What should I do about my stress?

Question

I get really bad anxiety about almost everything.. I am constantly thinking about things and how to fix things.. what I need to do next.. what I have coming up next week. What's worse is I care about everyone else's problems and make them my own as well. Is there anything I can do about this? Medication? Doctors? Mental thoughts? I would love the help!

Answer 1

See anxiety treatments, at  ezy build (below) in section 6. Set yourself a specific time period for worrying about anything, (say; around three quarters of an hour, possibly when you get home, or after your evening meal, but not too close to bedtime) after which, resolve firmly to refuse to even entertain the thought of worrying again on that day: realise and accept that to do otherwise would be counterproductive to your mental health, and enjoyment of life.    

                  You will have had your "worry time" for the day, and can just write down any more thoughts that come to mind, and say to yourself: "Well, I'll just have to worry about that tomorrow, won't I?".            It is important to deal with a negative internal monologue (self talk), or mental process, such as disturbing thoughts, or images, by the process of (a): recognising it, and (b): challenging it immediately.          

                                                                                 When you notice  something negative, such as: "I'm never going to get over this!" or: "Why am I always so pathetic/useless/such a loser?" or even: "I can't do this/will never get over this!", or a disturbing image, recognise that this is part of the mindset which will hold you back from progressing in your recovery.                                                                                                                                                                           Having identified and labelled it, I first visualise a large  "STOP!" sign, then I say to myself as forcefully as I can, even aloud in a big voice, if alone: "I know this tactic: GO AWAY FOR A WHILE !!!" You may want to use either: "ruse", "ploy", "game", or "trick", instead of "tactic". In the case of an image, visualise a large "STOP" sign, or your preferred version.                                                                                                                                           Some people go so far as to keep a wide rubber band in their pocket, then put it around their wrist, when they catch themselves backsliding, stretch and release it, as a method of reprogramming their mind sooner, but I don't regard it as being strictly necessary. Remember to remove it, afterwards, if you use this method.

         Practice one of the relaxation methods in sections 2, 11, 2c, or 2i, daily, and when needed. Alternatively, give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. There is also a version for use in public places, (if you like, you can claim to have a headache, as you massage/lightly tap your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind). Section 53,  and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o at  http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris also refer: "Even though I sometimes suffer from anxiety, I deeply and completely accept myself." Neurofeedback treatment for anxiety is increasingly becoming available.  Herbal remedies, such as valerian, (which is not recommended for use if depression is also present) passionflower, or St.John's wort, are often effective, but the idea is (as with anxiolytic medication) to use them like water wings, or training wheels on a bicycle, providing initial support, and giving time for other treatments, such as therapy, and relaxation techniques, to take effect.              

A variant of Eye Movement Desensitisation & Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from anxiety: it is easily learned, quick to use, yet can be very effective, is on page N, of section 6, and I use it before the relaxation techniques, because I have found that it makes them quicker to employ, and more effective. Stress: see section 42 at ezy build: page i first.

Answer 2

Try the following:

Going on Vacation

Having stress balls around the house

Getting more sleep

Cleaning out your entire home

Don't take on too many projects at once and don't worry about other people's problems because whatever the turnout is won't affect you. Also, try talking to your parents or close friends. Good luck!

Answer 3

Yoga! Trust me!

Answer 4

WOW! It's like reading my own biography! Yes definitely see a doc, and or pray I have done both,,,and my husband sees a difference in me everyday...Trust me you cant fix it in one day or two weeks I myself have been seeing a doctor  for a while .watching what I eat  and drink has really helped me sleep at night. slow your pace down.

Answer 5

See a therapist

Until you do this - you will ignore any other advise we give you.  A professional will discuss your life/issues and PERHAPS give some drugs for the short-term while trying to teach you how to deal with these issues.

Answer 6

Try to spend about 15-20 minutes a day deep breathing.

Take each day at a time and erase negative thoughts with positive ones.