What should I do now that my sexual frustration has turned into depression?

Question

I am 21 and I have been with my current girlfriend for nearly two years, but our s*x life is really... non-existant. She is an inexperienced girl and really doesn't know much about anything sexually, at all. I don't know if she cares to know, either. Engaging in these activities with her is sometimes awkward because she never really gets into it or seems to enjoy it. I never thought sexual activities with a beautiful girl could be a bad experience, but it can be. I have been faithful to her the whole time however this sexual frustration has led to depression. I love her with all of my heart, she is beautiful and she is so sweet and amazing to me but I really don't know what to do. My friends are out downtown or out meeting beautiful girls every weekend and I get very jealous... I feel like I'm watching my sexual peak go out the window. What should I do?

Answer 1

You need to talk to your girlfriend and let her know what you are feeling. She might be alittle upset but she would rather know what you are feeling then you stray. And your sexual peak will still be with you for along time.

Answer 2

I know how you feel! First of all, you need to try talking to her because s*x is a MAJOR part of a relationship. I don't know how it would really work without it (if it's a serious relationship). If it doesn't get sorted out your just going to get more and more annoyed and the risk of you cheating will get higher you might not think so now, but once your extremely annoyed very horny and she will not give it to you trust me your mind will start wondering. For the sake of your relationship you need to ask her what the problem is.  

Answer 3

I think that you need to figure out what she likes, just climbing on top (not sure if that's how it goes) but that may not be what she's into. Try to figure out what appeals to her. Good Luck & be patient

Answer 4

Try backing off from the actual sexual intercourse side of things for a while (I know this seems like the last thing you want to do) but really, her problem is as you describe, she's 'uneducated', inexperienced and probably still extremely nervous - because she doesn't know what she or you are doing .....

so, try spending more time in just going to sexual arousal only - good old fashing kissing and caressing!  both of your close your eyes, don't say a word and just spend time touching each other, concentrate on the feel of things, a hand, hair, lips, ears, back of the neck, skin, heat, breath ..... believe me after one session (could be just one evening when that's all you two do) - she'll be more willing to follow this on with more 'adventure' until eventually she'll be able to relax and enjoy your sexual relations with each other .... I don't doubt you too would enjoy them more .....!

:+)

Answer 5

First off, communication is key in any relationship.  Does she know how you feel?  If you haven't expressed your frustration to her, don't expect her to know how you feel.  After sharing this with her, maybe you can buy a copy of the kama sutra or 1001 sexual positions or something like that to give her more ideas of what's possible.  Maybe this will inspire her.  Maybe by looking at the pictures of the positions she'll find some that she's really excited to try.  You can't fault her for her inexperience.  And good for you for remaining faithful!

Answer 6

Your sexual peak has nowhere near been approached! ! ! !

Believe me, it just gets better & better for the rest of your life! ! !

Focus on her arousal - without that you will never get anywhere.

Then focus on her satisfaction - without that you won't get far either.

Forget what your friends "appear" to be doing. They haven't got the girl you want. (and not all may be as it seems with them either).

Look upon this situation as a sort of crusade - you love her, you want a happy, full relationship with her. Learn all you can by researching techniques and understanding sexual behaviour.

With my very best wishes to you both. UK