What should I do - my baby name was stolen?

Question

In May 2007, I was pregnant and attending a wedding. There was another girl there that was also pregnant, her husband was friend's (well, friend of friend) with my partner. We were discussing baby names and I told her that if we have a boy he'll be Lewis and if a girl she be called Amber, she then told me that she had no idea what she would call her baby and hadn't thought of anything. Anyway, I unfortunately miscarried that pregnancy. I found out this year that they had a baby girl and called her Amber!! I was pretty angry about it, but convinced myself I didn't like the name anymore. I am now 21 weeks along with a baby girl....and I am devastated that she stole the name. I don't think my partner is too keen on calling her Amber now because of his friend's friend (they never speak to each other, but they will cross paths from time to time I guess). I can't think of any other names I like, I just wanted my daughter to be called Amber. What should I do? Should I still push for the name, or is it tainted?

Answer 1

Bummer...........that stinks when that happens.  I would say go for it; considering you rarely see these friends and the babies age will be different.  Maybe your man will come around. GL>>>>

Idea to ponder.....similar name

Ambrea

Answer 2

wow.. thats tough.  i had a little boy and wanted to name him Dylan.  i had always liked that name... anyway.. we moved before i had him and the neighbors son's name is Dylan.  it ruined it for me and i didnt feel right naming him that anymore.  I guess it really shouldnt matter.  Shame on your friend for stealing your name.  she should have picked something different.  maybe she thought since you lost the first one it would be okay. maybe you can confront her about it?  i like Megan for a girl.  is there anyway you can make the middle name amber?

Answer 3

If you like it use it anyway.  If your partner doesn't, I wouldn't push for it.

Answer 4

call her amber! There is almost always someone who will have the same name as you.  

Answer 5

If you want the name Amber you will have the name Amber! I will give you some more ideas if you're still a little iffy.



Amber

Amy

Aubrey

Emma

Hailey

Lyndsey

Meagan

Answer 6

This is exactly why people should never tell anyone what they plan to name their baby.  Same thing happened to my Mom.  She was planning to name my sister Margo.  Her friend was also pregnant at the same time.  And had her baby before my Mom.  Ended up naming her Margo.  So my sister got named my Mom's second pick, which was Jude.  (Yeah.  Like Jude Law!!  Ha!!)

I would say, if you aren't close friends with these people, WHO CARES?  In a couple of years, you probably won't even see them anymore and it totally won't matter.  So go ahead, name her Amber.  Or name her Amber, pick a cute middle name, like "Leigh" and call her "Amber Leigh" not just Amber.

There too, you have quite a ways to go.  Perhaps you will find another name you like even more by then.  But if you do, DON'T TELL ANYONE UNTIL THE INK IS DRY ON THE BIRTH CERTIFICATE!!

Answer 7

I would name your little girl Amber anyway. A friend of a friend named their daughter that, it's not like you have a brother or sister that named their daughter that. If he really doesn't wanna use Amber, what about Amberly or Amberle? Same name, but with a little twist?  

Answer 8

lots of people have the name amber its not really a big thing at all you are over thinking it way 2 much

Answer 9

Just name it Amber who cares.

Answer 10

What about a form of Amber? Like Amberly? Or a name that means Amber?

Ambra - means Amber colored

Electra - means Amber

Honestly there really isn't anything you can do. But I guess you've learned your lesson to not tell people your names. If you like Amber just use it. Who cares if it's that kid's name. Her kid isn't going to be the last Amber in the world, nor was she the first.

Answer 11

Name your baby whatever you want and don't worry about the other couple.  Plus it is not like you guys are close to the other couple and see them regularly.  It was your name first... good luck and congrats!

Answer 12

She had as much right to that name as you did. You don't own the name. And seeing that you only found out about it, you must not be that close. Either name your daughter Amber, anyways, as planned. Or find another name.

Answer 13

I think it's ridiculous to say someone stole a name... no one "owns" a name.

If you like the name use it.

Answer 14

Are you kidding me? If you like the name Amber..name your baby Amber, who cares what those people named their kid...you hardly ever see them!  BUT it is your Husbands baby too and if he doesn't like the name Amber find another.

Alexandra (Alexa,Lex,Lexie, Alex)

Arianna (Ari)

Aubrey   etc...etc...

Answer 15

There are a million Amber's out there, so if you love the name then use it.  If you feel weird about it then find a name that you can love just as much.  i can promise you that once that precious bundle gets here, you won't mind whatever name you've chosen.  I wasn't truly in love with my daughter's name, but my husband loved it.  Now, I can't imagine calling her any other name.  It was just meant for her.  Focus on the pregnancy and the baby, not the other couple who liked the same name as you and used it, too.  

Answer 16

I would just let it go. If you see this person a lot then I would find a new name but it seems like you don't so I don't think it is an issue.

Plus, Amber is a fairly common name so it not that unusual for two people in the same circle to like/use it.

If it was family, I would say don't use it but in this case, I think you should

Answer 17

Use it anyway! I would understand if it was a relative or really close friend, but it isn't. If you're not going to see them on a weekly basis, who cares? Amber is a beautiful name and I would push for it if I were you. Congrats on your pregnancy, btw.