What should I do?...I think that he is Bi-polar or maybe not.

Question

I have never been in this type of situation before. I am 25 with a 18 month old son, my son's father isn't in his life and lives in another state. And I met this guy who is 27, and he seems to be a normal guy. I have known him now for 3 months and we hang out, talk, play pool, go to the movies, kick it, and he kinda mentioned taking medication, and going to the mental hospital for 2 days because he took his meds and alchol and it made him act crazy. I cant remember the name of his meds, but It was kind of a red flag, but other than that he acts like a normal person. I never asked what his meds are for.

He always talks about us having s*x and it turns me on (of course), but we havent did anything yet, (and I want to sooo bad) (I havent had s*x in 18 months) but he blew up at me 2 days ago about my son's father invading his territory. We aren't a couple or anything, (we have talked about it) and he also accused me of wanting to cheat on him with my son's father, I tryed to tell him that I wont cheat on him (especially not with my son's father) but he just hung up the phone. The next day he called and asked how I was doing, like nothing had happened the day before. When I told him that he hurt my feelings he ask how, I told him what he had said to me, and he had no rememberence of what happened, he said he had been drinking, and he aplogized for what he said. Now he's acting like the same person I had been hanging out with and talking to.

Could he be Bi-polar? He hasnt't been to my house yet and I'm not sure if I want him to know where I live. He hasn't met my son yet, but he will on Saturday, some friends are having a picnic and he will be there (we share mutual friends). Should I be scared? Are people that are Bi-polar known to be stalkers? I want to be in a relationship with him and have s*x with him (really really wanna have s*x with him), but I dont wanna open Pandora's Box. Even If I dont have a relationship with him, is it ok to have just have s*x with him? I dont know what I should do. Please Help.

Answer 1

TAKE MY ADVISE YOU DON'T NEED HIM IN YOUR LIFE ESPECIALY THAT YOU HAVE LITTLE SWEET BABY. I AM SURE YOU WILL FIND BETTER PERSON THAN THIS ONE . YOU DON'T WANT CRAZY PERSON TO INTERFER YOUR LIFE. YOU ALREADY MENTION THAT YOUR RELATION NOT MORE THAN TALKING, AND HE ACCUSE YOU OF CHEATING. MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE...  GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

It is possible that he is bi-polar, but there are a large number of mental conditions that could also be what you are experiencing from this guy. The only person who can tell for sure is a doctor or psychiatrist who personally examines and questions him. In any case, his potential for being bi-polar doesn't matter. He is unstable, prone to angry bursts, drinks irresponsibly, and acts irrationally and unpredictably. Bi-polar or not, that is NOT a guy you want to be hanging around. Time to cut him off and move on. If he does stalk you, then call the cops. You deserve better, and you need to keep your child safe.

Whatever you do, do NOT have s*x with the guy! Get a freakin' vibrator if you're desperate. The last thing you need to do if you have a child is bring home an STD to them. NOT a good idea.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Hi.  I have bipolar.  It's very difficult to say what his problem is.  However, an easy guess if he has bipolar, is that he's not med compliant and is drinking, which is a very bad combination.  If so, he is unstable and NOT someone particularly safe to have in your life, most especially with your child.  Further, that type of possessiveness is not a bipolar trait even when somewhat symptomatic.  That is something else, and it's personality driving..  Borderline personality disorder can mimic bipolar or be a comorbid disorder (have both).  That'd be a worse combination.  Or, he is the OCD, possessive, stalker type.  In any case, anyone laying claims to you as he is before a relationship (or even after) is scary and out of control.  It is not apt to get better if you go any further, but most likely will get worse.  Unfortunately, that includes having a little trist on the side because he mostly likely will see that as further encouragement and "ownership."  Give some thought about what it would be to have the behavior magnifying over time as you become more invested.  It has the makings of an abusive relationship.  Really, loose this guy, which is what I suspect your conscience is already telling you.