What should I do? How should I do it, to handle this situation? ?

Question

...I'm in a really bad mood right now, I'm not mad at anyone, I'm just sad and confused.

My girlfriend smoked marijuana today with her friends... she wanted to try it, although I was very mad at first when she told me that she was going to try it. But I backed down after wards and allowed her to explore something new and even bad for her. I regret letting that happen now. On the web cam I saw her black ringed eyes and her coughs were like knives stabbing through my skull. I would never want to see her like this ever again, ever.

When I asked her if she would do it again, she said maybe. That answer just broke my heart, although I know marijuana is not physically addicting, but I'm afraid that in the future she might be emotionally or mentally addicting to it. I really do care for her, I love her, but my inability to protect her is making me really sad. (We are in a distance relationship)

I really want to protect her from harm, even when I'm not beside her.

Answer 1

im afraid this might come between u 2. thers new friends that come with this enterainment, probably not the kind u like. ur probably gunna have 2 except something u dont want 2. sorrrrry.......

Answer 2

You are just such a sweet guy.  You're totally right not wanting her to try drugs.  It's clear you really care about her well-being.  I truly hope she takes your advice and stops.  I noticed you said you "allowed her" to try drugs?  You know, much as I like your advice, you might have control issues.  A parent is supposed to control their child, but a boyfriend or spouse is not supposed to control his girlfriend or spouse.  And it's a long-distance relationship too?  Nobody controls a long-distance girlfriend.  You must be joking.

Answer 3

You shouldn't do anything. It is not up to you to "protect her from harm" because she can make her own decision. I think anyone that has smoked weed will tell you that you don't have black ringed eyes so that must have been done with eyeliner. It wasn't the weed. Secondly it's against the law so just tell her so. You sound very controlling and that alone will get her to dump you as a boyfriend.