What should I do about my best friend? ?

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My best friend and I got into a huge fight last month. Let me first start off by saying I am 28 and she is 25 and we have been best friends for 6 years now. We did everything together. I am engaged in a happy relationship for 6 years now and she is living w/ her boyfriend of 10 years and she is 5 months pregnant now. Well, last month I emailed her telling her that on Saturday I was going to the beach finally for the first time this summer. She replied that Saturday was the day her and her sister were going to do her baby registry and she can not believe that I forgot. Now, let me say that she made plans w/ her sister to go 2 months ago and said I can come along if i wanted to. I told her I would love to come. I really just forgot the day since it was 2 months before we were going. So I told her that I would not go to the beach and I would be there to do the registry w/ her and that I was sorry I forgot the day. She replied back that she no longer wants me to come because I am a horrible friend since I forgot the day and that she also does not want me to plan her baby shower anymore and all the money I spent so far she would refund to me. She said she would invite me now only as a guest if I wish to attend and she said I will see you there if you can remember to show up. Well she goes on about how I am a crappy friend and all this rude stuff. So from there is got ugly, I told her that I was sorry I forgot but I have every intention of still going and that as long as I was going to go I dont understand the big deal. (Mind you I have had alot going on w/ my brother having a baby to and I was having some health concerns at the time) She cursed me out and said not to call or email her anymore and that she has no time to waste on people like me. I responded to her that I do not understand why when we get into a fight she has to say mean things to hurt me. I told her htat I do not do that to her and I would appreciate her not doing it to me. Well, she called me at work and told me to go F*** myself and that she never wants to talk to me again. She is the type of person that thinks she can be rude to you and if you answer her back you have no right to.She is very stubborn and even if she is wrong she will not apologize or admit she made a mistake. Well basically we have not talked since that day and I have been very upset over the entire thing. I was always there for her whenever she needed me and I always had her back. Was I really so wrong here that I deserved this? Or do you feel she over reacted on the whole thing? Should I call her or should I just forget her? Pls help! Thank you!

Answer 1

I would forget about her.  You were not in the wrong here.  She must be overly emotional from being pregnant.  Whatever - you don't need that kind of a friend in your life.  Send her something when the baby arrives and maybe she will be over her hormonal craziness and want to talk again.  Otherwise, just forget about her.  She will continue to behave this way in the future and probably isn't worth the heartache.  

Answer 2

She owes you an apology.  Don't call her back.  Go to the shower and keep a low profile.  Take her a gift.  Then, just forget it.  If a friend makes you unhappy, then they are not a true friend.  Anyone in your life that makes you miserable or talks to you that way needs to be avoided.  You can make new friends.

If she does apologize, accept the apology and then try to tell her how she made you feel.  If she blows because you tell her how you felt, that should be the last chance she gets.  Life is too short and there are good fun people out there to make friends with.

Answer 3

She is in the wrong and completely overreacted.

Why on earth does she need you to help her fill out a registry? Her sister was helping with that and you ahve your own life, which includes going to the beach.

Sorry, but her calling your place of employment to yell at you would have been the end for me.

I would have cut her off right there.

She sounds like a raging b.

Not much of a friend at all.

Answer 4

Wow is your best friend hormonal or what?!?  If this is how she treats you when it comes to a disagreement then I say give her space to think about her actions.  She probably expects you to beg for her forgiveness and beg to resume the friendship.  

Don't give in.  You've already apologized and explained yourself.  Any normal and rational person would accept your apology.  She needs to realize that she's not treating you right.  In order for that to happen, you need to give her space to think about her behavior.  Don't panic.  She'll come around.  Especially if she was truly your best friend for the past six years.

Answer 5

well it could just be her pregnancy. i mean, pregnant people can be moody, and maybe thats all it is. or, shes really mad. i've been in a situation just like this. i think this is a really awful reason to be fighting. if you are really that good of friends, she should forgive you for the sake of the friendship. untill then, maybe you should back off a little. but thats your desicon