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What should I do about my old friend?

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I have a problem about this old friend. Well me and her became friends in 7th grade and we had the same classes and periods. We had so many things in common and she was like my best friend the whole year. I think I became really attached to her though. In 8th grade, I had no classes with her and I could only talk to her on the phone, on instant message, and on this game I play with her. Everything was going well throughout the school year until it came to april. Me and her were talking and then she just logged off of msn. Soo I went on my game and she suddenly comes on and I asked why she logged off of msn. She had no answer ...... sooo I asked about her writing test scores on this test and she still didn't answer. I thought she was ignoring me soooo I just said this randomly out to my other online buddies "She's being an idiot." Annnnd she finally answered and then all of a sudden we get into this argument and she deletes me off her buddy list. I tried apologizing to her the next day, but she just told me to leave her alone, and I think I went a little bit overboard and I called her a piece of **** ... I felt really bad about it ... I didn't mean to. I was just angry. When I was talking to my guy friend this one day, he said he was talking to her and trying to get her to forgive me. But all she said was that I was gonna live in h**l. Then after a while .... she said she didn't want to be my friend anymore. She's the kind of person that you can't find everyday that has almost the same common things as me sooo I felt kind of down. The last thing she said to me was, "Have a good life." It took me a little while to get over, but my guy friend helped me to get over it. Sooo I deleted her from my list, threw away anything she gave me, and moved along with life. I go into high school and I don't have any classes with her. I made a few new friends too. One day, I got my schedule changed ... like I only got one class changed (my math one). And I go in it with my new friend I made and everything's good. The next day, I go into my math class annnnd I hear a voice saying, "I got switched to this class" and it turns out that it's her. She sits right behind my new friend that I made (She's friends with my new friend) annnd I hear her voice in the background whenever I do my classwork. I'm just so pissed off that's she in my class and that for once, I'm trying to get over it. This one time she asked for my help on the work annnd if I can't help her, she just ignores me and talks to my new friend the whole time about how she got her schedule changed and asking her for help whatsoever. .... I can't help it though..... whenever I try to show my work to her and explain how to do it, my hand is always shivering (Maybe it's kind of cold in the classroom)... and I feel like she's trying to take away my new friend I just made. I regret trying to get my classes changed and I don't want to get it changed again. And now that she's in my class now, all I can think about is her being in my class. Sometimes I regret getting into that argument with her .... and then I get angry cause she just won't accept my apology. Sooo any advice guys?

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  1. She asked you to help her with her work once you were in this new school after your big argument. Maybe she was trying to reopen the lines of communication with you. When that didn't seem to work she befriended your new friend.....possibly another attempt.

    Set up a study date between the three of you.....clean the slate and don't bring up your old argument unless she wants to. When you're alone with your new friend don't ask things or talk about your old friend. Stop being angry about it all the time, anger wastes too much energy. This is a new year....if she doesn't want to be friends anymore, so be it. Don't sabotage the friendship she now has with your new friend, just learn how to split the time between the two of you.

    High school is what's going to prepare you (partly) for your adult hood. What you take with you into the future are the things you will learn now, don't learn to keep a grudge, learn to work thru it, if that doesn't (can't seem to) happen, then learn to just let it go. You have much better things to plan on your life I'm sure. Good luck~


  2. if she's mad at you for some reason you don't know, ask her whats wrong, and then say your sorry for what you did. If you like her, find out if she likes you. Talk to her, flirt with her or just whatever. Then she'll star to like you if you are nice, kind and sweet to her. Hope that helped you. good luck!

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