What should I do? Im ready for a relationship but he's...........?

Question

Ive been talking to this guy for about four months now. I really like him, I'm not sure what it is about him but i feel for him quick and hard! We do everything together. We go out on dates, we hang at each others house, we've both met each others friends and fam. Everything is perfect its all most like we are a real official couple, but we're not. I always ask him what he considers us and he always says things like lovers, and just tells me that I'm his baby. Neither of us is involved with anyone else. We have everything we need to be in the most perfect relationship but I'm confused as to why we don't have it! I care about this man soooo much, ive never felt for anyone the way I feel about him, its almost scary to me because we've only been talking for four months and Ive never feel for anyone like i have for him. I asked him why we're not in a relationship and he says that a relationship just isn't for him right now. When i asked y he doesn't think a relationship is for him he says its because when he's in a relationship he likes to spoil his women and give her whatever she wants, and right now he's not financially able to do that. I'm not interested in being with him because of what he can do for me financially, i want to be with him for him. WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE HIM REALIZE THAT I WANT TO BE WITH HIM EVEN THOUGH HE CANT SPOIL ME RIGHT NOW, THAT'S NOT WHAT I'M INTERESTED IN WHEN IT COMES TO A RELATIONSHIP, DONT GET ME WRONG I WOULD LOVE IT IF HE WERE FINANCIALLY STABLE TO SPOIL ME BUT IF HE CANT DO THAT RIGHT NOW WE CAN LOOK PAST IT, I WANT TO HOW HIM THAT HE HAS SOMEONE THATS READY AND WILLING TO BE WITH HIM REGUARDLESS OF WHAT HE HAS AND DOESNT HAVE. I WANT HIM TO KNOW THAT I AM THAT WOMAN THAT WILL BE DOWN FOR HIM NO MATTER WHAT! A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM IS WHAT I WANT! HOW DO I GET IT!!!!

Answer 1

I would tell him that you won't stick around waiting forever and that he should really think about that.. and reassure him that you don't need to be spoiled.. tell him that being with him is all you need.. but as of now you are unsatisfied.. if he cares for you and wants to be with you then the fact that you are unsatisfied will bother him enough that he might cast aside his traditional spoiling and be with you.

Answer 2

just tell him  u dont like new fancy things and that it doesnt matter if he wont spoil u becuz u hate people  who spoil each other

Answer 3

You don't, b/c it's not up to you...it's up to him. He told u he didn't want a relationship, and used the "I wanna spoil you" as an excuse when you pressed him on it. If he wanted to be in a relationship w/you, he would whether he had money or not. It's a cop out, so either let him keep having his cake and eating it too, or tell him to hit the road. Your choice.

Answer 4

Unless your parents let you date guys and let them come over and won't mind you going over to their houses, you aren't ready for a relationship.

Answer 5

....not that into you. Sorry. It's a good time to find someone that won't rush you but won't put you off like this either.  

Answer 6

show him that you don't care about the money and you are not into it. you cant blame him to be afraid of having a relationship with you. i thinks he's still on the process of knowing you better. don't force him. just stay that way. and be contented at the moment. time will come and you'll know the answer.

Answer 7

Listen tuts. Don't pressure yourself to get a relationship so fast. Next thing you know is you're going to want to get married. Slow it down a notch, and give the man his time to breathem otherwise you might end up scaring him away.

In other words just enjoy your time with him and let things slowly escalate.