What should I do in this situation..?

Question

Alright. this is basically going to be long... Anyways. I'm a 14 year old girl. But honestly i'm 17 or 18 at heart... 2 months ago i met up with this guy 2 years older then me.. I started talking to him again because he used to go to my old school. So we got together over and over again. Next thing i know it's like we are boyfriend and girlfriend, but it was never official that we were "together". So he goes off to Flordia and I go to my cottage, I come back. I find out hes going out with his ex. So we talk.. he dumps her again cause he so apparently liked me. So 2 weeks later im off to my cottage again.. and it happens again. sohe apologizes and so everything is alright again.. yes complicated i know.. another few weeks later.. This happens and he tells me he just wants to stop seeing me and get with his "S****y" ex . So i move on.. just forgetting the whole situation and avoiding everything to not speak to him. Next thing i know. Hiis girlfriend cheated on him and he starts talking to me again..

I don't know what to do.

I feel as if hes just in it for "action" of which im no s**t to just give myself away..

but i feel as if i do like this guy.. and i want to believe the best into him..

What should i think, and do.

Please help ;l

I got too many other things to deal with for now in life. i just need some Proper advice from people that don't know myself or him.. that will speak there point of view.

Thanks

Answer 1

I think you have answered the question yourself in your first line.  You are 14 years old.  You have HEAPs of time, but not so much time that you want to waste it being treated like that.

Don't be so quick to get into intense exclusive relationships.  Relax and go out with a lot of different boys to find out what you really do and don't like.  Don't get into the deep water until you have dabbled a bit more.  Seriously.  At 14 we all thought we knew it all and we were so mature, but in retrospect there are a lot of us who are so relieved and blessed that we didn't end up with the guys we were keen on when we were 14.  Your tastes will change as your interests and your life plans change and evolve.  Relationships at 14 don't have to be complicated if you don't want them to be.  If there is so much drama in a relationship, particularly at a time in your life when you should be enjoying yourself, studying and growing as a person, then that relationship might not be the best thing for you.

We all want to believe the best in people, and that is a commendable part of your character, but you can't let this belief in the best override the bits you'd rather not see. A great indicator of his future actions are his past actions.  Time to move on.  You can still be friends with him but be strong and tell him it is friendship only.  He is still very young himself.  Here is the thing:  boys (and later men) will treat you how you let them treat you.  Demand respect and don't ever lower yourself.  Treat yourself with respect. Stand your ground but be gracious doing it.

I don't think it is fair to call his ex "S****y" either just because she is going out with him.  You don't know what he has or hasn't told her about you, and for all you know he could be spinning her stories about you too.  Maybe you are both in the same boat.  

Answer 2

wow definitely dont go back with him. hes using you for that s**z.

same thing happen to me accept he wasnt going back and fourth i just realized i was being used. dont go back sweetie. he obviously is caught up on his ex your just the rebound guys are a******s sometimes

hang in there and move on

you'll find some one

hope i helped=]

Answer 3

"Anyways. I'm a 14 year old girl. But honestly i'm 17 or 18 at heart"

it's funny how you like to think that.

the truth is, he wants to hit it. he's playing you.

you do not know wanything about guys. at. all.

a 14 year old shouldn't be dating yet anyways.

wait untill you grow up.

Answer 4

he's just using you honey. don't be his tool that he can come back too when things get tough for him.  you deserve someone better.

Answer 5

Hun, I know I might sound like your mother, but heres what I think:

First of all, You are too young to be seriously dating, you should get your life and yourself figured out before getting into a relationship. Trust me, You'll only get hurt.

Second, IT IS SO OBVIOUS THAT HE IS A JERK!!!!! YOU DON'T TRUST SOMEONE LIKE THAT! HE IS USING YOU AND YOU ARE BEING STUPID! You are worth so much more than that. It is really easy to have a crush on a jerk, But it doesn't mean you have to act on it. respect yourself girlie.

Answer 6

clearly he is using u, dont fall for it!  

Answer 7

Honestly, if this has been going on for so long, at this point, the best thing for you is to forget about him. There are definitely more honest and loyal guys out there.

Answer 8

Girl he is a heartbreaker. You're too young to be held down by someone who thinks he can toss around your emotions and you will always forgive him. There is someone out there better for you. He's not worth the stress. Move on and tell him your through. It's gonna hurt at first, but in the long run you will be so glad you don't have to deal with his shiet anymore!

good luck doll!

Answer 9

Dump his no good ***!

Answer 10

Back and forth, again and again  you don't need this stupidity at any age. Forget him.He just wants to keep the door swinging in his direction so nobody else can get thru.

Answer 11

Move on and meet people who truly enjoy being with you. Sounds like this one is a "fair weather" friend - someone who just wants you around when he feels lonely. You are filling the gap so he doesn't have to be alone.  

Answer 12

Please don't put up with this abusive behavior!

He's playing you and you're right...you have more important things in life to deal with than putting up with this loser.

Good luck showing him the door...you deserve better :)

Answer 13

trust has little place in young relationships

Answer 14

well i personally don't think you should stick with this guy.

although everyone wants to believe the best in everyone, sometimes you just can;t

he's just looking for anyone.

forget about him.

he's only talking to you when he chooses to.

move on.

there are way better guys out there.

and trust me, even though i know it's so cliche

Answer 15

Well, it sounds like he is confused about what he wants, and about who he wants to be with.  

I doubt he's trying to hurt you or confuse you intentionally -- but nonetheless, that is what he's doing.  

He's got you on an emotional roller-coaster right now, and if I were you, I would want to get off.

And, if I were you, I would basically tell him that he's done enough flip-flopping between her and you.   Tell him it's time to make a decision -- her or you.  

Because, although I'm sure he's not doing it on purpose, he doesn't have the right to go back and forth with you while he's trying to decide who to be with.  

Sooner or later, he has to be a man and either step up to the plate, or go have a seat on the bench.

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Answer 16

Dumb this guy!  He's s jerk and a loser!

Answer 17

Dump the guy! He cheats on you, doesn't give you respect, he tells you he will, but he doesn't follow through with his promises. He is just giving you a bad time. Sure you will cry, but don't let him do this to you!

Answer 18

look girl if that has cheated on you multiple times he abviously doesnt love you its a waste of your time to even worry about him he in it for s*x i can almost promise im a guy myself and if been in that position he is before i changed and trust me thats all he wants from u

Answer 19

forget him!!

this guy is definitely a jerk, he's just using you till he can get something better

Answer 20

Here it is..You are 14 no matter how old you feel. This is a fact. I know you might not want to hear this, but its important to keep your mind on things that bring you happiness and joy and not on things that suck..Are ya feelin me? He is definitely looking to take advantage of you period end of story.  Trust your intuition.  If what you are doing feels bad, then you probably shouldn't do it.  If it feels good, then that is the path that you should take.  Remember, even if you fall you can always get back up and change your mind.  You are more powerful than you think.  

Answer 21

Don't get back together with him. He also has the potential to become abusive, so stay away.

Answer 22

Don't date him, move on if he liked you then he would not be doing this. Sorry but i would tell him to leave.

Answer 23

i think hes trying to take advantage of you. and if he kept leaving you for the s**t then let him feel like c**p now that she left him. you arent a toy that he can just play with when he has nothing else.. girl- please! you are worth so much more than his stupid ***. good luck!

Answer 24

okay heres what i think . your a girl and u liked a guy . he acted stupid with u .going back and worth from girl to girl means he has  got no respect at all . if he looking for some ASSS then tell him to get lost. be a classic girl and dump him and move on . i knw love is blind but what garantee do u have tht he wont do this to u again and again , seriously he wants s*x and ur to young 4 tht plus thts like u gona let him use u , find some1 tht respects u and loves u , not no1 else

Answer 25

just get him laid

Answer 26

get away from him, obviously he's just interested in hooking up

Answer 27

I think you shouldn't go out with him. He's obviously using you as a back-up just because his ex cheated on him. Even if he liked you, he just doesn't like you enough to respect you properly.

Answer 28

Forget him if he keeps going back to his ex!

he must like you both but its just maybe to hard for him to choose

Answer 29

He's using you, drop him like a bad habit.

Answer 30

dont go back to him

he's a w***e, dont put yourself in that situation... "again" in your terms

Answer 31

So I was in the same situation 3 month ago. And I decided to let him go and go on with my life. Since I was "betrayed" by him before why not again? And in my point of view I did the best thing.

But for you, I would tell you to do the same and just let him go. But I cant decide for you.

Hope I helped : ]