What should I do about my wedding?

Question

I'm planning my wedding and I have no Idea for the following,

The color scheme

between a blue,purple,red, or white wedding dress all have the same fabolous design

where my reception should be

how do conduct my bridal shower

what the menu should be for the wedding dinner

where should I order a cake at

who should be my maid of honor? Claire or Jasmine they are both equally close

please help me! I am under lots of pressure and could use some advice.

I would prefer if you, had some experiance, ever have gotten married, or ever helped somebody get married, or if you know anything at all please no stupid answers because this is serious busness thanks! omg im spelling stuff wrong!

Answer 1

All depends on where you live and how big you want things to be and your price.

We had a church wedding with a reception at a golf resort.

Black and white were our colors.

I had my sister as my maitron of honor and my best friend as my maid of honor. I had my girls in order of how long I have known them in a row.

Lots of websites for cakes. Find a place by you or hire a coordinator to help you. Sometimes hotels have a coordinator to help with all of that.

Your wedding should be a fun occasion. Don't get bogged down in details that you will not remember. I can't even remember where we had our cake, or what food we had. Couldn't tell you. Remember the focus. You are celebrating coming together as a couple and planning to have a wonderful marriage. Don't get so into your wedding plans that you forget that.

Answer 2

For the color scheme, pick a date first, then think about what colors would go well with that season.

I'd go with a white wedding dress.......

Think about who you want to throw your shower. Bridesmaids or family... then talk to them about it.

As far as the menu, you need to talk to your caterer about that if you're hiring one, because they will have different price ranges for different foods.

You could always have 2 maids of honor....

Just make a list of what needs done, and start doing things. You have to take it one step at a time, and I promise it will be worth it!

Answer 3

If you're this unsure about how to proceed: Wedding planner

Answer 4

I agree...get a book to keep organized.  I am planning right now. Go online and look at wedding pictures. You will get an idea  for whats out there. What color flowers you like and don't like. what flowers you like. If you can't decide on your colors yet, thats fine, find your rececption and ceremony site. That way you might be able to decide on color that balance out the scenery.  

what is your favorite food. that might be a good idea for the menu, if you like mexican or southern food. it is all about what you like.

How fomal do you want the wedding to be? if it is not a formal wedding then that will help you choose the type of flowers also and the dress you choose for yourself and bridesmaid.  

Your rececption site will be able to give you a good baker for cakes. The best thing to do is ask people around you, a lady at work might know someone who just got married and they had a wonderful florist or baker.

I am finding out that the key is to look around for what you don't like, and go from there....be flexible and open to new ideas. ask questions...and most of all remember this is about you and your soon to be husband....oh yeah...and have fun!!!!!

Answer 5

I think you definatly should stick with the stuff you like! :) As long as it's within your budget..

Your colours should be your favorite or your husbands! :)

For the reception call around to the halls.. see who can offer you the best price for the best location..

Bridal shower.. (thats someone elses concern)

Menu.. How many guests do you plan on inviting? For a fancy sit down dinner it can cost anywhere between $26-50 a head.. :)

Answer 6

First off.....take a deep breath!!!  My wedding is in 2 weeks, and I have been in 3 weddings in the past 2 years so I have a little experience...I think...lol

For my wedding I was originally going to do a deep purple but when I went with the bridesmaids to Davids Bridal, they had more of a selection in the pool color and the girls looked great in them, so I chose pool (turquoise) silver and white...

look around for reception places...it would be really good to get a wedding planning book....if you register at jcpenneys they will give you a free one (that's what I did) and it has been reallly helpful.

The bridesmaids are typically responsible for planning the shower...

for the menu....find your reception place first, some places have package deals, which can help you out...my wedding is in vegas about 10-15 minutes from the strip in a country club where they have a wedding planner that helps with a lot of details.  You can see it at www.thegrandterrace.com

theknot.com helps a LOT

You can also make a lot of your decorations and favors or check out etsy.com  You can see some of the stuff I made for my wedding at www.etsy.com/rmebraatt I will actually post more pics after the wedding, you can get some ideas from them if you want.

The maid of homor situation..if one is married you can have a maid and matron of honor or you can just have co maid of honors....its your wedding, its your day, do it your way!!

Hope that helps, if you need anything else, feel free to email me, or if you just need someone to bounce ideas off of.

Good luck and CONGRATS!!!!!

Answer 7

i think that your wedding dress should be the traditional white as for your bride maids they should wear either your or your future husbands favorite color.  also think about the season you wanna get married in. i got married in may so i chose a pretty blue color to go with the sky.  your maid of honor throws the bridal shower.  the menu - decide if you want it sit down or buffet, i had where the wedding party was served and the guests did buffet and it was chicken or beef.  meals average $20 - $30 per head.  the cake try your local grocery stores that have bakery's or just call around to your local bakery's and they can give you prices and even do taste testing for the flavor.  your maid of honor is the person that you are closest to and can trust 100%.  if you cant decide between them then have 2, weddings are all differnt these days.

* just a side note to destress yourself go and get a deep muscle massage a few days before your wedding.

good luck hope i helped

Answer 8

For the color scheme - I think that blue and purple would look lovely together. You can darken or lighten the colors depending on what time of year you are planning to get married.

Do you know where the ceremony is going to be held? If you do then start looking for reception places that are close to your ceremony venue.

Your bridal shower is something that your Maid of honor will handle - that is not something that you need to worry about.

For the wedding dinner - it depends on your location. If you book a reception hall you will probably need to have your own caterer...which gives you a lot of options. If you choose a place like a hotel then you will most likely be selecting off of their menu. You can decide whether or not you want to have a buffet or sit down dinner depending on prices, selection and the size of your guest list.

The maid of honor should be someone who is very reliable and dependable. It should be someone whom you can trust and you know will be helpful and supportive. You could make both of them your maid of honor, or you could have them be bridesmaids and not have a maid of honor. My friend did that at her wedding. She felt equally close to both of her bridesmaids, so she didn't desginate a maid of honor. It worked out nicely though because both girls got along and were able to plan things together.

I suggest you go to theknot.com, brides.com and weddingwire.com and register with them. A lot of your questions will be able to be answered on those websites.

Don't worry - it will all come together. Just take things one step at a time.

I also suggest you get a binder and tabs labeled with the following:

Ceremony/Officiant

Reception Venue/Caterer

Rehearsal Dinner

Flowers

Photography/Videography

Transportation

Music/DJ

Cake

Dresses/Attire

Hair/Make-Up

Registry

Honeymoon

Misc.

Answer 9

just the two of you go to vegas and get elvis to marry you. its way better then all the other cr*p that goes with wedings. dont care what other people think, its just a weding.

Answer 10

ok well i think your dress should be white and traditional, thats just my opinion though. I think it would be pretty for your made of honors and stuffs dresses to be like maybe a light blue, yellow or pink. And im just saying a random name here, claire. But you could always be different and have 2 maids of honor? :)

Answer 11

about the maids of honor... don't pick they will be disgruntled.  just delegate tasks to them both...  

decide how many people you are going to have at your wedding.  when you do that you will know if you want to have a sit down or a buffet style.  

when you get that you can figure out the place that can accomodate your choice.  

when you figure out the place then that should be able to kind of help you out figuring the color scheme you can see if you want to go along the lines of how it is already decorated or go in completely different direction.  

if you go in a different direction you can have your theme follow the design and colors of your dress say you have a traditional lacy flowery dress then you want the wedding to follow that flow... with sit down dinner of traditional beef or chicken, with linens and lots of flowery decor... which leads you in the direction of color what flowers you like lead your decision.  

if your dress is simple no fuss, buffet would follow that flow and a have fun atmosphere... with maybe candles as centerpieces.

all in all... i think you should start by going thru some bridal books and clip pix of things you like colors, flowers, dresses and then take from those clippings what you really like about them and go from there.  

Don't forget to take your budget into account. somethings cost more than you would imagine when it comes to a wedding and there are a plethora of teeny tiny things that add up in the end. Invitations, cake, programs, setting cards for dinner, dj, flowers, hall, chair/table covers, silverware, staff, clean up, food, minster, church, tuxedos,

all else fails get a planner ;-) good luck.