What should I do about my situation?

Question

Today me and my boyfriend got into a fight about the dumbest thing, all I asked him to do is not let our son cry and he said he was hurt by that. Then he tells our son "Mommy, hurt my feelings" I am just irritated that he said that to our son. Then he tells me that he told his friend that I convinced him to have s*x. That really pissed me off, then we got into a physical fight while my son was in my arms. I am just so hurt I just don't know what to do. I want full custody of my son, he is on the birth certificate. How do I handle this?

Answer 1

We all have problems but that does not mean that we must walk away from them. Take time out so that you both could work out your feelings. Learn from the experience so that you do not make the same mistakes again. It takes two hands to clap, it takes two people to make a relationship work and it takes two people to brake it. Consider - what wrong did you do to get this argument started off and what you could have done to perhaps prevent it. It is easy to see others faults but it is difficult to see your own.

Answer 2

Talk to a lawyer

Answer 3

Go to court and take a picture of the marks your sons father left you saying that he is abusive and rude, which really shows that the father doesn't need to be around his son.  

Answer 4

Okay first of all if you want full custody go to family court and file for full custody.  Second of all don't get into these petty fights with you boyfriend in front of your son.  You don't have to respond to this type of stuff.

I am recently divorced of 12 1/2 years and I have three children with my ex husband and he started doing little silly things infront of the children standing outside my car crying and making a scene and the kids thought I was doing something to their father and I never said a word to him while he went on doing this.  One day he called me with some mess again my daughter happened to be listening at my door and heard the stuff he said,  later he tried to act like he didn't say what he said but my daughter busted him and said I hear with my own ears what you said Daddy.  

One thing I can say is maintain your dignity children with know for themselves what is going on.  Go to family court and don't use the child as a pon.  If arguing and fighting occur simply remove yourself it may be hard to do but do it for your child.  

Answer 5

Don't physically fight and work on improving yourself so that you can appear to the judge your are a fit mother.

Answer 6

There is nothing wrong with meeting your sons needs, however, if he was crying because he was having atantrumm, then I understand your boyfriend's reply. I do not think it okay to hit someone  out of anger. I would ask your boyfriend why he told his friend that.

Answer 7

I don't fully understand the nature of your question, but I would go to your local Family court in the city/town where you reside & tell them you want full custody of your son. You could tell them he is incline to get physical w/you at any given time.  Let them know he has anger issues & has gotten "physical" w/you while you were holding your son,& you fear for his safety if he's left alone in his care.  They are very helpful & w/help you out w/any questions you may have.  If it has to go to court, it would go thru their Family Court & be heard by their judge.  You would be appointed a case worker who w/also be available for your assistance at all times. They also are very against physical violence so it would benefit you to speak up & let them know this is also an issue that worries you w/your son.  I trust them completely & highly advise you to start out w/them for their assistance.  Best to you...:)

Answer 8

you picked him---- live with it forever a huge mistake children blind you forever

Answer 9

get support from your close family, and ask them to help you..and yea. get a lawyer.

Answer 10

honestly i think u guys should talk to each other or get some help from a therapist rather than ask questions on yahoo answers that are just going to cause each of you to be angrier at one another

yea and i agree with ur boyfriend's comment above mine

talk face to face rather than computer screen to computer screen

if u guys could have a baby together why cant u have a decent conversation together too?