What should I do? my boyfriend hate me because I'm interested in Islam?

Question

I love my boyfriend very much even thought he doesn't love me anymore just because I interested in Islam religion, culture, clothing and countries................Do you think what should I do? when he closes the telephone all the time, because he hate me that I'm now the "muallaf". anyway its terrible, I couldn't think of any words right now to describe or explain to you about the reaction of the people arounding me? after I wanna be the muslim? .............my boyfriend closing his telephone all the time and last time he said to me. " I do not love you and I do not miss you anymore."....................my sister said that "you are weir" when I opening the Islam songs.................my mother asked me to go to listen to the islam songs privacy and said that the songs sounded weir and nerve. why everyone treating me like this?

P.S I'm just graduated, my boyfriend always wanted me to get the job and I couldn't find the job easily, but the muslim people accepted me to work with their oraganize. but why people in my family don't want me to work with the muslim? why do they have to hate the muslim that much?..............what should I do?

this is the seriously question.

Answer 1

Sounds bad, I suppose you could try to talk some sense into them.  You could wave the white flag and see if you can get your boy friend back.  I don't know...

Answer 2

dump him - easy

Answer 3

If this really is serious all I can tell you is God can heal you from that.

Answer 4

Even tho I do not believe in Islam I believe it is pretty closed minded and controlling to use your affection for him to treat you so callously.Perhaps this is just the beginning of his closed mind  find someone else it may hurt at first but it will hurt worse to have the very core of your individuality trashed.whether you are right or wrong respecting and loving you in either case is what love is you deserve better I actully have a guy turn off the T.V. when I was watching a documentry on black people history in the film industry .He is so out of my life now .If you choose to embrace the Muslim way is not the issue freedom to explore what you wish is

Answer 5

FIND JESUS INSTEAD...

Answer 6

Salam.

It's not easy for your family to accept fast, because they don't know the real meaning of Islam.

But they still ur family stay close to them. Show them how Islam tells you to treat your family, and specially parents.

Trusu ALLAH, and after each prayer ask him for help and to forgive your family.

Soon enough they will accepted and discover that you where rigth.

About your boyfriend : " MY OPINION IS THAT THE PARTENER MUST ACCEPT US FOR WHO WE ARE AND NOT FOR WHAT THEY WANT".

RAMADAN IS COMING AND ITS THE MONTH OF MERCINESS( YOU JUST MADE IT IN THE BEST TIME OF THE YEAR ( IF YOU ASK HIM PURE-HEART HE WILL LISTEN TO YOU AND ANSWER YOUR QUESTIONS)..

TRUST ME ON THIS ( IN THE NIGTH OF THE 18TH DAY OF RAMADAN AND AFTER YOU PRAY THE FIFTH PRAYER SAY " SALAMU ALAYKA YA AMIR AL-MUUMININE".

Answer 7

If a non-Muslim believes that Islam is a merciless religion with something to do with terrorism; a religion which does not give rights to women; a religion which contradicts science; in his limited sense that non-Muslim is correct to reject such Islam. The problem is he has a wrong picture of Islam. Even I reject such a false picture of Islam, but at the same time, it becomes my duty as a Muslim to present the correct picture of Islam to that non-Muslim i.e. Islam is a merciful religion, it gives equal rights to the women, it is not incompatible with logic, reason and science; if I present the correct facts about Islam, that non-Muslim may Inshallah accept Islam.

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1.   Media maligns Islam

   1. Islam is without doubt the best religion but the media is in the hands of the westerners who are afraid of Islam. The media is continuously broadcasting and printing information against Islam. They either provide misinformation about Islam, misquote Islam or project a point out of proportion, if any.

   2. When any bomb blasts take place anywhere, the first people to be accused without proof are invariably the Muslims. This appears as headlines in the news. Later, when they find that non-Muslims were responsible, it appears as an insignificant news’ item.

   3. If a 50 year old Muslim marries a 15 year old girl after taking her permission, it appears on the front page but when a 50 year old non-Muslim rapes a 6 year old girl, it may appear in the news in the inside pages as ‘Newsbriefs’. Everyday in America on an average 2,713 cases of rape take place but it doesn’t appear in the news, since it has become a way of life for the Americans.

2.   Black sheep in every community:

I am aware that there are some Muslims who are dishonest, unreliable, who cheat, etc. but the media projects this as though only Muslims are involved in such activities. There are black sheep in every community. I know Muslims who are alcoholics and who can drink most of the non-Muslims under the table.

Islam is embraced by so many humans in all centuries because it is the Truth and it provides practical and comprehensive solutions to problems of humankind. Islam not only teaches good things but also shows practical ways of achieving that state of goodness.



Your surprise regarding many people embracing Islam is justified. Today, though Islam happens to be the fastest growing religion in the world, it also happens to be the religion about which people have maximum number of misconceptions. This is largely because of the virulent propaganda by the media about Islam.



A Christian surveyor, Professor Edward reported in the Time Magazine of April 16, 1979 that in a span of 150 years, from 1800 CE to 1950 CE “over 60,000 books have been written against Islam by the Christian West.”  Now, it is questionable, who has initiated, nurtured and collected the hatred which you have referred to, the Muslims or the Christian West?



Many are surprised that despite such propaganda being made against Islam, it still happens to be the fastest growing religion in today’s times. It is so, on the merits of its superior and noble teachings. Says Allah swt in the Glorious Qur'an:



“They (the non-Muslim enemies and critics of Islam) plot and plan, and Allah too plans; but the best of planners is Allah”.

(Al-Qur'an 8:30)

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Answer 8

Before you decide to convert to Islam, you need to read the book Infidel by Ayaan Hirsi Ali.  Have your boyfriend read it, too.  

Then you should both read Why I Am Not A Muslim by Ibn Warraq.

Then proceed if you still want to.

Answer 9

I'm so sorry you are being treated this way. All I can say and do is to pray for you.  Jesus Christ is the way, the truth, and the life. No man(or woman) can come to the Father except through Me. Father God is waiting for you to have a close, personal relationship with Him, He sent His one and ONLY son to sacrifice His life on the cross to open the doors of heaven to you and me.  Your "family" love you and are concerned. Unfortunately they are not showing you The Father's love in doing this. The church really needs to get a hold of this. Bottom line is your going down the wrong road.  Science is proving The Bible to be true more and more all the time. Check out sources below before it's too late . May The Lord bless you and open your eyes.

Answer 10

     If you really have converted to Islam, there is no room for an extra marital relationship any way. Muslims can love only their duly married spouses. Period.

    Every Muslim has to undergo a test of reliance. If Islam is dear to me, I will render any sacrifice to get to it. But only if it looks different or Muslims have better moral characters , then I have only came   to mere appreciation of facts.

   For example, everybody entering the market does not automatically becomes a shopper. In order to shop, he/she needs to have money and  a will to part with it for the things he/she wants to purchase. If either is lacking he/she is not a buyer.

  Similarly in order to become a Muslim one has to often  render great sacrifices. Look at  the companions of holy Prophet. They underwent serious trials. They were beaten up, were boycotted socially and put to physical torture to pressurize them to revert to their old religion. But they withstood all the torments to become true believers in Allah and His beloved prophet. But once having decided to accept Islam, no power on earth could shake their belief in Allah  SWT.

So sister, show resilience and character by sticking to your Belief. Belive me, no sacrifice is too great to get true faith in Allah. Once God Almighty has tested your will, He will help you all the way to success, in this world and in the hereinafter. He will give your favorite friend back to you as your spouse or will give a better person than him.

                                       Muhammad Javed Iqbal

Answer 11

It is not fitting for a man that Allah should speak to him except by inspiration of from behind a veil or by the sending of a Messenger to reveal with Allah's permission what Allah wills: for He is Most High Most Wise. And thus have We by Our command sent inspiration to thee: thou knowest not (before) what was Revelation and what was Faith; but We have made the (Qur'an) a Light wherewith We guide such of Our servants as We will; and verily thou dost guide (men) to the Straight Way  The Way of Allah to whom belongs whatever is in the heavens and whatever is on earth: Behold (how) all affairs tend towards Allah!

----- 42:51-53

Answer 12

maybe you need to learn what it is to be a Muslim woman.

maybe if he knew he could have more then one Wife if you where Muslim.

maybe then he would want to have you as one of his wifes