What should I do about my friend?

Question

Ok my best friend is going through a tough time right now. I think she has an eating disorder (she is seeing a psychiatrist though) and her family is very unstable. Her mom has many mental disorders (like OCD) and is very unstable. She is also an alcoholic. Her dad is also an alcoholic and he always threatens to "kick her ***". luckily, my friends brother lives with them (he's 17) and he always stands up for her. He basically holds the family together. Her and her brother are very close. He also always has to drive my friend places and pay for things because her parents can't do that. The reason I'm concerned though, is what's going to happen when her older brother goes to college next year. I know he'll visit and everything, but he won't always be there to support her. I have talked about this with my parents, and they said she could stay at our house a lot. I don't want to tell any officials, I don't trust what they'd do is best. Like, I'm not really worried about her safety, because I think her mom would kick her dad out if he actually hurt her, but I'm worried about her mental health, because of her eating disorder, she shouldn't be in an unstable home. So what do you suggest? thanks! <33

Answer 1

Why are people giving rude and horrible answers like kill her. you guys probably dont have a life.

i&#039;d talk to her brother about this. see what he has to say and what he thinks. his sister needs him right now and maybe he shouldnt be going to college at such an unstable time.

his sister will thank him for it in the future.

Answer 2

i know you may not want to hear this, but you have to report her family to the police. she&#039;ll most likely be placed with other family members, but the law states that if you know of any abuse (physical, emotional, sexual, or mental), you have to report it. it&#039;s not an easy task, but it&#039;s a necessary one.

i had to do this myself with my friend a few years ago, he was like your friend&#039;s brother. he held his family together, and protected his sister. and even though no one else in his family knew, his dad took everything out on him.

also, ask your parents if your friend can stay with you. if she doesn&#039;t have family to go to, your family may offer to foster her.

i&#039;m sorry this is happening to your friend, but this is the best way to get her out of this situation.

Answer 3

talk to her  

Answer 4

see if she can live with you.

or adopt herrrrr! WOO.

Answer 5

Talk to your friend and get her view point too, but if your folks are willing to let her stay with your family sometimes then great...do it. Maybe see if it can be a full time thing and then she can visit her family off and on when she wants to. Whatever is going to help her out. But ultimately it is her decision. Its hard to leave home, but I am sure it is even harder when home is not your own home but a friends home instead. If your friend likes being at your house better then maybe try it out and see how it goes.

Answer 6

well I&#039;m going to put myself in your situation.

my friend is going to need some help,

i&#039;d invite her over to spend the night and talk.

talk to her a lot about some problems. if she doesn&#039;t want to talk to i&#039;ll just keep letting her know i&#039;m here for her and when she wants to talk I&#039;m here waiting cause i care for her.

right now she probably feels unwanted by her father and neglected by both parents. from the sounds of it, it sounds like her brother is like her Hero.

him going off to collage is going to be hard for her. cause it&#039;ll be like him deserting her.

i would just try and be there as much as i could cause she&#039;s going to need a lot of support

i think that&#039;s all there is to do.

let her know your there when ever she need to talk n get some things off her chest.

n make sure she eats.

ppl have to eat to live.

good luck with your friend

Answer 7

You are a very good friend to be so concerned about her...I think she may not be hurt by her parents in a physical way but she is being destroyed  mentally , you are right to be worried. You first need to talk to her about how she will feel when her brother goes away , then take it from there. If your parents are happy to have her stay in your home ,that would be a great help to her I&#039;m sure but first talk to her about everything...you don&#039;t say how old she is ? that also will be a big factor in what can  be done to help her.