit of experience. Not a lot -- but even a little can help back up so many answers. Go towards people who are worth your time , because people do come in different shapes and sizes.

Be yourself and go out there, dont change yourself for the sake of others.

Answer 2

Pictures please

Answer 3

Sweetie, Dont feel so bad about your weight. Lots of men (like myself) like women who are big. Your skin is always softer to touch. Your b*****s are always larger and softer then skinny minny's. Your usually better kissers because your lips and tongue are full and lucious. Plus, there's more cushion for all that pushin we do which makes for a wilder ride. And men like myself aren't embarressed to be around with you in public. I know guys that prefer a larger woman over a thin boney one. I can only speak from my own experiences and conversations I've had with other gents.

Please try to stick it out sweetie. My heart goes out to you.

Answer 4

All of that is just being a teen. Everybody goes through this!! Everybody!!! I feel fat/ugly alot of the time...and i am onthe bigger side...But what you have to do is slowly learn to love yourself. I'm trying to. Lets say you find something you think you look great in..where it go out..and people will be attracted by your confidence.

I can bet that people don't see you like that at all. I bet your friends could care less about if you're 'big boned' or not. and for other people, yeah people judge others on looks, but if you show confidence other people will see that confidence.

you'll get through it.

talk to your friends about it too

they're probably going through the same thing.