What should I do if my sons do not want to go to school? One of them has learning disability the other doesn't

Question

I have twin sons M & R. M has learning disability and adhd. R is performing quite well, but when I partially home school M, he's been complaining why M can stay at home while he has to go to school. R started to do naughty things that usually cause him to be suspended. He says, he learns more at home and that he gets bored. I am really scared of home schooling both of them. Here in the Philippines, home schooling is still not widely accepted and I may not be able to fully help them.

Please give me advice. Thank you

Answer 1

Against his wishes, we enrolled our son in public school for kindergarten.  We had considered homeschooling, but due to family and public opinion, we went with the norm.  He was so miserable.  The poor little guy would cry all the way the bus.  Then he'd tuck in his little chin and off he'd go. I'd cry all the way back from the bus.   When he'd come home (tired, hungry and angry), he'd go off to his room.  He was bored, lonely, sad and scared.  In his own words, he felt pushed out.  I was miserable because he was miserable.  His little sisters were miserable without him.  We pulled him out just before Christmas, after a bulling incident.  He was ecstatic.  We've been homeschooling ever since.  By the end of his grade one year, he was reading at an almost grade three level and doing grade two/three math.  His sister was reading by the end of her kindergarten year and doing grade one math.  The little one is two and a half and can identify her letters and numbers.  More importantly, they're all happy, safe, healthy, interested, stimulated, cared for and together.  I hope you go for it.  I wouldn't want to be the little one who has to leave the home.  Don't worry about schooling more than one at a time.  Once you get into the swing of it, it all falls into place.  We use a program called Sonlight.  We really like it.  It's very rich in literature and all of the schedules are provided.  Here's a link to their site:

http://www.sonlight.com/

I hope this helps.  I wish you the best.  I hope you go for it.

Answer 2

Your children may be too smart for regular school. There are 160 days in the school year which means that two children could be homeschooled in 365 days. I wouldn't worry about not being able to fully help them. School is usually so ineffective that you will provide a lot more help. You can always trade off with another mother.

Answer 3

I would homeschool them both.  Here's some general information about homeschooling and it's benefits:

http://www.successful-homeschooling.com/...

Here's an organization that deals specifically with Asia:

http://www.teach-asia.com/

Good luck!

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You have children begging to home school, I think you have your answer already.  I had one that hated school and one that really liked it. I took them both out  of public school 2 years ago and they both love homeschool!

Don't get me wrong, it is not easy and I am not a very organized or motivated Mom. I do think the rewards out weigh the difficulties. I feel my kids learn more and in a better enviroment. I research info all the time on curriculums and ways to do all kinds of things.

You could always try it and see if it works out for you.

My hubby wanted me to home school from the beggining but I didn't think I could do it....now here I am, really glad I did!!

Since you have the internet all kinds of resourses are literally at your fingertips!

Best of luck and feel free to contact me if I can help you any!!!

Answer 6

I think M will flourish at home and R will have to be homeschooled also.   You can always give R a trial period of learning at home.  Thanks to the inter-net you can have help and support from all over the world.    Yes, it can be hard and it is definitely  a commitment, but you can do this.  You care about your sons and want the best for them and it sounds like neither of them are benefiting from the regular school experience.   Sometimes we send our children to school because "we're supposed to" and "they know best what our children need".  But you know, many, many children are damaged by that philosophy.    Every time I get discouraged I remember the damage done to  my public schooled children and know that my homeschooled children are getting a far better education without the trauma of going to school.

Answer 7

I think you have your answer based on your children's behavior and motivation.  Following is some information on homeschooling in the Philippines:

http://www.gov.ph/forum/thread.asp?rootI...

You are homeschooling one son, and you may find it easier to homeschool  both of them.  I homeschool an only child, and sometimes I think it would be easier if he had a "sibling classmate."

Look online for support and also find out if there is a support group or another homeschooling family near you.