What should I do..........?

Question

Well, I went to college today, and I met a few really nice people. I made friends with a few people. They're Christians. One Christian was asking me about Ramadan, and she said that she's gonna try it out because it sounds fun.

I have 2 q'

1) I really liked talking to this girl, but I know you can't take unbelievers to be friends. The girl in question isn't very religious. Is this friendship Islamically wrong? (I know about the rules regarding associating with non believers)

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Answer 1

salamun alaikum,

as the first answerer already stated, i think you've misinterpreted the ayah. Ofcourse you can take Christians and other non-Muslims as friends...if you can't take Christians and Jews as friends then how is it possible that Muslims can marry a Jewish or Christian woman?

i'm sure you'll understand much better by watching this video...its only three mins and it is a direct answer to your question.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EpsQaY5oH...

Answer 2

why not? maybe someday she would embrace Islam because of you, be nice to her and when she asks why, tell her because 'im Muslimah',,

Answer 3

You can be friends with Non-Muslims! Who said you can't?

You just shouldn't imitate them when they sin. I have lots of non-muslim friends. Its not haram.

Answer 4

We only cant be friends with jews and the haters. Its okay to be a friend with her.

Answer 5

Hi. I don't know if you'll be mad because I am in Ramadan but I often visit because it is one of the few places a non_Muslim in the west can hear from a number of different muslims freely expressing their opinions and ideas.

And I just wanted to say that a lovely girl from Saudi Arabia once told me that telling s friend who is not a Muslim about Islam is like a sacred task and that Allah regards you very well for doing it.

This is especially true during Eid. Obviously I do not know if there is a special rule about not doing it during Ramadan but others will tell you that.

I really value my new Muslim friend. I think we have taught each other many things. I want to have an Eid Feast with her family. She has invited me and my daughter.There is so much misunderstanding between people of different faiths. Some friendship is a thing we should all encourage, is it not?

Answer 6

Well, unless the girl is planning to wage a war against you (!!!) then why not be kind and just to her?

060.008 لا يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ لَمْ يُقَاتِلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَلَمْ يُخْرِجُوكُمْ مِنْ دِيَارِكُمْ أَنْ تَبَرُّوهُمْ وَتُقْسِطُوا إِلَيْهِمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُقْسِطِينَ

060.008 Allah forbids you not, with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just.

060.009 إِنَّمَا يَنْهَاكُمُ اللَّهُ عَنِ الَّذِينَ قَاتَلُوكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَأَخْرَجُوكُمْ مِنْ دِيَارِكُمْ وَظَاهَرُوا عَلَى إِخْرَاجِكُمْ أَنْ تَوَلَّوْهُمْ وَمَنْ يَتَوَلَّهُمْ فَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الظَّالِمُونَ

060.009 Allah only forbids you, with regard to those who fight you for (your) Faith, and drive you out of your homes, and support (others) in driving you out, from turning to them (for friendship and protection). It is such as turn to them (in these circumstances), that do wrong.

Al-Qur'an, 060.008-009 (Al-Mumtahina)

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Just be careful not to let anyone change your Islamic style to another (worse) style.

Answer 7

Instead of being her immediate friend, you should talk to her about Ramadan and what it's really all about.  It's not for fun.  It's something spiritual.  If she's not that religious, invite her to the mosque if you have a group iftar so she can explore a beautiful religion.  Good luck. Also, I have many Christian friends.  We respect each other's differences, but I don't choose friends based on religion.

Answer 8

NOOOO you can be friends with her, sis you have taken the ayah the wrong way, I don't have time to explain now since I am going to my cousins for Iftaari but Insha'Allah I will surely answer once I get back!

EDIT: I see many have given you correct answers please watch that vidoe!! :) xx

Answer 9

You cant take unbelievers as friends? How narrow minded and racist is that? I thought Muslims  were trying to integrate  with other faiths?

Answer 10

Not making friends with the unbelievers? That is absurd. Only radical Muslims believe that.

If Muslim men are allowed to marry non-Muslim women, and they must treat these women justly, with love, care, devotion, then how can one say it's wrong to make friendship with the non-believers?

A lot of non-Muslim who come into Islam are inspired by their Muslims (friends) characterisics, their ways, their beliefs. But if we're not even wiling to companionate with non-Muslims how do you think they will feel towards Muslimism, Islamism?

EDIT: Can I come to your house for Iftaari too? Love Biryani =p

EDIT: Depends what your definition of friendship is. If you're going to be so close to these people that it will deviate you from engaging in your Salah etc, or righteousness, and instead make you indulge in vain things which may make you lose your purpose in life, then you have a problem. So always choose your company wisely.

I personally always keep friendship to a minimal, a bit of a loner to be honest lol. I'm alone, but not lonely. Also keep your friends to a minimum - if you can count your friends on one hand, you've got good friends.

EDIT: Why do you spell Mum the American way, it's so g*y. Don't be such' an American!