What should I do about the situation?

Question

I am six months pregnant and have just married a man who is 23 years my senior (he is the father of the child). Many of my friends tell me that I making a mistake and that I should experience the world first. It makes me sad that they say like that, I love my husband and I know he has nothing but the best for me in his mind. They also backtalk him and says he is ugly, not rich enough and things like that. I am 18 and he is 41. And yes I had boyfriends before but only one serious. My husband want me to have contact with my friends bec he says I will be alone if I havent. He mostly do not know what they say.

Answer 1

You have already made the decision to not "experience the world" by getting pregnant and marrying a 41 year old man. While it may sound exciting now to be married to him that will change. When you are 28 he will be 51 and when you are a young 38 he will be 61 and probably retired. If you love him, it may work out for you. However, it is always difficult when there is so much age difference. You have nothing in common with his friends and he has nothing in common with your friends. Don't repeat bad things your friend say about him. I'm sure he hears bad remarks about you from his friends, too. This is just what happens when you date (and marry) someone that is from another generation. Good luck.

Answer 2

Maybe you should tell your friends to their face how you feel about what they are doing, those who trully are your friends will understand. Btw dont tell your husband any bad things your friends say. Good Luck to all three of you

Answer 3

Cristy,

In my opinion, the only thing that matters is how the two of you feel towards one another, that the relationship is a good one and that you create a good home and family atmosphere for your child that is coming. I would question how good of friends you have if they cannot be supportive of you and wish you happiness. If you are happy, that is all that matters and they should be happy for you. There is no appropriate thing to say to friends comments other than you would appreciate them wishing the best for you and your husband.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

Find new friends.  A friend is gonna want you to be happy and if being with your husband makes you happy they should support you.  If it fails, they should still stand by you.

Answer 5

you should know your friends aren't completely wrong!he is much older than you.anyway he is right when he says you should have contacts with your friends.i think your friends want only whats best for you,and you cant expect them to accept easily this situation.you just have to talk to them.tell them that you really love your husband you think what you are doing is right,after all you are already married so its worth the try.if it doesn't work out they should be near you and support you.you should just have a little patience,until they get used to the idea.

Answer 6

1. Don't listen to what your friends say, it's only their opinion.

2. Take care of yourself and that baby when it comes. Good luck there.

3. If your hubby is good to you and good for you, then love him back.

4. Believe in yourself.