What should I do? Secret or not?????

Question

My mum won't let me have Bebo, but I've secretly had it for 2 years without her knowing (pretty good, huh?), and I'm fed up with having to sneak on it when she's not around, or straining my ears to see if anyone if coming while im on it. How do I get her to let me get Bebo? I need a good arguement. Or should I just keep on it secretly?

Answer 1

hey,

say, 'mum, there is no harm in using facebook. i want to be able to be open and honest with you, but i find tis hard when you wont let me do some of the most harmless things. mum, bebo is a safe socialising site, where your friends, and ONLY you FRIENDS can view your profile. nobody can just automatically add me without my approval, and if i dont want a particular person on my friends list with the privelage to view my profile, i wont approve them. i can assure you mum because you should know me better then that, and therefore trust, that i would not give out any of my own or my families personal details, and would never post explicit content (or say whatever relates to your mothers major concern which is making her not want you to access facebook) i hope that you can be interested enough now, to let me prove this to you, so that i dont have to miss out on what all of my friends have, anymore. if you let me prove it to you mum, you will realise you dont have anything to worry about and you will be better relate to everyone elses parents who allow their children to use bebo.'

and of course you dont have to say it in those exact words but saying it along these lines considers her concerns and yours, and will most likely persuade her. she will also, hopefully appreciate the fact that you dont want to hide it from her.

: ) GOOD LUCK

Answer 2

keep it a secret

Answer 3

What the heck is Bebo? Let people know then they might be able to advise properly.

Answer 4

I don't even know what Bebo is, but if your mom doesn't want you to have it, I am sure that she has a good reason for it.

Answer 5

Just keep it secretly; its a lot simpler and you dont have to deal with having to explain to her why you've had one for  so long.

Answer 6

There's probably a good reason your mum doesn't want you accessing the website. Have you had a serious talk with her about it? Open up to her and have a talk about it. Ask her what her specific concerns are. Tell her why you want to go on it. Allow her to monitor and maybe you two can come to a compromise.

Keeping a secret is not a good way to build a trusting relationship. I know, been there done that!!!

Answer 7

pretend that you dont have it but ask her again can you get it! say that most of your frends have it and its no big deal and u cn even put your profile on2 private so only your frends and people u kno cn go on it! if she stil says no jst carry on sneakin on it! lol!  

Answer 8

what's a bebo?  

Answer 9

you say you're fed up w/dealing with the secrecy. so just tell her or get rid of it, you'll feel much better.  

Answer 10

Keep it secret. It would have been better to persuade her first but anywho, what they know wont hurt them! x*x  

Answer 11

Just keep bringing it up and keeping it secret :) prhaps when ur 16 u can have it I mean see it from your mums point of view. She probally doesnt understand and is protecting you from the perverts and pedos out there :)

Answer 12

Say that she's limiting your social life.

It's a part of who you are, your friends.

Answer 13

whats bebo?

Answer 14

Write down 10 good reasons for needing to use Bebo.

Ask your mum what reasons she has for you not using Bebo.

Listen - do not speak.

Then show her your list.

If she still refuses her reasons must be very good.

I don't think it's pretty good to sneak around - maybe you should consider having a computer in a family room so that she can see everything you do - sneaking around always comes back on you - why not do a few jobs around the house for your parents first before asking too - a little bit of consideration and kindness goes a long way - and reaps many rewards.

Oh and a little  note - I live in Bridgend where Bebo users are comitting suicide - so maybe that's her worry.

Answer 15

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Answer 16

I had the same thing with my bro threatening to tell her, but personally, what she doesn't know won't hurt her...

If you really feel bad just casually bring it up as if you haven't got it yet but like say that evry1 at skwl has it and they all keep inviting me. If she still says no you can decide whether you wanna still keep it going secretly or stop     =]

Gd luck

Answer 17

firstly, sit and talk to her and tell her that is a social friend website, and the people on there are only from school and no where else.

Explain to her that most computers have a webcam, so even if u did get talking to a stranger u can see them right there on the camera. - even though ur better off not even mentioning that.

Sit her down with u and show her ur profile, ur friends list and ur email if its not too personal for u, but being more open about it shows her that she hasnt got to worry and that the people on there are actually local kids from skool.

She is only looking out for you, there are still alot of weirdo's on kids internet pages!

x

Answer 18

you should go do your homework instead.

Answer 19

try to play the guilt card on her - say that all your friends have it and it doesn't cost anything unlike texting and you want to stay in touch. if she still doesn't let you say that you should be allowed otherwise you will end up having bebo even if she doesn't want you to and then you will be lying to her. say that she needs to be able to trust you not to do anything stupid or irresponsible otherwise you will have to start going behind her back about it. tell her that you can change security settings so that only your friends can see your page and your pictures.

good luck hope that was helpful!

X

Answer 20

just keep it secret

Answer 21

well tell her how u dnt put n.e info on their that imp.... . and tell her that uve set ure profile 2 private etc and take of n.e thing on ure bebo that culd b a "incriminating" ~ just incase she decides 2 hear ure point of view n wants 2 c ure bebo.

Gd Luck

Sara x

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Answer 23

how old are you?

if you are very young then I think your parents are right.

Answer 24

She's worried about paedophiles contacting you, say that you'll have your computer in the sitting room - or other communal area so that she can see what you're doing, she may agree if you're being sensible.Meanwhile be careful on the internet as not everyone is o.k.

Answer 25

My first thought is you've been lying for 2 years... why are you asking now?  

You should have been upfront and honest with your mum to begin with.  Lying for two years has damaged your relationship with her and it's only going to get worse.  Personally, I think you need to tell her ASAP.  My sister just busted her kids last week for having MySpace accounts (they'd had them over a year).  She was pretty mad at first.. the lying, the fact that they disobeyed her.  Once she got into their accounts and saw they weren't that bad it was just the lying they got in trouble for.  You may think you have it hidden so well but don't be surprised when you get busted.  It will no doubt happen one day.  It'll probably go better for you if you are the one to tell.

Answer 26

if u have had it secretly for two u years why would u want to tell her now ?? there's no point. She'll just be extra pissed with u !!!