What should I do now? Please help...

Question

[ Forgive me for asking this question once again]

Coming straight... I was in love with this girl of my class. Not just a small crush but kinda Head over Heels! I loved her a lot and still does. Simply putting I worship her.

Problem?? First of all I never spoke to her. I had a very long bout of Nervous Breakdown. Because of Which i was not able to speak freely even with guys, let alone her. To prevent myself from been seen awkward, i did not make a move of approaching her.

Still your eyes tell what is in your mind. so did mine. Somehow she could know that that i'm seriously interested in her.

I donno if she loved me. May be yes or may be no. I can say , however, she did't dislike me.Dispite my obsessive stares she never frowned, appears she even appreciated them. Sometimes she smiled too. But could not know if they were a sign of her friendliness or her wish to know me better.

You may say I should have approached her. Let me repeat I was in Nervous breakdown. If you know what it means being in a breakdown, even you'll agree, 'being a man' comes only second.

ALL THIS HAPPENED AN YEAR BACK. She is no more at the college. Myself? ya i'm quite good in health and Out of Break down. Every thing is good except her loss.

Still today I'm loving her so much.

So whats the problem? The problem is...she is a married girl. Not just now even while she was at college. I always knew that, but could not prevent myself from falling for her. Innocent,commpassionate and soft natured she is so much like me after all.

I always believed that loving a married girl is not wrong although desiring her could be disastrous.

What can I do now? I don't have any of her contact details except her Husband's mobile number.

Shall I approach her Husband, sincerely as a friend and know of their relationship? Ofcourse if they are in a good relation i should even curse myself for seeing her? But the case the could redefine my life is 'If they are not'.

Dear friends please tell me what can i do now?

All that i could not understand if i am madly in love or turned mad by love.

Answer 1

Back off right now.  She is taken.  Period.

Answer 2

jus forget her..u have no right to ruin her married life..what if u approach her husband and he doubts a relation bw u and her..tis not gud..try to forget her

Answer 3

It is not correct to follow or spoil a married woman.

Answer 4

my advices to u is leav her..becous u love her u vll make her life h**l??..datz nt gud man..think wt vll happen when dis all vll b known to her parents n her family 2...dnt b selfish...

Answer 5

That was a long story and the essence of your story is that you are in love with a married woman. so the suggestion is "LEAVE HER ALONE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE".  Find someone else to fall in love with and go heads over heals again. Do not attempt such thing as "calling the husband to find out his relationship with his wife", you will end up ruining her life forever. may be she just appreciated as a person in college, now she will hate you for a life time. I say u retire of being a good acquaintance rather than ending up as a bad experience., SHE IS MARRIED AND HAPPY,  LEAVE HER ALONE if you have any respect for her.  

Answer 6

You need to take a break from all this misery and focus on yourself. Why did you originally have the break down? What have you learned since then about you? This woman is spoken for and it is not fair of you to step on toes. It is so hard to be in love with someone whom cannot love you back...you must let her go. If you really love her you will. You have to be strong and get healthy for yourself and then find love. Good luck to you.

Answer 7

this is not love but obsession and you need to do whatever is necessary to get over it

Answer 8

Listen, you really need to forget her, i know this is not what you want to hear, she is married, forget her husbands mobile number delete it.  You really really need to move on with your life.  You have to look at it this way, she is not in your fate, she belongs to someone else..

You are runining your life over her, you are a lovely person with a gentle heart, but you must try to forget her, its not doing you any good.  Try and go out with friends, keep yourself busy, there is one beautiful lady who is waiting for you, she will be yours and only yours. If you try to keep in contact with this married woman, your life will not be worth anything. You have a whole life ahead of you, stop spending it over this married women, and is she thinking of you? no, she isn't.. Is she waiting for you? no, she isn't, she has a man in her life, maybe she fancied you but thats it.  

I do feel for you, think about your life, you have put your life at an end over this woman, let me tell you stop wasting your life, and move on..

If you find other interests and hobbies, believe me, life will get easier, and you will not feel unhappy.. it will take time, take one step at a time.  I wish you luck for the future...  Take care

If you look at your name, i think deep down inside you know it is wrong, and you do feel stupid for what you are going through..

Answer 9

Dear friends don't be mad,be calm and quite.Think threetimes from both side then disscison your self.don't share this matter with your friends.If you don't mind my susetion for get him.I no it's so dificult

but it possibul.