What should I do about a guy who's making me uncomfortable at work?

Question

There is this guy at work who is making me very nervous, uncomfortable. He will stand behind me for 5 minutes at a time just staring at me, without stopping. He is CONSTANTLY looking at me. It makes me feel so disgusting.

Also, he jumps at any occasion to help me, and offers even if I don't need it. (I'm a cashier and he offers to certify my papers at the end of the day after I have counted out). When I ask for help, he books it over to my register as fast as he can, even if he's all the way at the other end of the isle. It's gotten to the point where I avoid him as much as possible.

There was one incident, when he asked where a co-worker and I were going to lunch. We told him, not thinking anything of it, but we realized after we left that he had started following us! We had to go further down the road, until he turned, and make a U-turn just to make sure that he wasn't going to meet us there or something.

Today he started using the stapler in between my partner and I's registers. There were plenty around him, but he insisted on using ours.

He was recently fired from Disneyland for sexual harassment, and other girls that I have asked about him, also said that he is weird and makes them uncomfortable. There was a girl prior to me, who denied him her phone number after his 'affection', if that's what you'd call it, escalated to petting and attempts at hugging. She also said that she had a boyfriend and it didn't phase him. He just stated that it was another hoop for him to jump through and was un-phased!

I have a boyfriend and he is starting to get mad about this. I don't know what I should do, or how I should go about handling this...

He gives me really bad vibes and I don't know what to do.

Has anyone been in this kind of situation before, or does anyone know what to do?

Please help!

Answer 1

lol... sounds like he likes you... dont mind him though... if he does something really inappropriate like touch you then go file a lawsuit

Answer 2

Oh honey, I feel for you! I had an ex that was like that, and it was rough.

I don't know if this is something you would do or not, but it's what I would do. I have always been told that if you have a problem, go straight to the source. I would approach him and flat out ask him what his deal is. Then I would tell him that I don't like him, i'm not now, nor will I ever be interested in him, and that if he doesn't leave me alone that not only will I get him fired, but he'll have more sexual harrasment charges against him. Also let your boss know what's going on, so they can back you up.

Answer 3

Yes! I actually work around all men, in the dozens of employees, I am the only female in a huge area of the warehouse (there are only 4 of us in the whole building!) and there is this one guy who made me so uncomfortable that I wanted my boyfriend to beat him up. Of course, I didn't tell him to do that, as it wouldn't help anything really. But he did the same sort of thing, where he would walk right up to where I was and just stare at me, watch me work for minutes at a time. He would be doing something and when I passed by, he would stop what he was doing just to stare at me! I avoided his eyes at all times because he made me feel dirty and I got those uncomfortable vibes like he didn't have good intentions. So my boyfriend worked there too and saw this, so he told my boss and the guy was fired the next week. So I suggest you tell whatever management there is about it, and mention that other girls feel uncomfortable and stress the fact that you feel unsafe. It can lead to a lawsuit if they keep him around if he did something to you after you told them about how he made you feel and that he's basically stalking you. Staring can be considered sexual harrassment.

If you don't want to go directly to management about the issue, you could try talking to him about it, tell him that he is making you uncomfortable and ask him to please stop staring at you and to leave you alone. When I said this to that guy who was bothering me, get this.. he completely ignored me. He said "woah, fiesty" and continued to stare at me more, probably because he knew he was getting under my skin.

Anyways, good luck, and be careful. Some people have no lives and can be very dangerous, even if he doesn't look like it. Make sure you are never alone when you're around him. Your number one concern should be for your safety. Don't let yourself get violated by a creep like that.

Answer 4

Sounds like he's a real pervert.  Be blunt with him.  If he's standing behind you for five minutes, just watching you, tell him to please leave.  If he won't, then you call management.  Unfortunately sickos like this get off on making you a victim, so don't be afraid to call him on his bizarre behavior.  And if he does anything like petting or hugging, he should be fired immediately.  I don't know who you work for, but if your manager won't do anything about it, hopefully someone above them will.  If you work at a small company and they refuse to do anything about it, you can file a complaint, although frankly at that point it is probably easier to just find a new job.  

Personally if I was your boyfriend I'd probably take care of the situation, but I'd probably end up in jail too.  It sounds like this sicko isn't afraid of that kind of thing anyway.

Answer 5

You really need to talk to your boss! If he is your boss go above him... STAND UP FOR YOURSELF!!!

Answer 6

You need to tell him next time you feel he is in your space:  You are making me feel real uncomfortable right now and you need to stop please.  Make sure you sound direct.  Hopefully he will apologize and leave you alone. If he says anything like a come back like he has done to the other girl then go directly to your supervisor and let them know of what he is doing verbally and in writing.  Don't hold back.  It happend to me a lot when I was a kid.  I was actually grabbed quite often and it took my elbow in his ribs to get him to stop.  Good luck to you!!!

Answer 7

hes head over heels for u lol tell him to back off u got a man

Answer 8

You need to tell him to back off and that he bothers you. If he gets violent or gets worse you should tell someone like a boss or even the police. Complain that he makes you uncomfortable. Everyone deserves to feel safe in their workplace.

Answer 9

Report what is happening to a supervisor. No one can help you if there is no complaint. Employers have to respond to this type of harassment. Have them make it a general statement, not specifically about you. Something like," All of the women in the office need to be respected by... " That is their job. Also, if you don't say anything to a boss they can claim that you didn't mind him doing this. They can't fire him if no one has made a complaint. If you complain he gets a warning, if he wants to keep the job he will straighten up, get some counseling or at the very least leave you alone.  

Answer 10

Get your boyfriend to kick his ***

Answer 11

i think he likes u in a creepy way just be sure not to be with him a lone ever!!!!!!!!! maybe report him to ur super viser if he does anything but so far he has not done anything major

Answer 12

hes got a crush on ya (DUH) but just tell ur manager or slap him. take ur pick

Answer 13

rat his *** out to your supervisor, it thats uneffective go one up the chain of command if that doesnt work the call you human resources director to report that your supervisors are not taking control of this situation and you feel like your work environment is unsafe and you can ask them what your next step should be. this way the company is liable. just go through the propper channels and if nothing is done about him ... sue their asses off