What should I do...What would you do? ?

Question

i need to move on. i need to get the past out of my mind completely. this house...this town...is not helping. its making me sick. i went away on vacation and felt amazing. nothing bothered me and it was so much easier to control my panic attacks and my body in general. all my bad memories in this house and town...went away completely...and when they came to mind...they went away so fast. i was able to control it. i came back home...and im sick again. i want to move on and get away from this house and town. i want to go back to where i went on vacay and work down there. they have schools and programs. and it will help me in the long run because i had experience and something on my resume rather then just a stupid little job that i don't have anymore. im not sure if its the right move though. i think it is. there is also a school down there that if i do change my mind...i can go there. i missed my family when i went away...but honestly...i'd rather be there...working...and changing my life...rather then here being miserable. how do i know if this is the right move? will i even know? should i just go for it rather then just dream? my whole life i dreamed...now i need to do...please help me in the right direction. my ocd and panic attacks were gone there. i just felt so different. so good. so independent. how do i know if it's the right move?

Answer 1

You sound like me! Do it! Move, don't be a scaredy cat like me. I don't like where i live and have been wanting to move very bad, but i dont have enough money to make such a leap, nor do i have someone to go with me. And im too afraid to just pick up and move on my own. Sometimes people need a change of scenery to be more successful in their lives. Sometimes, taking a big leap and doing something different can be the best choice, so I say you should do it. You can always go back home if you dont like it :)

Answer 2

Moving sounds like the best thing for you!

Good Luck

Answer 3

It sounds like you really want to move.  Just because you did not have problems over your vacation does not mean things will be perfect there.  If you really want to move then move.

Answer 4

It does sound so wonderful from the way you explained this.

Start planning on moving.  Begin to take the steps you need to so that you can make this move a reality.  I am sorry your family didn't even listen to you.  Sometimes when we are with our family, after a while they do not take the time to listen.  They interrupt you when you are speaking.  This happens to me with my parents.  I think this has become a habit for them.  Please seriously think about this move. Think if there will be any consequences that you may need to consider.  Good Luck.  I hope you make the right choice for you.

Answer 5

Have you ever gotten professional therapy? Running away from the issue will only be temporary...especially when you visit your parents and all the feelings rush back.

Answer 6

Do whatever feels right to you. Sounds like you were happiest when you went away, so move! You can always mail and phone your family if its too far to visit.    GO!

Answer 7

I say follow your heart and live your dream.  You will never know if it's the right move unless you try it.  It sounds like you need to get away. That's what I did and couldn't be happier.  I had too many people trying to nose in my business (like I ever did anything anyway) and run my life so I just happened to meet a guy and he asked me to move in with him and I didn't hesitate to say yes not one bit.  I figured that if no one knows where I live and it being 2 hours away, then they can't cause any problems for me b/c I know they wouldn't drive that far just to stress me!  So, yeah if it's gonna change your life for the better, and you're not gonna be so stressed anymore, I say GO FOR IT!!!!!!   What are you waiting for!!!!!????   And, don't be worried about what other people think or say, b/c they're always gonna have their own opinion, do it b/c it makes you happy!  I felt guilty there for awhile, but then I realized I had all the peace I have always wanted!  And now I'm glad I did what I did.  Don't let anyone make you feel guilty, b/c the only person that can honestly make you happy is YOU!  No matter what anyone else says or thinks! p**s on 'em!  Think about yourself and what you need and deserve, b/c no one can do it for you!  GOOD LUCK!

Answer 8

I know this may sound cheesy but its my honest answer. Yeah you are going to miss your family and the good things that could have happened in this town. But they can visit you. you need to follow your dreams. You can always try to move down there and if you don't like it, move back.. And i also have panic attacks, and it may be a whole new experience and it may make you nervous, but it might help you in the long run. I think that it might be a risk, but a good risk. Go for it.  

Answer 9

You will never know until you try it.  If your panic attacks stopped happening then moving away might be the right thing to do.  Look at it this way, it might totally change your life for the better and if you hate it, you can always move back