What should I do about this? (babysitting job trouble)?

Question

Ok so my dad dated this woman for about a month and she was wayyy more into than he was so he dumped her. She had already hired me as her summer nanny. She said 9-4 weekdays and I said how about $175/week because I live 20 minutes away and she would be driving me back and forth 2 times a day. So then she says 'well actually i dont want to drive that much so you have to spend the night twice a week or you cant do it' and I was like umm ok. So then today (my 2nd day), she picked me up and we got to her house and her daughter was throwing up and had a fever. She said 'well you get to play nurse today!' her daughter is 5. She was completely miserable, she was in tears half the day because she wanted her mom and I did not want to get sick. I told my dad and he was mad that she made me be around her so he called her and said that a daycare wouldnt have let you bring her can you please give her the same respect. She got mad and was rude about it. I said that I didnt think my dad....(cont)

Answer 1

To be responsible, give her a two weeks notice.  Nannies have more responsibilities than a baby sitter or a daycare provider.  I agree with you that Mom should be home with her sick kids...but in her eyes...that is what she is paying you for.  Daycare providers won't take sick kids so they don't infect the rest of their clients kids.  In your case...they are all related.  If you don't care for a reference or Dad doesn't want you there....Quit.  Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I think you should quit. She sounds mean.

Answer 3

If you were going to back out, you should have done it earlier. You could have backed out when she said she couldn't drive you back and forth. You could have backed out pretty much anytime, actually, and especially since the break up, no one would have blamed you.

If you didn't feel that the pay was enough, you could have negotiated then, or refused the offer.

Now, however, you have made a committment, and to back out now would be unfair to this woman.

The reason why sick kids are not allowed in daycares is because they can spread illness to other children, not because of anything to do with the caretaker. A nanny would still be expected to take care of the child.

To me, it doesn't sound as if this woman is taking advantage of you at all. You made a committment, and you should stick to it.

Answer 4

It is not worth it, especially for 175 a week! The situation has been made extremely awkward by the fact that she and your dad are no longer dating, and you should not have to be in the middle of it. You, or your dad, could politely tell her, that your dad is no longer allowing you to do the position. Because of the fact that he has made this a little awkward for you, and because he is the parent, the heat could be put on him, in my opinion. You should not have to watch someone's sick child when they are vomiting or have a fever, because they would be very contagious. Have your dad tell her you are not allowed anymore, and enjoy your summer!!

Answer 5

Um..  I suggest you get out of this situation and fast.  Its great that you were going to do that for her, but if she isnt going to give you common courtesy (she atleast could have told you before hand that the kid was sick) then you should just get out of it.  

There are many other places you can find babysitting jobs.  That kind of drama (which may possibly be feuled by the break up) is not worth it at all.

Answer 6

Playing nurse to a sick kid is part of being a nanny.

It is your choice as to whether or not you want to continue, but remember that since she is your dad's ex, she may decide to be mean to you out of revenge.  I would have backed out of the job after the break-up.

Answer 7

sometimes it not about the money.  any daycare provider would not accept a sick child.  why couldn't your dad pick you up when the job ends.  if you end up spending the night, you will be babysitting all night it sounds like.