What should I do if my family call me ugly?

Question

I'm 18 and studying dentistry, and I don't mean to brag but I'm really smart, clever and generally a nice guy, but I'm ugly and have a real low self-esteem, my depression is only getting worse and started to affect my studies. What makes the thing worse is my family,they don't like me (except my mum but I don't see her often cuz her and my dad split up ) they're even embarrassed to go out with me. My sister is always calling me ugly. One day she was using a digital camera with her friends so I told her not to take picture of me then she said "why would I ever want to take a picture of your ugly face?" I really got angry then broke her camera which I then had to pay for (I know it was stupid of me, but I couldn't take anymore) My brother is the same as my sister but he's stupid so I always make fun of him, he's always out with his friends when he's not supposed to be (he's a school dropout). he thinks he's better than me because he looks better, he always tells me that I won't be able to marry a hot chick like he will but I always tell him that I'm going to be rich and marry a hotter chick, this always gets him. My dad is also always taking their side. He doesn't really call me ugly like my bro and sister, but I know he doesn't like me for my appearence and have overheard him talking about me saying horrible things which really got me down. I'm thinking about moving out and living with my mum. And don't say I'm not ugly, because you haven't even seen me and all you'd be doing is trying to make me feel better which won't even work so don't bother. My mum even says I'm not that good looking but at least she's honest and doesn't joke about it and loves me for who I am. my story is so long but for now I want to know how to deal with my family.

Answer 1

Looks don't matter. Your brothers a loser if he dropped out. So not many women will see him as husband material. Looks fade over time but intelligence does not. I'd rather have a smart guy then a stupid guy.

Answer 2

If you don't like living with them, then you may want to move.

Answer 3

I used to think I was ugly, and I think I actually was.  But serious expression on the face is sometimes attractive.  I once did a genealogy project and was surprised to find gorgeous pictures of relatives I didn't think were so attractive.  This passage in the Bible is really true: "He has made everything beautiful in its time..." Ecclesiastes 3:11 NIV.  If you are not attractive now, someday you will be because of all you are doing now.

Also keep in mind, that though your relative attractiveness might seem to be very very important:"Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting..." Proverbs 31:30 NIV.

Also though keep in mind intelligence and knowledge is also deceptive:  "For with much wisdom comes much sorrow; the more knowledge, the more grief." Ecclesiastes 1:18 NIV.  Also: "Of making many books there is no end, and much study wearies the body." Ecclesiastes 12:12.

So the final advice of Solomon is:

"A man can do nothing better than to eat and drink and find satisfaction in his work. This too, I see, is from the hand of God" Ecclesiastes 2:24 NIV

"So I commend the enjoyment of life, because nothing is better for a man under the sun than to eat and drink and be glad. Then joy will accompany him in his work all the days of the life God has given him under the sun." Ecclesiastes 8:15 NIV

"Be happy, young man, while you are young, and let your heart give you joy in the days of your youth.Follow the ways of your heart       and whatever your eyes see, but know that for all these things       God will bring you to judgment.

So then, banish anxiety from your heart and cast off the troubles of your body, for youth and vigor are meaningless." Ecclesiastes 11:9-10 NIV

"Remember your Creator in the days of your youth..." Ecclesiastes 12:1

Answer 4

wow u need to tell them how you feel