What should I do about this lazy and inconsiderate, no good parent in my child's life???

Question

Ok, my daughter is 5 years old. Her father just recently told me a couple of weeks ago that he didnt want to see her again. Why?? I have no idea. He has never really been constant in her life mentally or physically. He's behind in child support in almost $16,000. We went to court about 2 years ago and I was granted full custody/w reasonable visitation for him. I have to call him to try to make arrangements with him, so he can see her. His mother is a instigator. She always gets problems escalated bigger than what they are. Now, my point is he very sneaky and conniving. He probably will try to take me to court and say I haven't been letting him see her,which he has done before and ended up getting locked up because of child support. Do you think it's anything I can do to protect this from happening??

Answer 1

sweetie he may do something like that!

BE SURE to keep a log of every time you contact him to see his child

list the following: date, time, weather you spoke to him or left a message, number called, number called from, response and everything you said

so if he does take you to court!  you have a log of all the times you contacted him to see his daughter.. also note times when he says he don't want to see her. Keep it with you make copies whatever the case is if you have it and all the information your just saving your butt!

plus if it does come down to it they can pull the phone records to prove you right!

Also keep a log of all payments received and not received..

to show your good character call his mom and ask her if she wants to see her grand child too!  and again keep the log!

Answer 2

I feel for your daughter.  The only suggestion I have would be to take her to a counselor and you and her both talk to the counselor on an ongoing basis and this way everything will be documented through an objective third party.  The up side is it will also be good for your daughter and yourself considering the stress her dad has taken on you and on your daughter.  If not now it will happen eventually.  Best of luck and hope my suggestion helps.

Answer 3

MadLuv gave great advice.  To add to it, I would also suggest not only sending him requests for visitation through phone messages, but also written message, sent through regular mail, only CERTIFIED, which means that he has to sign for the letter to receive it.  If he refuses to sign for the letter, you get confirmation of this refusal.  (This looks badly on him).  If he does sign for it, you get confirmation (paper confirmation, of course) that it was signed for and received by such-and-such person.  It doesn't matter if his dog signs for it, it was received, addressed to him and you have rock-solid proof that it was accepted.

Doing this will surely discredit any such claims he tries to make concerning you not trying to get in contact.  

Good luck but fight for that money!  Your child deserves it!