What should I do? moms help please!?

Question

I have a almost 4 moths old baby girl. She doesn't like the car seat. As soon as put her on the car seat she starts crying none stop.. I can't go anywhere alone with her. If I'm in the back with her she is fine, but if she is by her self. She starting crying. One day I let her cried and she starting vomiting, and I got really scared.. What should I do ? Any ideas please?

Answer 1

be-sure to check over the car set to make sure it is fine and fitting her properly.     you could start by putting her in car-set at home a few moments at a time,    Then take her on short drives a few blocks to start with and  have a new bright color toy that she can only have in the car. play some soft comfortable music.  

be-sure to stay calm  

Answer 2

ok at 4 months (depending on her weight ) she still might face the back seat she probably doesn't like the feeling of being alone and when she can see you shes okay...well this might be resolved when you turn the car seat around...but until then you could bye a cheap mirror and hang it on the actual cars seat maybe when she can see you shell fell better other than that i'm really not sure

Answer 3

toys for the car seat.  How about a mirror in the back seat.  Fisher Price makes a cute rainforest one with lights and music and it has a remote so that you can turn it on from the front seat

Answer 4

Is it maybe because she cant see you since you said if you're in the  back there she doesn't cry?  Have you tried when you put her in the back using a mirror made out of some type of safe material that you can put up some how that wont block your vision but she can see you? I know they make mirrors for babies that are not made out of glass that would be safe. It would probably help you too since when safe to check her (like at a stop light) you could use your rear-view mirror to check on her by able to she her in the mirror too and your mind would be more on driving. There is nothing more distracting then a crying baby or worse yet if they choke or suddenly stop...which is not safe for either one of you

Other then that all i can say is babies go through different stages fast so if that doesn't work then be glad to know that she will probably out grow it soon though i know that doesn't help now. Good luck and congratulations...babies are the wonderful and grow up so fast. So though this seems hard now each stage will bring a new concern but you will be do fine

And don't listen to some...you can not spoil a 4 month old baby. They do not understand how to manipulate us at that age. They want food, kept dry and lots of love & comfort.

Answer 5

Baby mirrors for the car are not breakable - babies love them, give it a try. If you start sitting in back with her, you will continue. Don't let the baby control you. I think it is awful that the parents are separated by a baby, it will only get more divided as they get older. Try to work it out now to get her adjusted to being alone in the back seat. Keep trying options until you find the right one.

Answer 6

Toys.  

She's also learned that her crying will control you, so use toys and such to distract her from trying to control you.

Answer 7

Do you have the mirror so you can see each other? They make a mirror that is for rear facing seats, it will help because she can see where you are. It does not take them long to learn where to look. They sell  them at Wal-Mart type places. Good luck.

Answer 8

They make safety mirrors just for this purpose.  I had one like this, and he still gets carsick at age 11.  I just didn't go anywhere when I couldn't sit with him, and if I had to go to the store, etc..  I tried to time it for when my hubby was home and I could leave the baby with him.  Alternately, you could ask a friend to go with you, or hire a teenager to sit in back with her.

Another thing that I think helped was to find a blanket or toy that really comforted them, and give it to them in the car seat.  A blanket that you sleep with for a few days will smell like you and be soft and warm and comforting.  I never fed mine in the car because I knew someone whose baby choked to death that way and I thought I would die if that happened to me.

Answer 9

If she was older I'd say you've spoiled her and she acts that way because you let her get away with it.  But seeing as she's only 4 months old that makes it a bit more difficult... you should have her checked out by your doc.

Answer 10

Try putting a mirror so she can see herself.  Also, maybe try some distracting toys that will keep her even remotely entertained while you drive.  This, too, shall pass.

Answer 11

Well I'm not a mother, but I am a father and I think we've done well with our two year-old daughter in her behaviour.

The best thing is to persavier with her, don't make too much fuss, babies are allowed to scream the house down, it can drive you nuts but in the end she'll get tired. Spoil her with a crisp, or a bit of fruit or whatever she eats when she's sitting in her carseat. Or maybe try her in the front seat for a little while to let her get used to the seat first? That's if of course you don't have a passanger air-bag.

Answer 12

OK don't listen to tracey cuz if you get a mirror, you run the risk of it falling and smashing broken glass all over the baby. Check the carseat, under the padding is there something poking her perhaps??? Check it out....but how often is she in her carseat? If she is in the carseat often it may be toomuch for her, and she may not be getting enough interaction, try to keep traveling in the carseat to a minimum.

OMG don't listen to the guy that tells you to give your baby a crisp piece of fruit in the f'n carseat, you can't see your baby and the baby is only 4 months old, the baby shouldn't be eating in the carseat at all your baby could CHOKE, and no eating unless you can fully supervise her.

Answer 13

I have 2 grandsons who are like that and have been like that at since they were 4 months old as well they are both now 9 months.....my daughter in laws sit in the back with them as well....they get laughed at and teased when they leave family gatherings because the family dog sits in the front seat while mom sits in back with son it is too cute.....so you may try taking someone with you each time to sit in back with her or have someone watch her while you go alone.....sitting in back with my grandsons works out great.

Answer 14

try hanging sum toys from the handle of the carseat especially ones that make noise wen they move.