What should I do if I caught my son?

Question

Wearing my clothes, Well today I got of early at work and I came home to see my son in my panties bra and a skirt, I yelled at him and sent him to his room where I searched and found a lot of my missing clothes, I dont know if I should punish him or take him shopping for his own clothes. When i asked him about it he ignored me and has been in his room all day. What should I do, Punish him by making him wear clothes and with school starting back up.

Answer 1

Embarrassing!!!  I mean for both you and your son.  Ok, we know that your son likes to wear womens clothes.  Some men do, for one reason or another, I dont quite understand.  He may be g*y, doesnt mean that he is g*y (some straight men like to wear womens clothes in secrecy).  

I dont think buying him new clothes would help the situation.  There is obviously something going on that doesnt involve the clothing itself but instead the comfort of being in womens clothing itself.  

Its unusual, but try not to repremand him too much.  We all have quirky/embarrasing habits in our closet that we dont want the world to know (and if they do know we certainly dont want a big deal made out of it!).  Trust me, you discovering this secret of his is bad enough!  You really should just let it go, and maybe explain to him that it suprised you and that was why you yelled and let him know that you wont ever bring it up again - to anyone (please dont go around telling your friends/relatives about this, especially your husband).  Can you imagine him seeing something you do in privacy and telling the world?  Especially something as deviant as this is.  You dont want to make him feel badly about this, he already feels wierd about it himself - im sure.  Ya think?  Imagine yourself in his shoes.  

As parents we need to support our kids, even their wierdness.  

Answer 2

it depends alot on how old your son is. If he is young, maybe he was just playing dressup, if he is a teen talk to him about it, maybe a therapist.

Answer 3

I smell a troll.....you're gross for even being able to come up with this kinda stuff....

Answer 4

dpont punish , talk to him and try to understand him

Answer 5

Well it depends on how old he is. I would say that if he is under the age of 5 then it might be a normal thing. If older than I would take him to someone to talk to if he won't talk to you. I think some boys don't get why women dress different. If he is older and he feels right in women's clothing then you can find a way to deal with it and a proffesional can help you figure things out. Good luck and try to be understanding and not judge him.  

Answer 6

Well don't punish him for goodness sakes. He is likely just experimenting . Yelling at him was not the right thing to do. Approach him in a gentle way or ignore it. Put a lock on your bedroom door if you don't want him in there. He is getting to the age that in a few years you won't be able to control him and if he wants to wear those kinds of things there will be nothing you can do about it. He is your son love him and support him and talk to him in a civil manner and don't be judgemental.  

Answer 7

don't punish him.  Just sit down and talk to him.  Have him show you what he likes.  Ask him to dress for you and model what he likes.  Let him know it is unusual and he probably does not want to tell his friends but it is ok to do.  Ask him if he would like it if you took him shopping for a few things.  See where it goes.  He is not g*y because g*y guys don't wear girls cloths.  Build a relationship with him.

Answer 8

how old is he

Answer 9

Tell him to leave your stuff alone and take him shopping for his own.

Simple as that.

Don't judge but let him know if he wants to talk about it you're there.

Perhaps you'll have a better relationship.

Answer 10

If your son is 15 you most definatley have to talk to that dude.  He is most likely g*y or just enjoys cross dressing.  Perhaps he was doing a prank, and it was his first time, you still would not know. punishing him would make it worse.  He is now in a mode where he thinks you dont like him.  He will keep himself wrapped within himself if you do not take action.Since you already started punishing him you must talk and let him know its okay.  Recently my son told me he was g*y, so then I could not beleive that.  But you must accept that and embrace it....

Answer 11

It would have been nice if you had told us how old he is.  Is he 5 years old or 18 years old ?

Answer 12

well just tell him thats your, he needs to get his own let it be, if thats what make him happy well no matter what u do hes gonna do it.

love him for what he is and dont hate him for what he wear or want to be