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What should I do about my cheating husband?

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My husband and I have been married for 11 years now. Before my husband and I were married- I found out that he was visiting s*x for pay shops and that he also was having an affair with a co-worker of his. I also found out that he was involved in internet s*x and pornography. But i still forgave him and married him thinking he had regrets. A few years ago i found out that he had memberships to beastiality sites and that he was registered on several dating sites. Just a year ago i found out that he visited a massage place where he payed for s*x. I've also found out that he has been having an affair with another co-worker at a new job. He is now out of the country and I'm afraid that he is still doing wrong. He has told me, since he has been gone, that he wants to remarry me ad that he is sorry for all the years of cheating. Should I believe him? Should I leave him?

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Once a cheater always a cheater.

Why did you marry him in the first place. Move on and find a real man. You should feel lucky if you didn't get some funky disease from him.

Run from him. He will not change.
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He has the classic signs of a s*x addict.  And if you continue to stay with him, you are putting yourself at risk for all sorts of sexually transmitted diseases.  Also, you teach people how to treat you, and you have taught him to walk all over you with no consequences.

For your safety, and hopefully, for his recovery, LEAVE HIM NOW!!  And believe me, he will try to do everything to keep you.  I know....my ex was a s*x addict, and he will promise you the moon and the stars, but for the love of your SELF, LEAVE NOW!!!
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He is probably sincerely remorseful, but it sounds like he has a s*x addiction. Until he faces this fact and wants to get professional help, all the self-remorse in the world won't change his behavior.

Good luck.
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A judge decides the verdict by weighing the evidence. In this case, based on how you've presented it, the evidence all points to this guy being unwilling or unable to be faithful to you. That you are even considering staying with him tells me you love him very much. But sometimes love is not enough - and that's true in this case, since you've asked the question. My advice: Leave him temporarily, tell him when he has a consistent track record of staying away from this stuff then he can approach the court of your affection again and present new evidence, and you can judge at that time if he deserves another chance. Until then? Well, one definition of insanity is doing the same thing the same way every time but expecting a different outcome. Unless you do something radically different, you will always get what you always got.
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NO.. I wouldnt believe him one bit.. and yes you should leave him.. in all honesty you shouldnt have married him knowing what you knew before you got married. He cheats, he says he sorry, you forgive..then he cheats again, hes sorry, you forgive.. sounds like a vicious cycle that needs to be stopped... Knowing all that he has done and all the s*x and women he has been with I would go to your doctor and have yourself a complete exam, and tested for everything and anything...
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Leave him .
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Honey, do I need to drop a rock on your head before common sense takes over. You already know that it is best for you to end this emotional roller coaster of a marriage; however, what you are hooked on is the way you USE to feel about yourself when with him. THAT NO LONGER EXIST....THAT GREAT FEELING OF LOVE. We love according to how we feel about ourselves when with others. You feel terrible to have been betrayed, tricked and although you want not to have made a mistake, marrying this guy....YOU DID. ACCEPT IT AND MOVE ON. It is your responsibility to be happy in life, NO ONE ELSE'S.

You knew all this about him before you got married and still you were so desperate and addicted to that loving feeling, you took him on anyway. STOP THE MADNESS AND STOP WASTING THE BEAUTIFUL YOU THAT YOU ARE ON A GUY WHO HAS NO INTENTIONS OF GETTING HELP FOR HIS s*x ADDICTIONS. HE IS OUT OF CONTROL AND RUNNING RUSSIAN ROULETTE BY POSSIBLY HAVING UNPROTECTED s*x AND THEN COMING HOME TO YOU. WAKE UP AND GOOD LUCK WITH COMMON SENSE. LOVE YOURSELF MORE THAN ANY MAN, OTHER THAN GOD.
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You know the answer to this one. You have found out that he is a liar, would rather pay someone to have s*x with him, rather than come home. Joins memberships to s*x clubs, and then tells you he is sorry. Is he sorry you found out about all of these activities or is he sorry that you will leave and no one else will put up with him? I myself would wave as I left and forget his name and number.
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leave him i think he is bsing...
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Honey You need to pull yourself together. And figure out if you can ever

trust him again or will you always be thinking is he cheating on me.

That is the question you need to ask yourself. If you always wonder

about him then you have no trust and can't have a good relationship.

Then again you can always swept it under the rug and not care but that is hard to do.You don't need that kind of stuff in your life. I have been with the same man for almost 19 years. And it has been give and take. Sometimes I don't know if I really want to stay and then other times I feel like I do. It all comes from your heart. Listen to what your heart tell you. And I hope everthing works out for you God Bless
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Umm.. YOU of all people should know by now that this man has serious issues and will not change. Don't even question it and don't even assume that he'll change... he can promise you the world and tell you he's going to change but he just won't, trust me. He might be good for a little while but then go right back to this and cause you more heartache. Leave him. I know because I was with a man that did similar stuff and I believed him for a really long time that he'll change and that he'll stop and just never did.
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yeah leave his azz u dont need that c**p
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Is DOORMAT imprinted on your forehead?

It must be if you're going to stay with someone that's addicted to s*x, has probably passed on a STD to you, and you're thinking about getting back together with him.

If you don't feel you can do any better, then go for it if your self esteem is that d**n low.
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aren't you afraid of catching something??

some of the things you have found out would have made me leave years ago...
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That isn't love for you. You deserve respect, loyalty, trust and communication. Leave him, he will only continue to hurt you. Don't stay addicted to the torture.
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LEAVE HIM DON'T BELIEVE HIM...
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O honey, pack your bags and leave. He has a problem, seriously! No good man would do that to his wife. You've spent 11 years loving, supporting and being the best wife you know how and he's been doing these horrible things not just be hind your back, but he's been lying to you, staring into your eyes.  You deserve so much better. Please do yourself a favor and run far away from this man. He wont change if you keep folding and staying with him. Right now he knows you love him and don't want to be without him, so he's dangling his love in front of you, waiting for you to just grab it and give him another chance. This man does not love you, love doesn't do that to the ones you supposedly want to spend the rest of your lives with.   I know it'll be hard, but you'll be so much better off.

Take care and I promise everything will work out.
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Now you know in your heart exactly what he is doing in that other country. Tell me this? Would you like to get a horrible std that can't be cured or worse yet AIDS because he can't keep his hummmm in his pants? When you think about it that way hopefully you will be smart enough to leave the sorry **** and get what is due to you moneywise. I personally would take any money that is left- drain the account- pack your bags and leave unless you own the place or pay the rent. Do this while he is out of country so he doesn't know what hit him once he comes back. Leave no trail behind of where you are at. It is none of his business. Serve him with Divorce papers when the time is right.

The guy clearly has a s*x addiction. He needs to have his head examined- no pun intended.

Please have the brains to leave him. If you do stay with him you have no one to blame, but yourself.

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okay he is well over his three strikes, and them sum.People will always say leave.But that old Mr.Love wont let you leave until you have had enough.You need to go to marriage counseling immediately.He truly enjoys s*x but he should be enjoying it at home especially with sexually transmitted diseases on the rise.Only you can decide how much more your body and soul can take.
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The bestiality sites alone I think good enough reason to leave him.  Yes leave him.

A woman I know,  married her husband knowing that he liked visiting hookers. She knew he was no good from the beginning. She expected him to change.  He disappointed her.    Some people can't be faithful,  even if their life depended on it.
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I'm sorry, if he hasn't changed his ways then I would be outta there. It doesn't look like he wants to change, and I bet he has a s*x addiction. The bestiality thing is what gets me - that's just frightening. Yeah, I would leave.
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leave him

that will teach him

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Get rid of him.

I would immediately seek legal advice before he comes back.

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Cheating before you even married? Ok, I probably wouldn't have married him, but I can understand forgiving him ONCE. Cheating repeatedly AFTER you're married? Nope. No go. He has proven that he doesn't value you or respect your marriage.

I don't usually advocate spite in divorce proceedings, but take him to the cleaners!!!
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what are you talking about? "Should I believe him? Should I leave him? ", this man has, I'm sure, put you through h**l, unless you are into s and m. get rid of him. and im sure that we you ryahoo answers family do not understand the love you have for him, but think about it, if you have kids, what is this doing to them? he may catch something (STD) and bring it home to you. third, he may do it again, once a cheater, always a cheater....in your case, always a p**n freak. leave him. its better for you that way...
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WOW! Well! You knew from the beginning he's a cheater and now your stuck with one. It sounds to me that he will never change his evil ways... from what your telling all of us. I think a person can only take so much and by the way have you been checked for any STD/AIDS... He doesn't seem to care if he puts you life at risk a long with his... I think because of this a long I would surely leave him. Best wishes to you. Sorry! Your husband doesn't respect you or your wedding vows or marriage... It's time to move on to better fields...He doesn't deserve you...
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