What should I do; are they my real best friends?

Question

okay.. so my friends and I were like close like unseparately close, no one could separate us but now we aren't close at all i mean were still best friends but i want us to be close like before and i also think its not my fault because the two of them whenever they go to the movies they invite another girl and they don't even ask me. And when i ask them oh why didn't u invite me they say oh sorry. I talked to one of them and told her were not close anymore and she said i know since that situation happen we aren't close, the situation happened a year ago that we all went to the principles office to solve it. and i asked her what are u doing tomorrow she said if i tell u'll be sad and i said just say it! then she said shes going to the movies with two other girls, she didn't even invite me; again. Should i say anything else to her or should i be mad at them i really don't know; but i want us to be close like before.

Answer 1

You have to realize that the fight you had a year ago had more impact upon your relationship than you want to take credit for.  Most friendships do not have 'situations' which end up in the principles office.  You feel you did nothing wrong here, but obviously the other three girls feel differently.  The four of you are overdue for a sit-down discussion.  Offer to have the girls over to chat, but you must realize that the fact you have waited a year has caused you to loose out on their friendship.

You said that you have not been close since the situation, you must take responsibility for your parent in that, who knows the other three may have apologized to each other and moved on where you have not.  Decide if you want to remain on the outside or make an effort to get back your friends.  That may be easier than making new friends, and what do you gain by being mad at them, you obviously wont be hurting them.

Answer 2

move on

Answer 3

so please be in contact of me. i am always be your friends

Answer 4

tell her that you want to do things with her. you have the right to be mad at her/them. if things don't get any better then stop being friends. it might get even worse if you still try to be friends if you don't tell her how you feel. she needs to know. tell her that she needs to get over what happened a year ago.  

Answer 5

Find better friends.  

Answer 6

You can't make people like you.  Sometimes friends who know each other from a young age tend to grow up and move in different directions and make new friends they feel they have more in common with.  

Don't worry about it.  Join a club at school for something that interests you and see who you meet.

Why don't you initiate a night to go to the movies with these friends and ask the other girl they have been inviting?  It will show you want to hang out with them all and are mature enough to invite the other girl.  If that doesn't appeal to them, then maybe they are not such good friends afterall.

Good luck!

Answer 7

I think this is the three-some problem. Three-somes don't usually work because one person eventually gets left out. And Ii think you'rethe one that's getting left out, but it is undo-able - if you  ALL make it work. You should try and talk to them, if they don't listen to you, then they're not worth it. They're not your real best friends at all if they don't want to save your friendship, they're not seeing that you're unhappy and getting left out.

Answer 8

you will find that in life friends come and go and that huge group of friends that you knew in middle and high school will be almost non-existent by the time you reach your 20's. and in my case alot of them i have come to find out were never my true friends in the first place. so in the meantime just try to have fun and not to sweat the small stuff.

Answer 9

well ive had d same problem. sooo i say tht u should act lke nothing is bothering u i mean u cant depend on 1 frnd 4evr! i mean i kno she was ur best frnd but u have 2 realize frnds come and go and evrythng in life is a lesson i  mean u can b frnds with her but u guys jst wont b as close anymore..and dont try 2 lke start stuff with her. when she says shes goin 2 d movies jst say o ok thts cool or sumthing dont show any sign tht ur mad or annoyed u kno?

g'luck

Answer 10

Forget them and move on.

They sound like fair weathered friends.

Answer 11

they dont sound like very good friends to me but i obviously dont know them like you do. its hard losing a friend and if you want to stay friends with them tel them your feelings bout the situation and that you want to stay tight like yall use to be. and if they dont change or anything then there not worth it. hate saying that but its true. life goes on and we make and lose friends.. the true friends wil stick with you til the end. hope all goes well!!!  

Answer 12

I had leukaemia since my childhood and I have found it hard to make new friends too.

Answer 13

idk if it even worth it to still be her friend...

i dont even think she considerate u as a friend...

just try to find someone u trust and make a new friend

but u said u still wanted to be close as before, i would say to go talk to her but since u did and it didnt work i really dont know what to say...