What should I do? I want to run away..?

Question

Ok, first off, I'm home-schooled and i'm 16. I don't feel sorry for myself..but I do wonder what it would have been like to have went to high school. Anyway, I have no motivation cause my parents show no intrest in helping me get someone to help me study to get into college. I SUCK at algebra and I need someone to help me with that the most. My mom, however, thinks I can teach myself. I could..but i'm not one of those kids who loves it..you know? I need somthing before I kill myself. I have no hope of getting into college; or so it seems. I'll be 17 in July and I want to go to college in the fall. Even if it's just a community college. I'll never get into the FBI like this. And I didn't even mention that my social life sucks. I just really hate my life. If I could go to boarding school, I would. In a heart beat. Too bad i'm not smart enough.I feel like i'm being denied an education. Anyone have any ideas besides running away?

Thanks.

Answer 1

I am frustrated with parents that don't give the child the option to go to a public school. They worry about drugs and friends there kids will meet but if they were good parents to begin with there kids would make the right choice right? Talk to your parents and tell them that you wish you would have gone to public school and ask why they made you do home schooling maybe i am wrong and they have a good point..... at least they will know that you are upset at their decision

Answer 2

Well I am homeschooled to and yeah it can kind of be depressing but there is also the fact that you aren't missing out on much. Think about all of the drama in school. I mean kids can be mean so it is a good enviroment to be at home. If you need help with math than sit down with your mom and have a heart to heart talk. Tell her your goals and tell her that you have tried but you still really need help with your algebra. And if they can't help you than go online and get an online tutor. They can really help. If you run away things would just get worse. You really would'nt be ble to make it into college than. So just keep trying algebra isn't my best subject either and to tell you the truth it is my worst subject so you are not the only one. It took a lot of courage for me to use a tutor but they helped a lot. I know that you can do it, so keep trying! :)

Answer 3

What it would have been like in public school? Doesn't matter, it's all in the past. Seriously, my favorite line of Lion King. The monkey also hits him in the head with a staff to knock some sense into the boy. Why would you beat yourself over the head with it? Go to college and take algebra. They have regular math at college too, it'll just take longer to get done with your degree, you start now, you're ahead. Choices.

Parents can't GIVE you motivation. They could be threatening and cajoling you, but then you'd be on Y!A complaining about how they're always making you study. If you want to get someone to help you study, do it. Most local public libraries have free tutoring. You don't even have to pay. At sixteen, you could be joint enrolled in community college easily. Get online to your local ones and see what the requirements are.

You are limiting yourself by making excuses. "I'm not smart enough", "I have no motivation", "My parents won't help me study". Stop victimizing yourself and build yourself up. You can get online to come here, get online and go to www.volunteermatch.org. Walk to your local stores/convenience shops and get a job. Dust off your books and get cracking. You say you 'could', but you don't love it. Choose what you hate more, being ignorant or teaching yourself. Choices.

and if your social life sucks, get a job or volunteer. Once you're doing things you like, you meet people. They won't be delivered to your door. You can get out and make friends, or stay at home complaining about how you don't have them. Choices.

Good luck. I honestly think anyone can teach themselves. I think once you hit sixteen, it's that much easier.

Answer 4

Yep, I have an idea: Stop being such a drama queen and grow up! Your post is just a 10-line whinge from start to finish.

If your social life sucks, that's down to you. If you're over 7, your social life is your responsibility so, if it 'sucks', you either live with it or you get off your bum and change it.

Similarly, you need to either knuckle down and start learning or get off your bum and go out and find someone who's willing to help you.

Yes, you're being denied an education but the only person denying you that education is you.

Answer 5

there is not warranty highschool or college will teach you any better.

They always used to tell me to read the book, the book will tell you what to do.

At this point its unclear IF HS can even help you as by 16 you are supposed to be in Geometry and 17 in Trig

You would qualify for a non-college HS major.

Answer 6

Well, you could tell someone, like a pastor, priest, friend's parent(s), or someone else you trust.

BUT, if your parents are the beating/strict kind, I wouldn't tell, because those parents are prone to get mad and "punish" you.

Answer 7

Im homeschooled too.. But im only in the 9th grade.. I hate homeschooling too dont worry your not alone. With the algebra problem try going to a local library they usually have free math tutoring, or you can just go to a local high school and see if they have tutoring there. My social life sucks too.. I spend all my time on the computer because I have nothing to do!! But I'm thinking you can drive? If you can then get out sometimes! Go to a mall or join a club with things you like doing!! You will meet lots of people there.. Or go to google and look up homeschooling clubs in your area! Those are really fun because its just like school but only a few times a week and they go on field trips, and do everything a normal school does. Dont kill yourself and dont runaway.. It wont help I swear!! If you have more suicide thoughts please go to  http://www.twloha.com I'm a huge supporter of them. Please take my advice and you know what I dont really care if you choose me! Just knowing I might be saving a life is good enough for me..

Answer 8

It kinda does sound like you feel sorry for yourself...But that's ok....obviously your reaching out for help...I too was not a big fan of Algerbra, also homeschooled...maaany moons ago...:)

I did however manage to take a pre Algebra class when I went to Junior College...What's the reason you are homeschooled if you don't mind me asking??? when I was in independent study I did go to school once a week to turn in work and get work for the following week...You might want to stop by and speak with a teacher...even go to the adult community college and see if someone will talk to you and possibly give you some direction in which way to go...Teachers don't bite, most are pleased if you have it in you to just go and ask...maybe it's just a matter of meeting with a tudor at a Library or something...You could actually go onto a campus ...say Junior College...and they have students who tudor they get credit for helping you learn and you learn what you need to, to pass...Ask about Pre Algebra...the book I got was pretty self explantory...I'm no idiot... Algebra was just not one of my strong points, I was in JC in my early 30s...Good Luck... :)

Answer 9

wow,it sounds like your parents are doing you a horrible disservice by not nurturing your desire to do better in school and by not sending you to high school.i'd try pressing them to let you go-even if for just the rest of the year.if you aren't bummed about going to community college,i know alot of them offer continuing education for adults-and we need classes to bring us up to speed on any deficiencies we might have-such as algebra(when i eventually go back to school,that's the same course I need to be able to take care of,and the local college here tests you,and tells you what you need,and you either do it during the summer,or in conjunction with your credit classes,it just takes a little longer to get all your credits to graduate-but whats an extra semester in the grand scheme of life?i know its rough being a teenager,but soon you will be old enough to make your own decisions if you are out on your own,and you can do anything you choose to improve yourself.the sky's the limit and you sound like you know what you want,and college is a good choice.maybe you could talk to a counselor-oops,sorry,i forgot,you don't have that luxury,being homeschooled, maybe a hotline for teens would help,someone at church(if you go)a friend's parents perhaps?you should talk to someone about your feelings,before they get in the way of achieving your goals.best of luck!

Answer 10

Your answers to a lagging social life and difficulty in one academic subject are suicide or abandoning your family and living on the street...and you wonder why your folks are not listening to your opinions? What a crock! If you can't motivate yourself now, what makes you think you can handle college? Do you really think the FBI will accept a suicidal runaway? Stop blaming your parents and playing at "the grass is always greener" game. You are old enough to take you studies and your social life into your own hands. You are pouting because you cannot have your way, not because you and your parents cannot come to a compromise to solve both these problems together. You are being publicly disrespectful and owe your folks an apology. Plenty of other teens love homeschool and use it to their academic and social benefit. I know many who are in college today. You sound like every other self indulged kid who decides when he or she can't have something, it is because the world is hopelessly unfair and their parents are to blame. My advice is to grow up a little.

Answer 11

I am sure you can find community college where you can be admitted even with low grades and low knowledge of algebra - and you'll still have to learn it...

I am so very sorry you cannot go to a public school. Kids can be very mean at times, but you also are a part of a group...

Do your best preparing - maybe you can team up with some other kids in similar situation via the Internet, - only half a year is left, just hang on there, and then you go off to a college.

Answer 12

Why are you home-schooled?

This is serious becuase it is affecting your life.  I think you need to go to a public school and get the help you need. Tell your parents what you think.

Answer 13

Normally I am all for homeschooling, but it doesn't sound like you are getting what you need from it.

Perhaps you should join a homeschool group to meet more people your own age.  That would improve your social life considerably.

As for Algebra, I recommend Teaching Textbooks since you are being expected to learn it on your own.  http://www.teachingtextbooks.com  If you can talk your parents into buying the whole set, all the CDs and everything, you'll find it to be very thorough, like having a teacher talk you through each lesson.

Answer 14

dont run away. i h8 homeskooling 2 and yea i am but still. try and c if they'll send u to a privite skool. its not like homeskooling but its like public skool. u'll like that a lot. and mayb find a tutor or sumtin but hey im only n 8th grade

Answer 15

Unlike the person who is frustrated with parents not giving the option to go to school, I'm frustrated with the small percentage of parents who choose to homeschool but don't have their heart in it to help their children thrive!

It sounds like you may be suffering a bit of depression. I went through it at your age, too. Everything felt impossible. I even became suicidal. My first piece of advice, then, would be to look at websites and books which will help you deal with this. What it boils down to is taking your focus off of all that is making you miserable and turning it elsewhere. Volunteer in the community, help out an elderly neighbour, be of service to someone. In addition to that, take 10-15 minutes daily to see some goal you'd like to achieve--but achieved. See yourself in college. See yourself being able to do algebra. See yourself working in the FBI.

Have you ever heard, "You get more of what you focus on"? If you keep focusing on the things you are unhappy with, you'll just get more things to be unhappy about. Focus on what you want, what you truly want in life. Make up a "treasure map" or "vision board" (like in the movie/book "The Secret") with images showing goals you'd like to achieve. Focus on that, and your life will turn around.

As well, consider looking for a homeschooling support group. There may be some teens or parents there who are willing to help you out with the algebra and other stuff. There's a lot of support out there, even if your parents refuse to be it.