What should I do? I'm sad, but my friend won't listen, in fact she's making me feel worse!!?

Question

my guy friend whom I'm in love with moved away, he knows about it too, but he seems to be ok with it. We're still friends and we still talk. I know he doesn't feel the same way, anyways, he didn't talk to me for about a month after I told him how I felt, so I felt horrible, then he started talking to me again, and I felt good again. But that feeling lasted maybe a day or two. Because today when we talked, I asked him how much he hated it there, and he said "The only good thing is there is this really hot girl who lives across the street from me." It stung to hear that..and then my friend called on me, and she asked if I was wanted to hang out, I said ok, and then she took out a volleyball, I wasn't playing well, so she aimed the ball at my face and said "Your so pathetic, get over him, he doesn't even like you!!" That stung too. And I said "I'm going inside." Because I almost started crying, she never even asked me why I wasn't playing well, and I also never even brought him up. She then said "No, you can't go inside - you need fresh air, if you don't you'll die. Although..HE won't care if you die." I had heard enough. I went inside, and went into my room and started crying, then came here to write this..I'm feeling terrible, because he knows how I feel, but he STILL had to say that. And then she had to go and say that. I feel like.. I feel worthless, unloved, and I want to die..then I won't be in so much pain..and then nobody has to hear me, or see me. But I'm too afraid to commit suicide. Please help me. I have nobody to talk to. And ll my other friends no, I can't talk to them, and my best friend, we've talked about it over the phone, but I need her in person, but she hasn't been able to for the past couple days..I feel so depressed...help me please.

Answer 1

believe me honey u'll find someone else,and another thing is u dont want to be in a relationship with a guy that lives far away,my boyfriend lives in a nother country and it's h**l,i wouldnt advise anyone to do it.and i think ur guy friend is a jurk for saying that cuz he knows how u feel,it was really mean for him to say that.but ur other friend that said u need to get over him, i think she was just trying to help but doesnt know how,her methods are abit harsh.u feel like u wanna die now but u'll feel better later i promise.but the first thing u need to do now is grt out of the house and get ur seslf a nice boyfriend that'll take ur mind off of this guy.

i'll give u some advice,no matter how much u love a person,not being with him will never kill u.u might cry for a week or amonth but u'll get over him in the end.give it some time.

hope u feel better :-)

Answer 2

     I have felt heartache before and I know how it feels when your guy friend finds out you like him and doesn't ike you back. He even liked one of my bets friends!! All you need is some alone time to think. Think about what he is missing out on. Your a great girl! Think about it... What do you liek about yourself? When you find at least three things that you like you should feel a little better.

     As for your friend... She is being very inconsiderate. She isn't thinking about your feelings. If she is she would be kinder. Until you feel a little better i recommend you keep your distance.

Answer 3

WHOA... first of all, do not even think of suicide, I mean come on... everyone has heartache, and its definately not worth dying over!! i know this hurts but think about it- think of your entire future ahead of you- this stupid "friend" of yours and this boy are a tiny part of your entire life.  

Now back to the problem at hand, you friend is very inconsiderate of your feelings, and very immature and cruel.  I would stay away from her, don't yell at her or make a huge deal, thats just going to egg her one, she wants confrontation and you should just drop her and ignore her.  

As for the guy friend, honestly, sometimes guys say things and don't even realize what they are saying and maybe he was saying it so he could try to convince HIMSELF that he likes it there when really he doesn't.  

good luck

Answer 4

The best words of wisdom I ever got from anyone was my mother when she told me, "This, too, shall pass."  I know it doesn't seem like it right now, but it truly will.  There have been many times in my life when I felt so alone, overwhelmed and heartbroken and it felt like it would last forever.  It didn't.  It passed.  In 1996, my father died in April, my daughter died in September, and my husband died in November.  I never wanted to die so bad in my life.  I thought my heart would burst from all the pain and that I would never, ever, ever be happy again.  It took a long time, but little by little, smile by smile, I became happy again.  It still hurts like h**l when I think about them, but the sharpness of the pain has lessened.  It's more of an ache now, with a sharp pang every once in a while when I'm reminded of them and wasn't expecting it.  LIfe goes on, and it is just as full of joyful, beautiful moments as it is tragically painful ones.  No one ever promised us it would always be easy or painless.  I don't understand why your friend would say things like that to you, if she is truly a friend.  You might want to re-think that relationship.  The guy, on the other hand, wasn't trying to be mean to you, I don't think.  If he still thinks of you as "a good friend", then he was probably just talking like he would to any of his good friends.  I don't know what your age is, but I'm thinking you're fairly young.  A broken heart is never easy, but it does get better, and you have many, many wonderful things waiting ahead for you.  Don't miss out on the wonders and beauty of life because of one.  Suicide is never the answer.  It's a selfish, wimpy thing to do and would affect the lives of more people that you think.  Hang in there.  Grab hold of the precious things and moments with all your strength and learn to smile again.  You'll be so glad you did.  Best of luck.