What should I do now after my best friend and I had s*x?

Question

Me and my best friend which is a girl were hanging out at her house one night and we decided to drink a lil. After a few drinks one thing let to another and we ended up making love , During which we expressed our undying Love for each other (she new I loved her before but she just wanted to be friends). The night was magical and I thought all my dreams and prayers came true. Then when mourning came she said it was a mistake and did not meant it when she said she loves me broke down crying. Later she says for me to give her space.I don't know what to do I love her with all my heart now. I confronted her and told her it wasent a mistake and that I loved her but her response was still the same. its been three days since we talked and I feel weak without her because even though I love her we see each other every day. I need to know what to do in this situation. What will happen to us? Will our Friendship be the same? Will she develop feelings for me? What should I do?I confronted her that same mourning and told her it wasent a mistake. But her respone was still the same. We let our feelings out and then thats when she told me she needs some space. Should I wait for her to call me? or should I call in a few days when she hasent called back? will she forget about me?

Also she said that she screwed up and when I told her she didnt she said and I quote " h**l yeah I screwd up, I slept with you. . .you enjoyed it. I dont even want to think about it" and that part that she says "I slept with you...and you enjoyed it" uhhh. . . what kind of respose was that? I wasent supose to enjoy it? lol can someone explaine to me that? I dont want to ask her cuz am not trying to press the issue.

Oh just to let evryone know I was drunk too and I didnt know what I was doing as well. I only remeber bits and parts. . .but it was the best parts lol

Also she said and I quote "Even though I dont remeber what happend (Thank God) I want some time alone" When she said thank god what did she mean? Does she hate the idea so much that she treats me like I have the pleauge? She had s*x with another best friend (girl) and she didnt act like this!!! Why is she acting like EW EW EW? She didnt act that way when she got tipsy and slept with another guy

Answer 1

How unfortunate that this has happened.

Best friends don't always make good lovers.  Part of the reason you're able to be best friends is because there was no physical side to your relationship.  s*x always takes things to a different level.  As soon as you have s*x, the boundaries have been crossed and the rules change.

So many best friends think they would be good lovers.......and they have s*x and it's all peachy for awhile and then that relationship ends.  The sad part is, not only do you end up losing a lover, but you end up losing your best friend too because it's impossible to return things to the way they were before you had s*x.  

Love between best friends is a totally different kind of love than the love between lovers.

You need to give her some time to come to terms with what has happened.....but don't be surprised if it never gets back the way it was.

I've had my best male friend for over 30 years.  We love each other, there's nothing we wouldn't do for each other and have always been there for each other.  My late husband and his ex wife and current wife all approved of our relationship because they knew from when we were young and single that we would never cross the boundaries of our friendship.  He's like a brother to me.  If she thinks of you like a brother, that's why she's acting like EW EW EW.