What should I do?! Help!!?

Question

my gf has so many family problems, like too many, her parents always fight nd they almost get divorced, nd the bad thing is that her mom always blames my gf for everything, nd this makes my gf really upset frustrated nd stressed, i really wna help her,but idk how,like i realy wna talk to her parents to stop the fight nd solve the problems in a good way, but i know i dnt have the right to talk to them coz im only 15 nd her parents dnt know me at all, so i really dnt know what to do, i care bout her alot nd im always worried bout her, like my brain tells me to help her nd do somthng but i dnt know how, like i wish i could change everythng nd make her nd her family happy.. i need help!! what should i do??

Answer 1

You can talk to ur gf and try to get in touch with grandparents-aunts-uncles etc... then ask them to help and see if you can get them 2 c a therapiest 4 relationships and get it worked out!

Answer 2

Ok, so first of all, you have to calm down, b/c you can't help anyone when you're this upset.

Her parents have issues.  She is not at fault, unless she's drugging them (j/k) b/c adults need to control their reactions to what kids/teens do, so she isn't to blame.

You absolutely should not talk to her parents.  They will not appreciate it from you.  They may even try to keep you and your gf apart.  

What you can do is speak with YOUR parents.  If they understand the situation, they may let you have your girlfriend over more often, which would alleviate some of the pressure she's under.  You could also suggest your gf seek counselling, not that there's anything wrong with her, but just to let off some steam.

It's great that you want to be there for her.  Hopefully things will get better between her parents, but it isn't up to either you or your gf to set them straight.

Good luck to you both.