My husband and I have been having a lot of problems. I am just about at the end of my rope in terms of dealing with him. Everything is a fight, he doesn't have a job, and doesn't hold a job for very long, he wants kids "soooooooo bad" and thinks that they will "make everything better". I am in my mid-twenties, and although having known him for about 9 years, and married to him for almost 3, I haven't noticed any real changes in him, his behavior, and the way that he conducts his life. I pray all the time that he will wake up one day and be like, "hey, you know, this isn't working and I need to change A, B, and C in order to make all these other situations better." But he doesn't. He has the nerve to call me irresponsible, when he is the one who can't be responsible for anything. I feel like I am wasting my time with him, and I see people all of the time who are happy, and I want that so bad too. What makes matters worse is that I am a devout Catholic, and while (obviously) not totally against the idea of divorce, I feel that I have failed in the eyes of the Lord. I just don't know what to do, and where to go from here. I KNOW that if we were to go to counseling, they would recommend with the number of problems, issues, regrets, and grudges we BOTH hold, that they would recommend divorce. I feel like I shouldn't waste my money in hearing this from someone else. I love my husband, really I do, although it may not sound like it, but this relationship is breaking my heart. As I mentioned, when I pray, the first thing I pray for is HIM, and while at mass today, and praying silently, I caught myself thinking, "I should be praying for ME first, not everyone else." It breaks my heart to write this, to "see" all of the problems, and TRUST ME, this is only the tip of the iceberg, but I do not know what else to do. I have been more than patient in this relationship, and I don't know where/what else to turn to. Any advice? Can anyone give me some insight into the divorce process in Maryland? Thanks for all of your advice in advance.
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